Would like to understand you people..

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I would also like to address this part:

The mention of christianity abuse was meant to be a quite seperate issue and whilst moslems dont neccessarily use profain language, millions of others do and christians just have to put up with it. It was in this sense that I think Moslems are wimpish about wanting to make an issue of things every time Mohammed or Allah is perceived as being abused. Why cant they just take it on the chin and pray for those who are offending them, like christians have to?

It is difficult for non-Muslims to understand why us Muslims get so irate when Allaah(swt) or any of the Prophets(PBUT) are objects of ridicule. For most Muslims it is incomprehensible that any person could even do such a thing. For many Muslims to hear or read such produces a very real shock to the senses.
 
If Muslims want to fast for Ramadan, thats ok by me. But some bright spark recently put round a staff notice in a government office suggesting that the rest of the staff dont eat their usual biscuits with mid morning coffee in front of Muslims because it is 'unfair'... I thought the whole idea of fasting was a matter of principal and that some sacrifice would be called for. I'm not saying that non-moslems should tantalise ramadam fasters by saying things like "do you want a bite of this?" as that would amount to unacceptability. The mention of christianity abuse was meant to be a quite seperate issue and whilst moslems dont neccessarily use profain language, millions of others do and christians just have to put up with it. It was in this sense that I think Moslems are wimpish about wanting to make an issue of things every time Mohammed or Allah is perceived as being abused. Why cant they just take it on the chin and pray for those who are offending them, like christians have to?

It is no big deal. I was fasting when I went to college and sit with other non-Muslims while they were eating. Did not bother me at all.

Oh yes Muslims do put up with a lot of negativity. It is what called ''freedom of expression.'' When someone says something negative at least be prepared for the consequences. Not that I'm saying how Muslims respond is right at times. Some Muslims do not represent Islam very well. Most Muslims ignore it.
 
PODAROK is wrong. I am not trying to prove my own prejudices at all. That is why I am presenting my case/questions and asking for explanations. This site is the closest I have ever come to communicating with muslims and would like to know some personally but have always felt that they would feel under threat if questioned. I have several friends who laugh at me for "believing in fairies" but I dont let it shake my christian faith and we remain friends. If one becomes a muslim does one have to renounce christianity as false or in some kind of ceremony?

I have not yet learned how to respond by using 'qoutes' system so have to continue using whichever Reply box is a th bottom of the page.... how does it work?
 
PODAROK is wrong. I am not trying to prove my own prejudices at all. That is why I am presenting my case/questions and asking for explanations. This site is the closest I have ever come to communicating with muslims and would like to know some personally but have always felt that they would feel under threat if questioned. I have several friends who laugh at me for "believing in fairies" but I dont let it shake my christian faith and we remain friends. If one becomes a muslim does one have to renounce christianity as false or in some kind of ceremony?

I have not yet learned how to respond by using 'qoutes' system so have to continue using whichever Reply box is a th bottom of the page.... how does it work?

No we don't feel under threat if questioned. Over the years Muslims have gone impatient with how the media portrays us. Allegations are made against Islam which are not true. Muslims do get fed up eventually and respond harshly.

To use the quote system, find the post that you want to respond to. On that post, there should be a small blue button called ''Quote.'' Click on it and you will be able to respond to that post. If you would to respond to more than one post, click on the button next to the Quote button, it will come up as multi-quote.
 
I moved this to comparative religion for 2 reasons.

1. give it more exposure

2. Some new members wish to reply to it.
 
PODAROK is wrong. I am not trying to prove my own prejudices at all. That is why I am presenting my case/questions and asking for explanations. This site is the closest I have ever come to communicating with muslims and would like to know some personally but have always felt that they would feel under threat if questioned. I have several friends who laugh at me for "believing in fairies" but I dont let it shake my christian faith and we remain friends. If one becomes a muslim does one have to renounce christianity as false or in some kind of ceremony?

I have not yet learned how to respond by using 'qoutes' system so have to continue using whichever Reply box is a th bottom of the page.... how does it work?

