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this is not a yes no thread i want to know if u would or wouldnt seriously really honestly k?

say a gooooooooooooooooood friend of yours is getting married...and his/her wedding is going to be a massive mixed musiced picture video u get the drift wedding

would you seriosuly really go?

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so how would u tell ur friend ur not gonna be there?
 
Asalamu Alaikum

I wouldn't go no. No chance.

I'd tell them straight sister, Islam forbids all this. I don't care whether you get hurt over it or not, but if I hurt Allah in making you happy and turning up, then forget about it. Don't wait for an answer or a polite 'but', just walk off.
 
No i wouldn't go. I have missed such weddings of close people before, i really dont care if they are hurt or insulted. Losing the company of unislamic people is not my headache. :)
 
hmmmmmmmmm i see so what if this was like one of ur closest friends
you dont usually..but just for them?
would u still say no?
 
Asalamu Alaikum

Take this perspective.

You make a friend happy once, you displease Allah forever. Count your losses.
 
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hmm thats true

jazakAllah you lot..your convincing me :D
 
jus say ''im busy'' if you are to weak to say i cant go, personally i just dont appear at the wedding (they never notice!)
 
amani said:
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this is not a yes no thread i want to know if u would or wouldnt seriously really honestly k?

say a gooooooooooooooooood friend of yours is getting married...and his/her wedding is going to be a massive mixed musiced picture video u get the drift wedding

would you seriosuly really go?

:w:
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if the person was a real good friend, then you would know them and they would know you pretty well. so if after finding out the wedding is going to be mixed seating with music being blasting and whatever else, then a good friend would understand if you opted to not attend such a wedding.

wasalam :shade:
 
zAk said:
loq,

tht's a better thing to do, present an EXCUSE !! :)
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wouldn't that be lying, besides telling the truth would be a much wiser thing to do. Obviously you need to state the reason you are not going to attend is because of such and such will be happening at your wedding and it contradicts what we follow as muslims follow.

all in a nice way hopefully, so the person does not take offense and think you know it all.

wasalam :shade:
 
Are they going to have music throughout the whole ceromony? When I usually go, they start the music after everyone finishes eating. So I eat and leave :p
 
Asalamu Alaikum

farhan247 said:
Are they going to have music throughout the whole ceromony? When I usually go, they start the music after everyone finishes eating. So I eat and leave :p
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Greedy bugger!

Don't lie, or make an excuse. Be honest and up front, and with the correct delievery, it might have some effect on your friend who may even choose to scrap all the "show".

An alternative is to send your little cousins (if you have any) to bring some food for you from the kitchen. I like eating on my own, outside.
 
no there wont be music all through
there will be on the mehndi day and theres gonna be a video man too :'(

also if i went i cant just eat and leave ...therell be stage and everything and knowing her she would choose our outfits too :S so if i dont go i dont go at all
but if i go ill be part of all the bad :(

my lil cousins wont be there :p
 
amani said:
no there wont be music all through
there will be on the mehndi day and theres gonna be a video man too :'(
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Yeh, similar thing happend at one wedding my parents went to..they walked out :p
 
sis amani the best thing to do is tell your friend the truth of why you can't attend the wedding or make some sort of arrangement that will suit you both
 
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Remember the truth never needs many words, whereas the Lie never can get enough. meaning that if you give a false excuse this time, trust me something will go wrong and you will have to explain yourself and in the end it wont look good for you....be honest and say that you would really want to attend the wedding but if it is a choice between pleasing Allah or a mere Insan then the choice is obvious
 
yeah sis amani i totally agree with bro khaldun, just tell the honest truth and you will feel better than lying
 
i wouldnt make an excuse cos im not good at lying :-[
 

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