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AbuS and I hold hands in public and walk arm in arm, but never anything more. Hugging and kissing show physical intimacy that's private between a couple.
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Bismillah hair-rahmaan nara heem
Well I don't think that is appropitate in public because it will show some annoyed people (who really hate Islam) give a chance to blame us for something a few individuals did. Arm to arm would be ok but kissing lip to lip is not appropiate in a public especially infront of little children who might think it's ok to go up to a two year old and kiss her/him. But it is allowed and is not considered zina.
I apologize for not posting an article with proof but I have found one but can't post the link,inshAllah I will try.
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Well I don't think that is appropitate in public because it will show some annoyed people (who really hate Islam) give a chance to blame us for something a few individuals did. Arm to arm would be ok but kissing lip to lip is not appropiate in a public especially infront of little children who might think it's ok to go up to a two year old and kiss her/him. But it is allowed and is not considered zina.
I apologize for not posting an article with proof but I have found one but can't post the link,inshAllah I will try.
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I have seen a couple who were doing that stuff in a train ( in Public) and I found it quite....disgusting.
I felt embarrassed.
I would say ...."GET A ROOM!" :X
Holding hands is acceptable but beyond that , it's better in private.
No one wants to see those things. :skeleton:
I felt embarrassed.
I would say ...."GET A ROOM!" :X
Holding hands is acceptable but beyond that , it's better in private.
No one wants to see those things. :skeleton:
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today after jummah mashallah i saw a muslim couple, a hijabi lady and a white muslim man mashallah he had a beard and she was wearing a hijab they were walkin down the street hollding hands. I was like "aww man i wish i had a wife" loool! :X
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Whatever happens,when it happens it is in the command and will of Allah. When Allah wills you will inshAllah,along with many other brothers. Brother Abd Al Rahman
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Whatever happens,when it happens it is in the command and will of Allah. When Allah wills you will inshAllah,along with many other brothers. Brother Abd Al Rahman
Walakum Asalam Warakmatulah Wabarkatuh.
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Ruling on kissing one’s wife in the street in front of people
I am in alot of trouble. I can not ask local Iman because he is not good in his knowledge and i am embarassed to ask friends or family. You see, the problem is I got married recently and I think i might of committed zina with my wife. This is how, we were driving my sisters car and me and wife stopped the car in a quiet place and we kissed alot, quite alot. a man walked passed and he saw us, but we did not stop. i feel i have committed open zina. do we need to pay kafarah, or confess to our elders. my second very very important question is after kissing, i let out (we were both wearing clothes all the time mufti saab) sperm in my underwear. Now i feel very bad because this is my sisters car and she has been driving it after me. i can not wash the car seat as she will get suspicious and confront me. i do not want to lie, now she sits in the car sits on the floor to eat dinner, sits on the sofa, her and her children and i feel very very bad as to what to do. is the car and sofa and place were we sit not clean anymore, and my wife and i are arguing she blames me for worrying. i think she is a bad muslim, because she does not fear Allah, becuase she made me stop the car and kiss, i hate her for that. dear sir, i await your reply as i am disturbed by what has happened, i like to keep paak and clean at all times to please Allah.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Please note that you will never be able to live your life without sins and mistakes. This is the nature of man. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Every son of Adam commits sin, and the best of those who commit sin are those who repent.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2499; Ibn Maajah, 4251; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. This hadeeth clearly indicates that man will inevitably commit sin, but what matters after that is what he does about his sin. The believer repents to Allaah from all his sins, gives them up and asks Allaah for forgiveness every time he commits a sin, and he regrets doing it and resolves sincerely not to do it again. If you do that, then understand that Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful; He forgives all sins for the righteous believer who repents sincerely and admits his sin humbly before Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
The sin that you have admitted to is not zina with your wife! Rather it is kissing her in front of other people, because there is no zina with one's wife, rather zina is done with a woman whom it is not permissible for a man to touch. But in the case of a wife, it is permissible to touch her.
It is not permissible for a man or a woman to speak to anyone else of what happens between them in bed which no one else should see but them, because of the evils and temptations that result from that and because it opens the door to the shaytaan. This has to do with one who speaks about what he did with his wife, so how about one who does things in front of people where they can see him!
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his Fataawa (10/277) that kissing one’s wife in front of people is not permissible.
Secondly:
As for the expiation for this sin, there is no expiation except sincere repentance and firm resolve not to do it again, and true regret for having committed this sin.