No worry.We encourage all members to post their opinions. About the only time we will interfere is if a member engages in bashing another member or blatantly promotes a religion other than Islam, (Evangelistic type post)

Honest disagreement and debate is encouraged. Main rule being we all agree to disagree respectably.l
 
If one becomes a muslim does one have to renounce christianity as false or in some kind of ceremony?


Becoming muslim is relatively simple. It is to recite and believe the shahada - la ilaha il Allah, Muhammadur rasul Allah - there is nothing worthy of worship except God, and Muhammad is His messenger.

Implicit in this is that we accept the message of Muhammad (saws) as the final, complete and incorrupted message of Allah (swt), and that any previous dispensations have been superceeded. While we hold Jesus (as) to be a prophet, we do not believe that modern day christianity is an accurate reflection of what he taught.

So in declaring la ilaha il Allah, Muhammadur rasul Allah, you are giving up previously held christian beliefs. For me, those were things I had given up quite some time before I became a muslim, so it was more from a neutral state that I declared my shahada, rather than one of renunciation.
 
Firstly, welcome to the forum Thomas.

I guess one of your main issues is that you see so many concessions being made for Muslims, who you see on TV as bearded or burkhaed fanatics that seem to be trying to take over the country, and who disagree with every British moral value.

What I would say, as a word of warning, is beware of what you read, and see in the media. The media is very good at taking one or a few isolated stories and emblazoning it across the front pages. If you think just in London how many people read the Metro on the tube each day, all those people will think that that it what Muslims do. The media just ain't interested in good stories about Muslims, cos they won't make good reading and won't sell papers.

Having said that, there are also Muslims who don't behave according to the teachings of Islam, or behave badly, and unfortunately it's them that get the media attention.

Part of the problem is that Muslims sometimes don't talk about Islam to people, so people don't know what it's all about and that breeds fear. I guess that's what's happened up North, there's no communication and hence there's fear. But you've done the right thing by coming here to ask.

Regarding the beaurocratic stepping on eggshells re: Christmas trees and eating in front of fasting people, and season's greetings instead of Merry Christmas, that is just plain stupidity. I've never known anyone to get offended at that. Part of the problem is, I guess, that Britain is no longer a "Christian" country, because our politicians are losing morals. When it was, like when I was at school, there were a lot more morals. This whole avoiding Christmas business is also designed to avoid offending Atheists, Sikhs, Hindus, Jews etc. Why not just keep the greeting Christian, how it used to be? Why would anyone take offence at that?

Yes, immigration IS a huge problem here. But I guess you would see (correct me if I'm wrong) all Muslims as being immigrant. I'm born and bred here, paid into the system all my life,and then see people arriving on the plane, they get accommodation, and everything paid. I agree that that's wrong too. But a lot of those people are from non-Muslim countries, so I'm not quite sure why Islam always gets linked with it.

"I think Moslems are wimpish about wanting to make an issue of things every time Mohammed or Allah is perceived as being abused". We do that for Jesus (peace be upon him ) too! :) If someone insulted your mum, would you take it on the chin and pray for them? We love, respect, and follow them more than our parents :)
 
Greetings Thomas and welcome to the forum.

I'd reply to all your posts but it's too much and I've come tooooo late...:p
I think I'll let the rest answer lol.

So yea you have a lot on your mind I can tell. Please do stick around and ask whatever you need to ask, granted you really want to learn :)

There is plenty of material to be read here and most likely you'll have a lot of questions/misconceptions cleared away...

Peace.
 
Hey Thomas, I'm glad you came to a forum like this to talk to actual muslims rather than listen to the media. Since whilst much of the media is impartial to many subjects, the vast majority has some sort of bias and portray certain views, and specifically in the UK very negativley towards Muslims.

