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#1. If you had a certain child that you knew would lie when asked a certain question, would you allow that that question to be raised?
#2. Would you punish the child for being a liar?
Thanks
Nimrod
Peace Nimrod:
I am really late responding to this as I was just reading the thread but I thought it was an interesting question.
For me, yes, I would still ask the question and give them the opportunity to not lie. I've always told my son, "If you do something wrong, ok, we can talk about it and I might get upset or you might get punished, BUT, if you lie to me about it I will be MORE angry and the punishment would be longer." I also explained to him that the more lies he tells the less people will trust him, so that in time they won't believe a word he says.
So, yup, I would definitely ask the question, and if he lied, he would be punished twice....once for the initial problem and once for lying. If he told me the truth, I would tell him how much I appreciate his honesty, do my best to not show anger (depending on the circumstances), and probably reduce his punishment for accepting responsibility and choosing to tell the truth even though he might have been afraid of the consequences.
As in faith, Allah, swt, has told us right from wrong....we have that information already so if we choose to do the wrong, we will be held accountable. If we do wrong and we turn to Allah, swt, admitting our wrong and sincerely ask for forigiveness the chances are very great we will be forgiven. We will all make mistakes, that's a given, but how we handle them and learn from them is what matters.
Peace,
Hana