Why Do Muslim Men Always Want Babies Right Away?

[MuslimahRo]

Assalam walaikum. My fiance mentioned having children some days ago and I told him that I am not really interested in having children. Then I said that maybe if he wants children. I also told him about the difficulties and responsibilities that go with having children. I told him how having children strained my relatives' marriages. I added that having children gets in the way of romance and a love life. That last one really scared him. He had already responded by saying that he couldn't challenge my decision. After the last one, he was onboard with me and didn't want to have children either. For some guys, it's not a deal breaker. They say that they want children because it's the norm. They expect to have children because they are expected to have children.

 

[JustTime]

What exactly else would you want to do? You said live life as a young person, what does that mean, in most western countries that spells out the following: Fornication, Drinking, and and just general intoxication. If you don't want children due to health issues that is understandable but really isn't fair to your husband who ever you may end up marrying.

 

[MuslimahRo]

Well, I have goals of publishing my books and doing dawah and charity work. I would also like to travel. Just trying to get my basic chores done is hard. I don't always have good amounts of energy and l often feel drowsy. I can't be responsible for a baby. I don't think that it's unfair to my future husband because I already told him that I don't want babies. And he was okay with that. Anyway, he was glad to have found me as he has heard negative things about Muslims in The West. He also said that despite living in a Muslim country, many females in his country don't wait till marriage. Nauzibillah. I can believe that. He doesn't like bad females and those that don't even practice Islam!