Anyhow, you gave a lot of things to talk about. So I'll start with this whole immigration problem. Its becoming quite clear its a growing concern for many of the 'English' and will become a major talking point. You think immigration is massive problem, but why not, as in Christianity, take it on the chin and pray it works out fine? You may want to stop people from coming, but that won't help anything. Imagine you lived in a country in severe poverty, and you wanted to go somewhere else, but we're not able too? Many people I personally know who move to the UK do it because they have nothing where they live, they have no cash, coming here gives them some money to earn for their families back home. If you're faced with giving the best possible life to your family, you won't care which country you're in. Unfortunately many people think they have some divine right to certain lands and are very wary to 'different' people, although we're all HUMANS. You never know, tomorrow a massive Tsunami could kill all the people of England, and then it wouldn't really belong to anyone.

Next point on the insults taken by using Muhammad or Allah in an abusive way, or something that may seem abusive. Let's take it this way, if someone abused your mother, would you stand for it? The love a muslim has for God should and is greater than anything else. With Muhammad he was a great man, and I think muslims don't want him to be start used in playful terms. What I mean by this is you have programs like the simpsons (which I do watch, by the way) that show and sometimes make jokes with Jesus. I think they would hate to see anything even closely similar becoming the norm with our beloved prophet, and I am glad the strength of the muslims and this Ummah (community) is great enough to stand up against all abuse, no matter how small they may be.

Next I want to make a quick point about prejudicing. In many of your points that you're looking to answers for (which is great) you're using some serious prejudices. Many of them even I fell for, but a quick search made me wonder why I had any doubt in the first place. Simply put, don't go with stereotypes. You talk about muslim women who can't talk English but can vote? Well my mother who was not born in the UK or has English as a mother tongue speaks better English than myself, and works as social worker. I know many many of my friends who have come from different countries but have and many still are making great efforts to learn English. This includes people who came when they are like 13 years old. English lessons at school must've been hell, everyone else learning about stuff like climaxes and oxymorons, whilst you can't even read the alphabet! But they try. You also talk about men controlling women like in other countries. Do you have any experiences of this? Or do you talk about what you get from the media? I repeat this point again, don't go with what the media tell you. If you have personal experience, then that's a whole different matter. My mother practically owns my father haha, so I'd say you're quite wrong there.
Secondly is the whole idea of "Why can others do this, while we can't?". You talk of why the term Paki is a no no whilst calling people Nazi is allowed? Well because the term Paki was used by people who used it in a racist way. Its like the N word like someone mentioned. And calling Nazi to people like Nick Griffin I don't agree with. It should've been censored. But this is whole idea is stupid. Do you know that muslims in Afghanistan, Palestine, and many other places are fighting countries with many helicopters and weapons, whilst they have basic guns? Whilst we live in the comfort of our homes, they are attacked and killed? This makes your points worthless, so don't go with this whole they get treated better than us. In face, don't go with this whole 'They' or 'You' thing at all.

The 72 virgin thing I don't have much if not any knowledge on, so i can't give you an answer too.

Oh just a small note on the lady who went to the college in a burka, she was even qouted as saying she was willing to remove it for identification. Media eh? I personally respect these women tremendously, because even though all the pressure put on them through the media, they still go with what they believe is right. And coverring ones self up has many more benefits than negaitives, trust me. Next point, you must understand that in every faith, there are those who make the rest look bad. But they're always the minority, in every faith.

On the Christmas concert thing, I don't understand that. I go to a school with a large muslim proportion of students, and we still have a Christmas time show, where many of the non Christians join in too. We all join in 'Christian' sort of prayer at the end of every assembly we have. Fasting I don't understand why a muslim would have a problem with someone eating in front of them. The fast is not some sort of personal gratification or ego boost, its to remember those who have no food and also for the love of God. But at the same time it wouldn't hurt for others to be considerate too. Just like how you're saying muslim people should respect your society. That leads me to a story of how back in the time of the prophet, when lands were conquered, the Christians and Jews and everyone were left to be as they were, they were respected as well as their faiths and ways of life. You call Islam a militant religion, but you only see crap like the Taliban representing the muslins. By that sort of stuff I could use the first crusade to represent the Christians. When the Christian emperors invaded Jerusalem and won it from the muslims, they killed all the muslims and jews there. They spared no one. Even those that sought shelter in the holy mosque were found and killed. Not a single child nor mother. But I wouldn't for the life of me think of all Christians as cold blooded murders, and neither would you.


