Would you marry someone taller/shorter than you?

[heavenlyspot]

Personally, I like a guy to be taller then me.
I like to feel protected by my man, if he is shorted then me, then I don't feel as protected.

I don't mean to cause offensive to anyone, just my personal view

I agree with you sister... It's not so much about the way it looks, but rather the feeling. It's nice to feel protected. But then again I can't help feeling slightly guilty since when looking for a spouse, one needs to be picky in terms of religiosity, Islamic knowledge, behaviour and respectability. However Alhamdulilah women are also given the choice to choose/reject until she is completely satisfied wih her choice. And of course the same goes for the male.

Islam is all fair Alhamdulilah.
:wa:

 

[Italianguy]

I agree with you sister... It's not so much about the way it looks, but rather the feeling. It's nice to feel protected. But then again I can't help feeling slightly guilty since when looking for a spouse, one needs to be picky in terms of religiosity, Islamic knowledge, behaviour and respectability. However Alhamdulilah women are also given the choice to choose/reject until she is completely satisfied wih her choice. And of course the same goes for the male.

Islam is all fair Alhamdulilah.
:wa:

Hmmmmm....you have the option of opting out:hmm:.....niceeeeeee;D

My family doesn't usually get that option....Islam is looking more inticing every day.....just kidding i am already married. But i did get to choose from a couple (7 to be exact...all at one time) my parents picked........it was so odd;D

 

[Snowflake]

lol, i like that...not below 'see' level...awesome;D

My wife says it is a pain ironing a tall dudes clothes,;D just backin ya up on that one

She was trying to wear my shoes to go outside and get zainab....and tripped before she made it to the streetimsad.......well, in my deffense she shouldn't have been trying to wear a USA size 13.5:embarrass

lolll awww hope she didn't graze her knees. If I'd seen my hubby fall I'd have been like, ' Did you enjoy your trip ?' lol ;D

Originally Posted by mystical_moon
Personally, I like a guy to be taller then me.
I like to feel protected by my man, if he is shorted then me, then I don't feel as protected.

I don't mean to cause offensive to anyone, just my personal view

In terms of feeling protected, sometimes the feeling is what we think/hope we will feel. But it doesn't necessarily happen. I've seen short guys be as equally, if not more protective and macho than their taller counterparts. Tall guys can be scaredy cats too you know.

So it's not the size of his legs that matters, it's how big his heart is that counts. After all that's where he should be hiding you. :

 

[Italianguy]

lolll awww hope she didn't graze her knees. If I'd seen my hubby fall I'd have been like, ' Did you enjoy your trip ?' lol ;D





In terms of feeling protected, sometimes the feeling is what we think/hope we will feel. But it doesn't necessarily happen. I've seen short guys be as equally, if not more protective and macho than their taller counterparts. Tall guys can be scaredy cats too you know.

So it's not the size of his legs that matters, it's how big his heart is that counts. After all that's where he should be hiding you. :

lol, she didn't get hurt.

Tall guys be scaredy cats......idk about that....but ....my wife says i am just a big teddy bear(or something like that? :hmm: she says it in Tamil....i'm lost as usuall)

 

[heavenlyspot]

Hmmmmm....you have the option of opting out:hmm:.....niceeeeeee;D

My family doesn't usually get that option....Islam is looking more inticing every day.....just kidding i am already married. But i did get to choose from a couple (7 to be exact...all at one time) my parents picked........it was so odd;D

Well Intalianguy it's not necessarily opting someone out... it's just exercising a choice. And as I've said, Islam gives men the choice as well to do the exact same. Honestly- I know people (men and women) who spend ages looking for the right person.

 

[Italianguy]

Well Intalianguy it's not necessarily opting someone out... it's just exercising a choice. And as I've said, Islam gives men the choice as well to do the exact same. Honestly- I know people (men and women) who spend ages looking for the right person.

Your right. I understand what you were saying. ...Just seeing the humor in it i guess

 

[syilla]

I don't care, as long as she loves me. :hmm:

I'm not going to believe you :exhausted

and back to the topic.

I'm already married so i don't have to answer this :hmm:

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Hmmmmm....you have the option of opting out:hmm:.....niceeeeeee;D

My family doesn't usually get that option....Islam is looking more inticing every day.....just kidding i am already married. But i did get to choose from a couple (7 to be exact...all at one time) my parents picked........it was so odd;D

Seriously your parents chose for you?? I dont feel much for my parents picking out someone for me. I have to marry him not they...
Dunno dont feel much about..I have a personal question for you, you dont have to answer it if you dont want to..NO hard feelings hehe

But were you happy with your parents choice?? Seriously I would be scared to death, its a big descicion and you supposed to stay with that person your whole life....maybe I should start a thread about this very interesting topic...

