Why is Allah doing this to me.

[Alpha Dude]

The mind is powerful. Positivity begets positivity. Consistently being positive will lead you to be more confident.

Allah has said, as per hadith, to the effect: "I am as my servant thinks I am". This shows the importance of optimism and positive thinking. If you doubt and don't think Allah will help you, then your duas are fruitless but if you truly believe that Allah is going to give you what is best for you (note my choice of wording here - I say what is best for you - not "exactly what you ask for"), then you will always have good in your life.

The key is, you need to let go of your ego and understand that you don't know everything and don't know what is and what isn't good for you (in this life and the next). Only Allah does and you should always have the positive opinion that whatever happens, Allah is always going to do good by you and there is always a reason for anything bad that happens. This way, you will always be content. Anything else will leave you confused and with a half hearted approach to your religion.

Also, we have to pray to Allah because it is our duty to do so. Even if we are being persecuted, beaten up, have no money, no food, no limbs, ridden by disease, that does not make us lose our obligation of praying. The point I'm making is that we don't pray for the sake of worldly benefit but we pray because Allah is worthy of worship and it is his right and our duty as slaves to do it. We have to realise the grand scheme here.

You seem to have 'the grass is greener on the other side' mentality. Nope. It's not true. Everyone has problems. Loads of people out there have many issues that nobody knows about and they are just as bad as yours and in many cases much much worse. There's 6 billion surplus people in this world. Of these, there must be many millions going through extreme suffering. Point is, you are not alone and Allah is not messing about with you.

Contentment is what you're missing. You should aim to be content with whatever happens in your life, be it good or bad. Just move on, draw a line under the bad things that happen and look forward. Never think about the past and what could have been - only use any negative experience as something to learn from for the future.

Life is a test. Accept it. And stop caring about what other people think of you. It's not important enough to become depressed about.

 

[noraina]

Brother, you seem to think no other person has ever been as unfortunate as you because no one else seems to be as despaired as you. I can say that many of us here, and most of the people you will come across in life, have been though immense difficulties and trials in life, some so difficult subhanAllah. The difference here is that they keep their faith in Allah, use this as a chance to better themselves and not give up.

Using bro Serenity's analogy, in order to grow a seed has to completely break and shatter itself apart in order for its beauty to burst through. Similarly, scars in life are just a sign that you were tested but strove on and succeeded.

You need to look at those less fortunate than you, as the Prophet (pbuh) said, saying Alhamdulillah in the face of hardship is a admirable quality all of us should try to cultivate inshaAllah.

 

[Alpha Dude]

I just came across this: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-35958730

An article about a guy in India cleaning sewers with his bare hands with no safety equipment - for only 5 dollars a day.

Reflect on that. His situation is far from unique and there are many millions in his position and many millions in a far worse state than him. We don't realise the manner in which we are blessed. You mentioned that your parents are well off - well, be thankful for that at least, many people don't have any food.

 

[smallkid]

I guess I am going to try hinduism or christianity next.

 

[Alpha Dude]

I guess I am going to try hinduism or christianity next.

Instead of taking any advice people give you on board you come out wallowing in self-pity and make remarks like this.

Nobody can help you since you don't want to help yourself and that is the truth of the matter.

I think your self pity thread should be closed like it has been in the past cos there's no point in them. This isn't the first thread you've made about the same issue and it's always the same, no real reflection or wanting to change.

 

[smallkid]

Yes, I am feeling the same nothing can help me other than a miracle and that wont happen ever so yes this thread should be closed. Sorry if I have offended anyone. Its my choice to stay on this deen or not, I should not be saying it on a public forum. Sorry again.

 

[Serinity]

Do you have a bed to sleep? Shelter? a roof? Food? Clothing? Enough money?

If so, then you are already blessed! Btw, have you asked for help, or tried to rectify your problems? What exactly are you having problems with? May Allah guide you. Ameen.