So I've tried to answer anything you've brought up, hopefully they satisfy you. If not, then that's fine, feel free to ask again :)
I just noted that you mentioned Christianity and why muslims couldn't be like Christians. Muslims generally respect Christians a great deal, as Chrisitans are seen as the People of the Book, fellow believers in God. Here's a qoute from the Quran:
And do not dispute with the followers of the Book except by what is best, except those of them who act unjustly, and say: We believe in that which has been revealed to us and revealed to you, and our God and your God is One, and to Him do we submit. [Qur'an 29:46]


Again I'm very glad you came to this forum. You can learn so much and at the same time can teach many a thing about Christianity too, if you wish to do so. If you have the time, I'd advise watching a few videos of a muslim man called Yusuf Estes, he talks about lots of prominent issues and clears many conceptions up. If you have the time, that is. And just as one more point, I have, even though having the most heartless supplications of all time, prayed for non muslims atleast once.

And ah, just noticed the poster Insane above me. Haha, you have a similar post to mine. Congratulations on being faster. But next time, you're mine.
 
Hi Insaan. Thanks so much for your very informative reply. You are the kind of muslim I would like to have lived near or worked with because whilst you hold the faith you appreciate how silly all these probably unwanted concessions are greatly aggravating people. A younger acqauntance of mine has just moved from Chadwell Heath, Essex because SHE said she felt like a white dot on a black domino. She tried to sell the house to what she saw as a European but no chance now that the street had been taken over, so gave in and just made it one more of 'them'. I know this sounds somewhat racist but it is her honest opinion and keeping quiet about it didnt change her feelings about the matter. When I lived elsewhere on the sussex coast I had an indian dentist (actually he was a Catholic so Islam didnt com into it) but it never occured to me to see him as anything but the same a everybody else. He told me that he had never been to India but came from Africa because his Indian grandfather emigrated there to help build the railways. But if I now lived in one of those northern cities I suppose I would be naturally suspicious and would probably check the location of his surgery before phoning.

I live in Eastbourne on the Sussex coast so not directly effected day to day but am very concerned about the constant immigrants who seem to be often immediately turned back or locked up if coming through Heathrow but come through Dover and seemingly have to be let go. Yes. We are now overcrowded and muslims get the blame but they dont always seem to help thir case..... Where abouts in UK do you live?
 
I live in Eastbourne on the Sussex coast so not directly effected day to day but am very concerned about the constant immigrants who seem to be often immediately turned back or locked up if coming through Heathrow but come through Dover and seemingly have to be let go. Yes. We are now overcrowded and muslims get the blame but they dont always seem to help thir case..... Where abouts in UK do you live?

No problem Thomas. I actually live in London, in a very multicultural area - English, Italian, Spanish, Polish, Barbadan, Goa, Kenyan, Chinese (the origins of some of my neighbours), different faiths - atheists, Christian protestant and RC, and we all get along fine. Don't see why everyone else can't though.
 
Hi Mahi

Thanks for your interesting response and I am going to re-read and digest what you say. I did write a response just now, dropped the mouse and when i stood up the whole lot had disappeared...... Lost for ever?

I will respond asap
 
Thanks so much for your very informative reply. You are the kind of muslim I would like to have lived near or worked with because whilst you hold the faith you appreciate how silly all these probably unwanted concessions are greatly aggravating people. A younger acqauntance of mine has just moved from Chadwell Heath, Essex because SHE said she felt like a white dot on a black domino. She tried to sell the house to what she saw as a European but no chance now that the street had been taken over, so gave in and just made it one more of 'them'. I know this sounds somewhat racist but it is her honest opinion and keeping quiet about it didnt change her feelings about the matter. When I lived elsewhere on the sussex coast I had an indian dentist (actually he was a Catholic so Islam didnt com into it) but it never occured to me to see him as anything but the same a everybody else. He told me that he had never been to India but came from Africa because his Indian grandfather emigrated there to help build the railways. But if I now lived in one of those northern cities I suppose I would be naturally suspicious and would probably check the location of his surgery before phoning.

