You are Single, not Dead.

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tigerkhan said:
i think its not only women but men also bcm idealistic most of time. its all bcz of weakness of iman that we prefer worldly things much while searching for partner. i see many boys refusing proposal bcz girl is not attractive. same is case on other side, girls refuses mostly bcz boy is not well paid or not so dashing.
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Maybe when you're a teenager? As an adult you have different needs from your partner-- attractiveness is important yes but that's subjective? personality and character make a person attractive or horribly ugly even though from the outside they're pleasing to look at.
People are single for many different reasons and too numerous to count or sum up under one heading..

and Allah swt knows best,
 
^ i agree but thats what i experienced when i registered on a purematrimony. on site u cant see someone character or personality but ppl here are always running for job, beauty etc.
 
When its time for ya to have your other part then you will no matter what reasons kept ya single till that moment...we don`t know what best for us but Allah knows laa ilaha illa Allah...

May Allah make ya all happy and grant ya the best in this dunya and in Al Akhirah too Ameeen
 
tigerkhan said:
^ i agree but thats what i experienced when i registered on a purematrimony. on site u cant see someone character or personality but ppl here are always running for job, beauty etc
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Matrimonial sites are full of people like that, although not all.

Try to find a wife through the better way. Tell people around you that you are looking for a wife. Tell them to introduce you to a girl who is looking for a husband. Don't be ashamed, this is not a shameful thing. Many people in my place got married through this way.

And avoid exchange picture. This is not a good thing because we cannot see character and personality through picture. And also, actually picture can 'deceive' us. Just meet her if you want to know about her.
 
Great article and a great reminder of the fact that Allah is the best to decide when one should get married. it's normal to feel sad about being single but its best to make the best of one's time and to always remain hopeful.
 
ardianto said:
Try to find a wife through the better way. Tell people around you that you are looking for a wife. Tell them to introduce you to a girl who is looking for a husband. Don't be ashamed, this is not a shameful thing. Many people in my place got married through this way.
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brother i wish it could be possible..lol. actually i am cuurently in Australia. and i dont know much muslims here. the nearist masjid to me is a Turkish Masjid and they are all turkish ppl. anyway i wish that some miracle does happen.lol
 
It's Natural to yearn for your significant other. Patience is waiting proactively. Put the effort to get married and leave the results up to Allah (swt). If you want a good wife, work on getting closer to Allah (swt).
 
tigerkhan said:
actually i am cuurently in Australia.
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tigerkhan
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Join Date : Dec 2009
Location : Pakistan
Gender : Male

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Just Kidding. :)

How about tell your family in Pakistan to find a girl there?. In this case you cannot avoid look at picture before meet. But at least they can find a realistic girl.
 
7 billion people but no one is near to you.
When you are out of your house you are alone.
There is none to look at you.They have no time
to see what is happening beside
 
real islam said:
7 billion people but no one is near to you.
When you are out of your house you are alone.
There is none to look at you.They have no time
to see what is happening beside
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People always have time to look around, they always look at us, even pay attention to us. But we would not realize it if we always look at other direction.

What people see on us determine what people's view on us, and the most important, it determines how people would treat us.

If we could accept other people, other people would accept us. If we could not accept other people, ..... we would be alone.

:)
 
''You might be married to the worst man ever, like Asyah was married to Pharaoh - but it didn’t change her and her loyalty and love to Allaah.

You might be married to the best of men, like Prophet of God, and still not enter Heaven - like the wife of Nabi Lut a.s.

You might not get married to any man, like Maryam (alaiha salam), and Allaah can make your rank higher than any woman on Earth.

Strive in the way of Allah, don't worry about your marriage - that matter has already been decreed for you''
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well i heard from some ulama/ scholars it obligatory (wajib) to marry to complete ur eman.
 
tigerkhan said:
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:sl:
well i heard from some ulama/ scholars it obligatory (wajib) to marry to complete ur eman.
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Excuse me, my brother. Did you listen to ulama carefully?.

Nikah (marry) is wajib (obligatory) only for those who able to get married. Not every Muslim is able to get married although they want. Marriage is a bond of two persons with intention to build a family. If someone wants to get married but no one wants to marry him/her, is it means he/she fall into sin?.

Definition of wajib is: if we do it, we get reward, if we leave it, we get sin.
 
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ya i understand.
and u blv its difficult to define if anyone is "able" to marriage or not. eg im engineer, doing full time job since 4 years but my family thinks i am still not eligible for marriage financially....lol
 
tigerkhan said:
ya i understand.
and u blv its difficult to define if anyone is "able" to marriage or not. eg im engineer, doing full time job since 4 years but my family thinks i am still not eligible for marriage financially....lol
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Brother, not only you, not only me, but mostly of young men who want to get married get question from their families "are you sure you are able to fulfill your wife needs?". :D

They just want to remind us that marriage need financial responsibility beside other responsibilities. But actually, who determine you are financially able or not able to get married is your future wife. If she does not mind with your financial condition today, ... what are you waiting for?.

Mostly of women do not look at what you have today, but they look at your level of responsibility, or in another word, look at your prospect for the future. Many rich husbands today got married when their income was not so high like now.
 
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JazakAllah O kair for ur concern and advise, i really appreciate it. insh i will do it soon, may Allah SWT ease the matter for me.
 
~Zaria~ said:
Single and upset?
You might be not married to any man, like Maryam [Mary] (Allah Be Pleased With Her) and Allah can make your rank higher than any women on the Earth. Know your priorities. Love and trust is with Allah first.
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SubhaanAllaah!
 
ardianto said:
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Brother, not only you, not only me, but mostly of young men who want to get married get question from their families "are you sure you are able to fulfill your wife needs?". :D

They just want to remind us that marriage need financial responsibility beside other responsibilities. But actually, who determine you are financially able or not able to get married is your future wife. If she does not mind with your financial condition today, ... what are you waiting for?.

Mostly of women do not look at what you have today, but they look at your level of responsibility, or in another word, look at your prospect for the future. Many rich husbands today got married when their income was not so high like now.
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Tigerkhan is right , women and especially their parents are concerned about financially wellbeing of their daughter and are thus very materialistic and make marriage difficult for young people by making excessive demands of dower, housing and furniture

These should always be of reasonable standard so that they do not discourage young people from marriage and cause a general delay in the marriage age in society.

This is unfortunately the case in some Muslim countries, where you find most people unable to get married before they reach their late twenties or early thirties. In some
cases, people reach 40 years of age before they have a realistic chance of being married. That is a situation, which leads to much corruption.
 

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