 

[OmAbdullah]

All of you are in best of emaan because you havent felt things which are halal withheld from you. I am on the other hand is really questioning my faith with each failure. Its not a question anymore that my effort will help me, because I already know the outcome that I will fail, and it happens that I fail despite giving my best.

I am literally crying writing this but I have done so much Quran, Surahs prayers, Tahajjud etc that I have stopped trusting them anymore. Even jummah prayers are a burden on me. I mean how can someone fail in everything without any changes in fortune. Its become a joke now.


I dont know what path to take or go. I think hell will be easier for me than these failures. I am surely burdened with more than I can bear. The only reason I am alive is because of my parent and this coming from a 25 years old man who is at peak shows you how much has he been tried and tested. Never have I done anything wrong to anyone. I have done my fair share of duas,darood, and zikrs but outcome is failures.

May Allah pardon me. I have seen people getting things with so much ease without any effort, but in my case, even when I give 100% i am sure to fail. It has become a joke now.

May Allah guide you right, aameen. I read many of your posts quickly on this page only and I found the following points for which I am writing some solutions.


1. Your expectations from Allah are very bad. There is a hadeeth shareef which tells us that Allah deals with people according to their expectations from Allah. (Allah knows best the exact words of HIS Prophet salla Allaho alaihi wa sallam).


Allah is Rahman and Raheem and is GHafoor and Wadood. You must change your bad expectations and start hoping full positive hopes from the depth of your heart, Do astaghfaar, and du'aa with the hope that Allah will accept it. This is a must.


You are ready for suicide because you don't believe in or you don't know about the punishment of Hell. See Quraan, surah Al-Hajj, surah Ibraaheem and surah Al-Kahf for some of the punishments to fear the Hereafter.

Your faith is so weak that you doubt even the existence of God. This is what we are told in hadeeth that due to fitna a person will be momin in the morning and will turn kaafir in the evening... All this is due to the present fitna which is due to the cruelty of mankind and not due to Allah. So be patient and don't loose faith or the everlasting Hell is very very bed.


You regret to go to a magician. Please be careful and never go to them because that is another shirk.


We all are suffering due to fitna of this time. Look at the Syrians, they are killed with hunger. A hadeeth advised us to look at people lower than us that is in more trouble in this world to remain thankful to Allah and look at people of greater piety and patience to become stroner in Islam for success in the hereafter. (In my own words).

 

[sister herb]

I guess I am going to try hinduism or christianity next.

And how this would help? There is only one God who can help you - if you change your religion, you don´t get new God who would make different things for you. Instead of that, change yourself; your way of behave and act. That´s the way you can change your destiny. If you only wait that everything will be better for the next year or blame God about every your problems, nothing becomes better.

 

[~ Sabr ~]

Yes, I am feeling the same nothing can help me other than a miracle and that wont happen ever so yes this thread should be closed. Sorry if I have offended anyone. Its my choice to stay on this deen or not, I should not be saying it on a public forum. Sorry again.

If you want peace FIND IT WITHIN YOURSELF.

No one else can give it to you!

:threadclo

 

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you smallkid;

Here are a couple of very simple thing you can do today and everyday, you have to start somewhere.

I spent some time with a man who had been homeless for about five years, he carried everything he owns in a couple of bags. He talked about fighting depression constantly, but he both amazed and humbled me when he talked about his coping method.

Every night when he found somewhere to sleep, he reflected on the day and found several things to thank God for. His place to sleep, the food he ate, a place to wash, the people he met, his dry clothes, and this was from a man who had very little. When you give thanks, it truthfully starts to turn your mind round from negative to positive, or at the very least to survival.

I spent some time with another homeless man, he must have told me half a dozen times that he is not worried, because he knows that God loves him, and he smiled each time he told me. He had worked out in his life that God would grant him eternal salvation, so this made his life on Earth bearable, even though life was full of uncertainties and he had very little.