Why suspicious ? would they kill you ? come on i know you are intelligent , show a bit of common sense.

Thomas why do you think it as taking over.. i mean why do people fear living among different cultures ? Remember that Britain also has a legacy of colonialism , all the immigrants you see now come from its former "empires".And for your information they just don't live on social benifits. They work there , chances are when you get treated in NHS you are most prolly treated by a doctor of foreign origin 1 out of 2 times.They serve you people and they made their home there.
 
Hi Mahi

Thanks for your interesting response and I am going to re-read and digest what you say. I did write a response just now, dropped the mouse and when i stood up the whole lot had disappeared...... Lost for ever?

I will respond asap

Ha, no worries
 
Hi Mahi
Just got back from a 54th! reunion of those I worked with when I was 16 and straight from school so I will leave it you work out how old I am...

I realise that this forum is a religous one rather than a political arena but because your faith and our immigration worries are so closely linked please forgive me for using this forum but it needs to be said in the hope of a better future - for my grandchildren if not for me...

This island has not been invaded since 1066! So we are naturally wary of foreigners.. Hitler came close when we were at our most desperate in 1940 and if he had succeeded, all muslims as well as all jews here (all those classed by the nazis as non-super race misfits) as well as any christian daring to put his head above the parapet in protest, are likely to have ended up in a very nasty place of unspeakable horrors.

The main problem with Asian immigration is that, like in civil wars, we don't know friend from foe and although there are obviously very few foes, we over react - like we did soon after 7/7 when any Asian looking person wearing a rucksack on the tube trains was persona non grata and one to smartly walk away from. But can you blame us? I have never heard of a European of christian descent destroying himself and thinking that taking lots of others with him is a good idea that pleases Allah.... Are such people clever but mentally retarded?

I repeat that the real problem is not the immigrant himself (although this IS now of much political concern) but the perceived untrustworthiness problem he /she brings with him/her. "He is foreign, where does he come from?, what's he doing here?, is he on Benefit?, does he speak English?, loads of relatives waiting to follow him?, on bogus student visas?, several 'wives' being claimed as dependants? etc etc". Prejudice? YES but we need to be convinced otherwise. So this IS a problem for YOU to resolve. If any one (or two?) of you came to live next to me, that would be quite ok but I dont want the whole street, and those surrounding it, to be swamped like is seems to be in some, mainly northern, cities. I am trying hard to overcome my prejudices but need your reassurances. The speed with which immigrants have come and are still coming (and staying) is far to high for us to handle, thus the resentment. Muslims want to be accepted but please understand why we are wary - and living in Asian ghettos and speaking unidentifiable foreign languages doesn't help...

Some years ago I met a German man who had been a prisoner of war here from 1944 (he said it was his salvation from his, by then, mad leader). He was put to work for an English farmer who told him that one German was ok but two or more together was not ok, speaking a foreign language - "what are they planning?"

Please try and help US by discouraging presumably unwanted concessions that only makes matters worse. If stupid busybody town councillors would STOP trying to make probably unwanted concessions regarding things like Christmas, we English would not read about the 'hijacking' of facilities and customs that are very meaningful to us, and scare us..

If the muslims could invent a winter festival of their own and decorate their shops, even invent a character like father christmas, that would be great. We could join in if invited and you wouldnt feel the threat of us wanting it abolished. Regarding Ramadan there is no problem at all since Christians have a season called Lent which lasts for 6 weeks just before Easter (March/April). It is a period of reflection and self denial, not fasting exactly but just thinking of other may be poorer or less fortunate people. Similar but slightly different if you know what I mean. There are no other major christian festivals to hijack or to make concessions for.

Muslims may not like what I have written but I have tried to be constructive and honest and without malice. Please help US to lose our worries and prejudices.

P.S. What is the difference between A 'Quick Reply' and a 'New Reply' ?
 
The p.s. is the easiest to answer so I'll tackle that first.