Salaam

 

[Italianguy]

Seriously your parents chose for you?? I dont feel much for my parents picking out someone for me. I have to marry him not they...
Dunno dont feel much about..I have a personal question for you, you dont have to answer it if you dont want to..NO hard feelings hehe

But were you happy with your parents choice?? Seriously I would be scared to death, its a big descicion and you supposed to stay with that person your whole life....maybe I should start a thread about this very interesting topic...

Salaam

Mine is a long story...but....I didn't accept any of there choices. Don't get me wrong my parents have really good taste, they were all beautiful, but some were to young. when they were trying to set me up some of the women were extremely young! i was late 20's and they were teens.....but I ended up finding my own wife (the south Indian woman, that i always speak of) and thats a whole new Bollywood movie;D.....I did it the right way though and had my brother go talk to her dad first and then the long story begins....trust me it didn't go well at all at firstimsad........I mean thats not all that hard to see, I am Italian she's Indian, my Indian and Pakistani buddies here would understand why

Oh yeah and i am 30 my wife just tyrned 23

I will explain more if needed?

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Yeah know now why your screenname is Italianguy..Do you live in Italy?
And did you had to do the whole Bollywood thing like the indian clothes and the dancing before her house and the powder and stuff? Or is that just a moviething.
My parents would never accept if I married someone outside my race, im morrocan by the way. Personnaly im open for it, dont matter which type of people what matters is whats inside. And you could marry the most beautiful woman in the world but she could give you the most miserable life anyone has had. Beauty doesnt say anything seriously.
Think you should look beyond apperiences, only the theight is important, very bad of me but he seriously has to be taller..

 

[islamlover_girl]

I voted I don`t care,Good religion and personality make the women love her husband as he is ,whatever his tall or looking.

 

[Cabdullahi]

Yeah know now why your screenname is Italianguy..Do you live in Italy?
And did you had to do the whole Bollywood thing like the indian clothes and the dancing before her house and the powder and stuff? Or is that just a moviething.
My parents would never accept if I married someone outside my race, im morrocan by the way. Personnaly im open for it, dont matter which type of people what matters is whats inside. And you could marry the most beautiful woman in the world but she could give you the most miserable life anyone has had. Beauty doesnt say anything seriously.
Think you should look beyond apperiences, only the theight is important, very bad of me but he seriously has to be taller..

Classic example of Bi-polar activity

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Thats why i said for ME theres an exception, doesnt mean every1 her should agree with me. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion last time i checked..thats the way I look at the subject. And what u mean by Bipolar activity, just say its contradicting and be done with it Sir Joke a Less should be your name. HA!

 

[Italianguy]

Yeah know now why your screenname is Italianguy..Do you live in Italy?
And did you had to do the whole Bollywood thing like the indian clothes and the dancing before her house and the powder and stuff? Or is that just a moviething.
My parents would never accept if I married someone outside my race, im morrocan by the way. Personnaly im open for it, dont matter which type of people what matters is whats inside. And you could marry the most beautiful woman in the world but she could give you the most miserable life anyone has had. Beauty doesnt say anything seriously.
Think you should look beyond apperiences, only the theight is important, very bad of me but he seriously has to be taller..

Hehehe....wait:hmm:...why do you think my name is Italianguy?;D

I did get married in a Sherwani, she wore a saree. No we didn't have the powder or anything (thats a Hindu thing:skeleton We did do the dancing thing though(well...I...did;D) I,.. as a joke with some of my friends did a song from the movie "Kuch Kuch Hota Hai" I actually did the singing;D and dancing;D;D In Hindi and some Tamil. It was a blast and everyone was entertained to say the least. I also play the "Dhol" (a drum) so i and a couple of her cousins played some instruments...it was nice.

I agree it's what's inside that counts first and foremost! .......But i still got to marry the most beautiful woman in the world!Inside and out.

And my wife is a little over a foot shorter than me;D She said the same thing, "A man must be taller".