We don't like to see you suffer, sadly the most we can do for you is give advice, but the advice is given with love and kindness, in the hope that you might find a way out.

Just a thought,

In the spirit of praying for hope.

Eric

 

[piXie]

I guess I am going to try hinduism or christianity next.

My brother, do you have any idea what a valuable, priceless treasure Allah has blessed you with. What did others have compared to what you had when you stood for tahajjud at night. Subhan Allaah. Whatever problems you are experiencing in this short life, don't throw away all the Ibadan you did. You have Eeman, you have the key to Jannah. Will you get impatient now and throw away that key too?

I don't know what losses you have experienced but that would be the ultimate, ultimate loss!

Wallahi my brother that's not an option. We will not be able to bear that loss on the day of judgement. imsad

In the hadeeth which was narrated by al-Tirmidhi from Abu Hurayrah, who said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘There is no man who prays to Allah and makes dua’ to Him, and does not receive a response. Either it will be hastened for him in this world, or it will be stored up for him in the Hereafter, so long as he does not pray for something sinful, or to cut the ties of kinship, or seek a speedy response.’ They said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, what does seeking a speedy response mean?’ He said, ‘Saying, “I prayed to my Lord and He did not answer me.”’” (Al-Tirmidhi, 3859; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 852).

May Allah help you to turn back to Him. Aameen.

 

[Umm Abed]

Yes, I am feeling the same nothing can help me other than a miracle and that wont happen ever so yes this thread should be closed. Sorry if I have offended anyone. Its my choice to stay on this deen or not, I should not be saying it on a public forum. Sorry again.

Are you performing your 5 daily salahs?

Salah is key to success.

You know in adhan it is said, 'hayya alal falaah! hayya alal falaah!" 'Come towards success! Come towards success!'

So yes, salah is key to success in this world and akhirah.

 

[~ Sabr ~]

I guess I am going to try hinduism or christianity next.

*claps* BRAVO! Well done to succumbing to the Shaytaan!!! opcorn:

Congratulations to a life of eternity in Hell. :coolious:

 

[smallkid]

My problem is solved now. But now I feel my old life was better. Even the solution brings misery and pain and non solution also. Why is my life like that ?

 

[Ineed Umar]

Millions of Muslim kids starve daily look upon them.

In the time of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) he was stoned by his enemies. Look upon that.

In the time of Hazrat Ibrahim (Abraham ) he was about to thrown in fire.

Hazrat Isa (Jesus) was crucified.

Look upon all of these what do you see? Patience darling patience.

Besides Palestine ain't converting for sufferings they had gone thru.

But on the other hand.

Shaytan was impatient and greedy before, he was not shay tan by default but a jinn, a pious entity but look now he whispers evil into hearts taking his irony out on us. Same could be brought upon you.

Besides no offense but how r Hindu or Christian lives better than typical Muslims'? I mean all are living their life like they want! All I repeat they all commit crime regardless of faith. All have their restrictions as well. Vegetarianism for Hindus. Again no offense for Hindu members of forums just pointing out facts.

 

[smallkid]

Why nothing good ever happens to me like it happens to others ?

 

[sister herb]

Why nothing good ever happens to me like it happens to others ?

Don´t ever compare your life to other´s lives. Your one is unique and so is other´s too.

Maybe you can´t see all the good things what happens to you and some others can and be thankful about it to Allah. Notice the last post of Eric H. Are your socks dry and do you have a place to sleep for the next night? Many times we people have to lost those simple, good things before we learn to understand their value. Unfortunately.

 

[smallkid]

I have an identity crisis. My parents have made me what I never wanted to become. Now even if someone praises my traits it feels an insult to me. I want to die before I destroy some other lives.

 

[Umm Abed]

I have an identity crisis. My parents have made me what I never wanted to become. Now even if someone praises my traits it feels an insult to me. I want to die before I destroy some other lives.

What type of solution are you looking into?

You've received numerous excellent advises.