Would you marry someone who has kids?

[Cabdullahi]

fat people need love too!


wa allah u 3alem

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Brother Sabr, I think my English is not very good. I don't understand your post to be honest.. What do you mean?

Salaam

 

[sabr*]

Brother Sabr, I think my English is not very good. I don't understand your post to be honest.. What do you mean?
Salaam

اشْهَدُ انْ لّآ اِلهَ اِلَّا اللّهُ وَ اَشْهَدُ اَنَّ مُحَمَّدً اعَبْدُه وَ رسوله

Ašh hadu al-lā ilāha illā-llāhu, wa ašh hadu anna Muhammadun ‘abduhu wa rasūluhu
I bear witness that none is worthy of worship but Allah, the One alone, without partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger


As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Ukhi Nasiha21:

1. Raising your own children is difficult. It requires a special person who is tolerant to assist raising the children you adopt when marrying.

2. My personal observance is that if you are not apart of an immigrants country of origin (but an active member of the Islamic Community) the challenges of marrying Muslimah who are attending a University or the children of the elders of the community are great. (The reality in our Communities)

I have witnessed Muslims seeking Zawj via online sites, or traveling to the desired countries and returning with a wife. (Asia,Africa,Middle East)

This is what Allah says to Ummah regarding interrelations with other cultures.

Surah Hujurat 49:13

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things).
(Y. Ali translation)

This is what the Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) said the qualities that can be sought for a mate and what is actually best if you don't want to be of the losers.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.

Posted with the best intentions. Hopefully it provided clarity.

 

[Donia]

fat people need love too!

So true, all the love can't go to the *pears* right?

1. Raising your own children is difficult. It requires a special person who is tolerant to assist raising the children you adopt when marrying.

That is a very true statement that I completely agree with. It does indeed take a special man or woman to accept someone else's children and raise them islamically and the right way. May Allah reward those who do this. Ameen.

JazakAllah for the replies, brothers and sisters. I enjoyed reading everyone's opinions.

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

اشْهَدُ انْ لّآ اِلهَ اِلَّا اللّهُ وَ اَشْهَدُ اَنَّ مُحَمَّدً اعَبْدُه وَ رسوله2. My personal observance is that if you are not apart of an immigrants country of origin (but an active member of the Islamic Community) the challenges of marrying Muslimah who are attending a University or the children of the elders of the community are great. (The reality in our Communities)

Ok I understand you better now. But why is it hard to find an educated partner then? There are loads out there..Do think its difficult to find a partner though since theres no dating and stuff in Islam. Not that I find that a problem or anything, the best way to get married is the islamic way. Avoids loads op problems. And I don't think getting a wife from the homecountry is a solution. That tends to cause some trouble as well regarding adjustment and stuff.

Salaam

 

[MMohammed]

Prophet Mohammed(S.A) also married Hazrat Khadija whilst she had few children.

 

[sabr*]

Ok I understand you better now. But why is it hard to find an educated partner then? There are loads out there..Do think its difficult to find a partner though since theres no dating and stuff in Islam. Not that I find that a problem or anything, the best way to get married is the islamic way. Avoids loads op problems. And I don't think getting a wife from the homecountry is a solution. That tends to cause some trouble as well regarding adjustment and stuff.
Salaam

اشْهَدُ انْ لّآ اِلهَ اِلَّا اللّهُ وَ اَشْهَدُ اَنَّ مُحَمَّدً اعَبْدُه وَ رسوله

Ašh hadu al-lā ilāha illā-llāhu, wa ašh hadu anna Muhammadun ‘abduhu wa rasūluhu
I bear witness that none is worthy of worship but Allah, the One alone, without partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger


As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Ukhi Nasiha21:

It is never difficult when you put your trust in Allah. The challenges that men put in your way is the issue. There is no dating in Islam. The Marriage Process thread I created outlines the entire process. A vetting process is included to ensure the Muslimah rights are protected.

But Muslims are human also and are fallible. If you review the threads created by AnonymousGender in advice section the marital issues are endless.

If a Muslim really wants to get married they will overcome any obstacles and get married. You seek the ideal situation and accept the reality. Traveling outside your location for a Zawj might be the option.

The expectations some of us have of marrying the Brother who is Strong in Din, wealthy, healthy, muscular, and handsome or the Sister who is Strong in Din, has earned at least a Bachelor's of Science Degree and is over 5'6' and not over 130lbs. isn't always realistic or simplistic.

 

[AlbanianMuslim]

I would if he was a widower for sure, kids need a mother!!

However, if he is a divorcee it would depend on the situation with his ex wife. Is she in the picture, how much, is she kind or hostile etc.

 

[Muhammad]

Questions like that of this thread are typically individual to each person and their circumstances. Most of these are old exhausted topics of this forum and lead to the demise of the former Marriage section, hence they are best avoided.

Thread closed.