Oh I almost forgot. No I don't live in Italy, I live in Virginia USA

 

[★мαячαн★]

lol what a movie too dance too classic thoo i'll give uu thattt no onee cann not likee itt

 

[Italianguy]

lol what a movie too dance too classic thoo i'll give uu thattt no onee cann not likee itt

It is an awesome movie;D seen it like 20 times

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Hehehe....wait:hmm:...why do you think my name is Italianguy?;D

I did get married in a Sherwani, she wore a saree. No we didn't have the powder or anything (thats a Hindu thing:skeleton We did do the dancing thing though(well...I...did;D) I,.. as a joke with some of my friends did a song from the movie "Kuch Kuch Hota Hai" I actually did the singing;D and dancing;D;D In Hindi and some Tamil. It was a blast and everyone was entertained to say the least. I also play the "Dhol" (a drum) so i and a couple of her cousins played some instruments...it was nice.

I agree it's what's inside that counts first and foremost! .......But i still got to marry the most beautiful woman in the world!Inside and out.

And my wife is a little over a foot shorter than me;D She said the same thing, "A man must be taller".


Oh I almost forgot. No I don't live in Italy, I live in Virginia USA

Ok haha very interesting...and i was curious to know, how do you handle the cultural differences?? Dont u like bump into some stuff that causes some sort of conflict..And are you both christians or is she Hindi? Thats the only thing i worry about if i am gonna marry someone non-morrocan. Cultural differences and language..
Thanks for sharing your story by the way!

 

[Somaiyah]

walaikum assalam,
You are partially correct. Yes, morals, piety are also important. But Islam also allows us to marry those people to whom we are physically attracted. There is no point in marrying a wife/husband who does not physically attract you. If a person is most religious in the town but he/she ignores his/her health and is quite overweight, is there an obligation to marry that person? ....No offense to people who are overweight but we all have preferences.

Assalamu alaykum,

The attraction is very important, yes. But at the same time choosing between one who is a good person and a good Muslim but who might not attract you, and someone who is not a good person and not a good Muslim but who attracts you, who is the best to choose? So what I'm telling is not that attraction is not important, it is very important indeed, but with shallowness we come nowhere.


The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, says:
“A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her commitment to religion. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you prosper]!"

 

[Italianguy]

Ok haha very interesting...and i was curious to know, how do you handle the cultural differences?? Dont u like bump into some stuff that causes some sort of conflict..And are you both christians or is she Hindi? Thats the only thing i worry about if i am gonna marry someone non-morrocan. Cultural differences and language..
Thanks for sharing your story by the way!

There are many cultural differences...BUT, Italian culture and Indian culture are somewhat similar. No she is not Hindu, she and her family are all Christians. It's a long story, in the begining it was hard for both of us but now....it's better. Language wise, she speaks Tamil(mainly) she is from Tamilnadu, then Hindi and Urdu. And i speak Italian and some Tamil and Hindi We love each other and for most Indians being a Hindu is part of there culture,, but it's different if their Christian.But as far as aranged marriages and other cultural differences it stil stays the same.

I don't mind sharing anything

 

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

A lot of people are implying that we ought to look at religion only or that it ought to be the first thing inquired about - but in reality that probably isn't the proper way or smartest way to go about things. Imaam Ahmad (rahimullah) said:

قال الإمام أحمد: «إذا خطب رَجُلٌ امرأة، سأل عن جَمَالها أوّلاً. فإن حُمِدَ، سأل عن دِينِها. فإن حُمِدَ، تَزوّج. وإن لم يُحْمَدَ، يكون رَدَّهُ لأجْلِ الدِّين. ولا يَسألُ أوّلاً عن الدِّين، فإن حُمِدَ سأل عن الجمال، فإن لم يُحمَد، ردّها. فيكون ردَّه للجمال لا للدِّين»

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“If a man proposes to a woman, let him ask about her beauty first. If it is praiseworthy, let him ask about her religion, if that is praiseworthy, let him marry. If it (meaning: religion) isn’t praiseworthy, his rejection will be on accounts of religion. Don’t let him ask about religion first, if it is praiseworthy he will ask about beauty and if that (meaning: beauty) isn’t praiseworthy then he will reject her, and his rejection will be due to beauty not religion.”

Very practical advice from someone who understands the nature of people. It basically means that we ought to leave religion as the thing that we look into after beauty - religion should be that which either makes or breaks the decision to marry after everything else, i.e. make it the deciding factor. Because then the decision to marry or not will be based on the person's practice of the religion, not their looks. So in lights of that, there's nothing wrong with rejecting someone if you feel their height is not attractive to you. A lot of people are say that as long as the religion of the person is good, I'll marry so and so, but attraction, compatibility and mutual connection are just as important as religion. Allaah knows best.
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