The fast reply lacks most of the features found in the new reply, it doesn't have that little line of icons that lets you do neat stuff with links and fonts and that assorted stuff.

Calculating your age from your post places you as being close to my age. I'm glad to see I'm not the only walking fossil here.

All of us have prejudices. The best we can do is to acknowledge we have them and do our best to keep them from acting or speaking with unwarranted bias.
 
Hi. I came across this site by chance and would really like to understand people I have never met face to face.

I am English born and Christian which faith, by definition, is acquiescent, submissive (turn the other cheek, pray for your enemies etc) but we now seem up against a faith (Islam) that seems to have few if any of these 'disadvantages' to rein in what seems to be a very militant faith.
Wouldn't say it's militant. I personally, and all of the Muslims I know in real life, are not militant or violent. However, rather than 'turn the other cheek', Muslims tend to emphasise 'an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth'. In other words, they're encourage to actively make a stand against injustice. This does not neccessarily mean reacting violently. But if, for instance, somebody attacks your person, you are allowed and encouraged to defend yourself. Similarly, if someone attacks in a more intellectual fashion, Islam facilitates and encourages intellectual defence and intellectual counter-attack.

This is not to say that turning the other cheek is invalid or inferior. It is simply an alternate method of dealing with injustice.

I mean (although it didnt happen in England) tat silly business of Allah being insulted by a teddy bear being named Mohammed when I thought it was one of the commonst names for a boy - like the English JOHN.
That was indeed insane. Especially because the non-Muslim teacher's entirely Muslim class suggested the name.

The other sad things that really irritates and alienates we Brits is Burka covered women holding placards abusing British soldiers as they march past (Luton?).
Yeah, I don't agree with hurling abuse at returning British soldiers. If anyone needs hurling abuse at, it's the people in Downing Street.

This one act has brought out Brit street mobs to make things much worse for immigrants. Then, yesterday, I read about a 20 years old women ( presume she is female..) going to register for a college cout dressed from head to foot in a burka and refusing to even show her face for identification which seems so incredibly stupid that I can only assume sh was put up to this by others who want to push, push, push the boundaries acceptable to the average Brit.
No, she explicitly said she would show her face for identification purposes.

I expect she will appeal against being refused registration - and the appeal will be allowed "in case it offends people of other faiths".
I don't know how you came to that conclusion, given that the other major British burkha case (with a niqaab-wearing teacher) did not end in that fashion.

In my town we now have a "Tree of Light" instead of an annual Christmas tree "in case th latter offends those of other faiths" .
I suggest you write to your local council voicing your displeasure at this politically correct nonsense. That's not sarcasm. This sort of thing is so desperate not to offend that it creates offence. I've never met any Muslims in Britain offended at the sight of Christmas decorations. I can only surmise it's the result of some well-meaning (or not so well-meaning) official meddling.

Have you considered how much abuse Christianity takes, every minute of every day through blasphemies and cynicism? And God, in his infinite wisdom allows that whereas muslims seem to feel the need to take revenge - as if Allah is unable to handle it and deal with it....
You're sliding into generalisations here, lumping all Muslims together. I assume that by 'revenge' you mean 'violence and intimidation'. That is not what Islam teaches for the modern attacks against it. And to be honest, these modern attacks on Islam are not so different from old attacks on it. The religion has survived.

Dop Muslims ever actually pray for their enemies, do good to those that hurt you and despise you etc?
I personally pray that those people can be guided. I try to be a good, honest, hardworking citizen. This behaviour is a requisite of Islam and is a requisite of being human.

To summerise, I wish muslim immigrants would just try and assimilate theselves into English life without constanty seeking concessions. OR, are we Brits making misakes by merely thinking that you want Tree of Light etc concessions when you don't want to patronised?
It's not a simple issue. I would say for every crazily outraged and unjustified Muslim complaint, there is also a well-meaning but naive official trying desparately to stop people fighting but causing far more trouble in so doing.
 
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Allah's religion is serious, so are the Muslims.Yes, we are very strange to the mankind because Islam is a religion of God.
 
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