As for confessing to your parents, there is no need for that. The sin that you have admitted to is a sin against Allaah, so confession should be made to Allaah. It is between you and Allaah and you should not tell anyone about it, but be sincere in your repentance to Allaah and Allaah will forgive you. Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
The fact that your wife is the one who told you to do this deed does not mean that she is not a righteous woman or that she does not fear Allaah. You also agreed with her to do it, and you did not stop even when that man saw you. So you should also shoulder your share of responsibility for what you did.
See also questions no. 6103 and 31773.
May Allaah help you to do that which He loves and which pleases Him.
Walakum Asalam Warakmatulah Wabarkatuh.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Please note that you will never be able to live your life without sins and mistakes. This is the nature of man. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Every son of Adam commits sin, and the best of those who commit sin are those who repent.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2499; Ibn Maajah, 4251; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. This hadeeth clearly indicates that man will inevitably commit sin, but what matters after that is what he does about his sin. The believer repents to Allaah from all his sins, gives them up and asks Allaah for forgiveness every time he commits a sin, and he regrets doing it and resolves sincerely not to do it again. If you do that, then understand that Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful; He forgives all sins for the righteous believer who repents sincerely and admits his sin humbly before Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily, Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Zumar 39:53] The sin that you have admitted to is not zina with your wife! Rather it is kissing her in front of other people, because there is no zina with one's wife, rather zina is done with a woman whom it is not permissible for a man to touch. But in the case of a wife, it is permissible to touch her.
It is not permissible for a man or a woman to speak to anyone else of what happens between them in bed which no one else should see but them, because of the evils and temptations that result from that and because it opens the door to the shaytaan. This has to do with one who speaks about what he did with his wife, so how about one who does things in front of people where they can see him!
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his Fataawa (10/277) that kissing one’s wife in front of people is not permissible.
Secondly:
As for the expiation for this sin, there is no expiation except sincere repentance and firm resolve not to do it again, and true regret for having committed this sin.
As for confessing to your parents, there is no need for that. The sin that you have admitted to is a sin against Allaah, so confession should be made to Allaah. It is between you and Allaah and you should not tell anyone about it, but be sincere in your repentance to Allaah and Allaah will forgive you. Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
The fact that your wife is the one who told you to do this deed does not mean that she is not a righteous woman or that she does not fear Allaah. You also agreed with her to do it, and you did not stop even when that man saw you. So you should also shoulder your share of responsibility for what you did.
See also questions no. 6103 and 31773.
May Allaah help you to do that which He loves and which pleases Him.
Walakum Asalam Warakmatulah Wabarkatuh.
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coz its yucky and they know it and they KNOW NOT TO SHOW IT
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P9m_O1t-2KY
ooor a more mature responce would be:
to protect their modesty, decency... morality .. chastity.
just because your married, doesnt mean you become completely loose.
may Allah guide us all, Ameen
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P9m_O1t-2KY
ooor a more mature responce would be:
to protect their modesty, decency... morality .. chastity.
just because your married, doesnt mean you become completely loose.
may Allah guide us all, Ameen
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by Al-Bukhaari and Muslim. So, one should observe the Islamic etiquettes when enjoying his wife.
Ibn Qudaamah [from the Hanbali school] said: ‘A husband should not have intercourse with his wife when it is possible for someone else to see them or to hear their noise when copulating. Also, he should not kiss her or touch her in front of the people. Imaam Ahmad said: "For me, it is desirable that he should conceal all of this (i.e. do this in privacy only)."’
If a husband tries to kiss his wife in front of the people, she is obliged to advise him and remind him to fear Allaah and avoid doing so, as this public kissing is the practice of the non-Muslims who have no honour nor dignity nor bashfulness.
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mayb bcoz we muslims have more haya.
and i think kissing and hugging in public places will bring evil thoughts in the minds of others too.
we care for others too who are unmarried or away frm their spouses.
and i think kissing and hugging in public places will bring evil thoughts in the minds of others too.
we care for others too who are unmarried or away frm their spouses.
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A little love and affection when you are married is cool. but People need to give consideration to the other people that are not at that stage yet which can trigger EVIL thoughts into their minds
1) unmarried people
2) people who are divorced
3) CHILDREN
4) Widows
5) Rspect for the elders whos age is wayyyyy up there
so pleasee give consideration. There are places called Hotels and houses and rooms for all that junk.
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Where I live, you risk getting sorted out by the aadaab police if you were caught doing anything of the sort (holding hands is acceptable, anything else is a big no-no). They don't care if you're married 
Besides, why would you feel the need to do any of that in public :><:?
Besides, why would you feel the need to do any of that in public :><:?
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