Would you raise your children diffrently

[DaNgErOuS MiNdS]

from how you were raised as a child by your parents or do it exactly the same as your parents did to bring you up??

What would you change?? for the parents what did you change if anyhting in raising your kids?

 

[Kittygyal]

Salamualikum.

Nope, i wouldn't spoon feed them till there so called 'age'. Wouldn't give them that much love because they get spoilt easily.There's time for fun and time for seriousness. As i get grounded thats whats going to happen to future kids!

Change the rules!.. Nowadays kids that are soo young think there all that but hey at times they don't know who's there mom and who's there pa!

^Yes im nasty and strikt with little kids. Thats me ha.

Ma'assalama

 

[sevgi]

intresting thread.

No way would i ever raise my children the way that my parents raised, and continue to 'raise' me.

i'll keel the details to myself.

but, i dnt think that it is possible to raise ur children the same as our parents did...i mean, nature, culture, society, media...its all against us.

peace.

 

[aamirsaab]

My parents raised an awesome child: me. So I will most likely adopt their teaching methods and add my own - what I will add will vary on the situation and or child/ren. My children will be Elite Pakistanis. Inshallah.

 

[sevgi]

My parents raised an awesome child: me. So I will most likely adopt their teaching methods and add my own - what I will add will vary on the situation and or child/ren. My children will be Elite Pakistanis. Inshallah.

cough cough..

elite pakistani forum moderators....

cough

;D

 

['Abd al-Baari]

Most people would still consider me a child but i'll answer anyways

Simply put, no i wouldn't raise my children (If i have any, Inshallah) the way my parents raised me and my siblings.

I think that i'd have to be slightly stricter, i mean my parents are great but i think they've been to laid-back, for some this is a good thing but in the long-run it just makes it harder

^;D^

 

[Caller الداعي]

i think that ppl should read up on bringing up children before they have em....
i mean islam teaches us all aspects of life and this is one of them...a good book is tuhftul mawlood by imam ibn qayum... remember kids are what u make them...

 

[tomtomsmom]

For me there isn't a simple answer. My answer is yes and no. All parents make mistakes. But at the same time there is at least one thing they did right. It takes a lot of thought and reflection to see what each one is from your childhood. So I try very hard to strike a balance between the two. I take the good and bad that I learned from my parents and learn from both to try and make myself a better parent and give my son a better life then I had.

 

[Mysterious Uk]

I would treat the kids like my parents reagrding love and care but i think the discipline would be different because when i was little and naughty i usually got a smack lol

 

[*KB*]

Assalamualaykum

I would raise my children up how my mother did. My reason for this choice is that many people say that i am a good muslim (because thank Allah i am religious) and these days muslim children are not. I am good and religious because my mother taught me Islam since i was young and this is all down to my mother who brought me up along with my other brothers an sister singlehanded because my father passed away when i was only 4 and my little brother 2. So in honour of my mother I would raise my children up like she did. (Maybe a touch stricter lol )

Assalamualaykum
*KB*
:coolious:

 

[Kittygyal]

I think that i'd have to be slightly stricter, i mean my parents are great but i think they've been to laid-back, for some this is a good thing but in the long-run it just makes it harder

^;D^

LOL!! ahaha!!!

sowiee just had to chuff on that one excuse me *dirty cough*

Maybe it's time for some 'grounding' then i guess Ha? :uuh:
Listen Abdullah your parents love you and your siblings thats why they been 'laid-back' because they want to do whats best for you and your homies.. maybe i should report and tell 'em to do it the harder way

GROUNDING ALERT!!
NO MORE CANDIES
NO MORE OUTISDE/PLAYING
NO MORE COMPUTER

^ thats 'laid back ha?'

lol ffended:

 

['Abd al-Baari]

what i meant is that they have given me a lot of freedom..as in like they haven't forced anything on me...my parents are very religous so me and my siblings have picked this up automatically Alhamdulillah but for some people they parents will make them do what they say and when they say it

Hope you understand what i mean :X

 

[Kittygyal]

what i meant is that they have given me a lot of freedom..as in like they haven't forced anything on me...my parents are very religous so me and my siblings have picked this up automatically Alhamdulillah but for some people they parents will make them do what they say and when they say it

Hope you understand what i mean :X

Had to read that three times to understand what ya meant man :embarrass. Subhan'Allaah, im proud of you bro.. It's good to see the true muslims. *RESPECT*
Nowadays people don't know who there 'rents are.. it's terrible.

It's a good thing that whoever them children are they do what there 'rents say.. nowadays people don't even listen to there own homies!

STRIKT TO CHILDREN IS NEEDED AND THE RULES LIKE 'GROUNDING'! :coolious:

Is it true that Gujrati's are strikt and down to earth? :X

 

[rozeena]

i think i wud like to be more stricter as my parents r veri laid bak n nt dat. bt apart 4rm dt der cool reali!

 

[Al-Zaara]

Selam aleykum,


I've thought about those questions a long time. I wouldn't change much. They raised me up, and I'm a pretty good result if I may say so myself. Elhamdulillah.

I think I'd be a bit more open to speak about the girl-&-boy things :embarrass, inshaAllah. I kinda learned all I know at school, and my parents never brought it up and it is like "the taboo" thing in our home, to speak about feelings, thoughts about marriage, sex etc. I would want to be able to discuss like marriage with my father and about love with my mother... Or vice versa. You know. But, it doesn't work that way for us. Hehe.

After proposals and other things, that are signaling to my parents that I ain't a child no more, my parents still go all "Shhh, she could hear you! She won't understand" behind my back... lol. Cute, innit. That's parents for ya.


For me this is definitely something I'd want to do better if I have children, inshaAllah.

 

[cute123]

For me my parents are the best, the very thing that i feel is, apart from the raising, the amount our parents sacrficed for us - i dont think we would be able to. keeping that point apart, I would be very strict with my children (inshallah). Instill Islam in them since childhood, get them closer to ALLAH (SWT) and our Prophet sallalaho alaihi wassalam ,and not leave upto them to decide upon their own. like he will understand when he grows up, no - a strong no to music, tv, colddrinks and yes unislamic outfits. May allah help us to raise our children in the most islamic way.

 

[Tilmeez]

^^LOL This reminds me of a famous quote:

Before marriage i had six throries how to bring up children. Now I have six children and no more theories!

hewhew

 

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

Ali ibn Abi Talib said: "Raise your children differently from the way you were raised, as they will live in different times."

Don't know the source or authenticity as I heard it in a khutbah, but it is a wise saying nonetheless. Allaahu Alam.

 

[cute123]

Ali ibn Abi Talib said: "Raise your children differently from the way you were raised, as they will live in different times."

Don't know the source or authenticity as I heard it in a khutbah, but it is a wise saying nonetheless. Allaahu Alam.

thats really a gr8 saying.

 

[Intisar]

I'd be less lenient. My parents have a very authoritative/permissive style of parenting where they show love, care, warmth and support, but at the same time I feel like they give me a little too much freedom. I'd also enforce more rules in the household and make the home a little more deen-oriented inshaaAllaah. This is not to suggest though that my home isn't that way, I'd just want to increase it in my own family inshaaAllaah.