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i stopped but want to do it again
why?!
**Your Advice - Self Harm**
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why?!
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u get a buzz out of it and it distacts you frm life
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cant you just do something else that distracts you? go for a walk, chit chat to someone, write stries/poems. :sunny:
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Understanding why you do it
Stopping is easier if you can find other ways of expressing or coping with your feelings. To do this you need to try to understand what makes you do it. Lots of people don't know why they hurt themselves so it may be useful to think about:
Understanding why you do it
Stopping is easier if you can find other ways of expressing or coping with your feelings. To do this you need to try to understand what makes you do it. Lots of people don't know why they hurt themselves so it may be useful to think about:
- What was going on in your life when you first began to harm yourself
- How you feel just before you want to hurt yourself
- Whether you would find it useful to keep a 'mood' diary, writing down your feelings at different times
- Whether you are always in the same place or with a particular person
- If you have any bad memories or thoughts that you can't tell anyone.
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Thinking about other things
When you feel anxious or upset, doing something you enjoy or trying to think about other things can be a way to help you stop hurting yourself. You could try:
Thinking about other things
When you feel anxious or upset, doing something you enjoy or trying to think about other things can be a way to help you stop hurting yourself. You could try:
- Phoning a friend
- Writing down your feelings in a diary
- Drawing or reading
- Going for a walk or a run, dancing, exercising or playing sport
- Counting down slowly from 10 to 0
- Breathing slowly, in through the nose and out through the mouth
- Focusing on objects around you and thinking about what they look, sound, smell, taste and feel like.
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If you still want to hurt yourself
If you still want to hurt yourself try:
If you still want to hurt yourself
If you still want to hurt yourself try:
- Finding a safe punching bag like some pillows
- Putting your hands into a bowl of ice cubes for a short time or rubbing ice on the part of your body you feel like injuring
- Using a red felt tip marker or lipstick to mark your body instead of cutting
- Putting a rubber band around your wrist and flicking it
- Putting sticking plasters on the parts of your body you want to injure.
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It can be hard to stop
Self-harm can be really hard to stop. It may take time and there are likely to be ups and downs along the way. Sometimes, however hard you try on your own, you just can't cope with your feelings.
If you can't stop wanting to hurt yourself it's best to get help from someone you can trust. This means finding someone who you can talk to about your problems and who can give you practical help.
> If you do not feel ready to stop self-harming
Harming yourself may have become a way of dealing with your feelings that you find hard to imagine coping without. If this is how you feel, here are some ways to help you look after yourself.
It can be hard to stop
Self-harm can be really hard to stop. It may take time and there are likely to be ups and downs along the way. Sometimes, however hard you try on your own, you just can't cope with your feelings.
If you can't stop wanting to hurt yourself it's best to get help from someone you can trust. This means finding someone who you can talk to about your problems and who can give you practical help.
> If you do not feel ready to stop self-harming
Harming yourself may have become a way of dealing with your feelings that you find hard to imagine coping without. If this is how you feel, here are some ways to help you look after yourself.
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I self-harmed. It started out in the most stupid way possible. My sister did it and as a teen I thought well I can too. Just to show that I'm not scared of cutting myself when feeling down. How dumb was that!? Anyway, later I carried on for the same reasons as most self-harmers do. Until, one day I thought Ugh! What will happen when I have kids and they see all these scars. They will ask what they are and worse may eventually do the same cuz kids follow by example. That thought was so scary that I stopped harming straight away, hoping the old scars will fade. My depression is worse than ever. But I cry to Allah to heal me. That's how I cope.
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^ Assalamu Alaikum
try to not think of it as depression.
try think of it as trials, this dunya aint meant for ease, just persevere inshaAllah.
thinking that its "depression" is like weakening our mentality... you have the capability of still smiling and being happy right...
too many people depressed these days!!!
try to not think of it as depression.
try think of it as trials, this dunya aint meant for ease, just persevere inshaAllah.
thinking that its "depression" is like weakening our mentality... you have the capability of still smiling and being happy right...
too many people depressed these days!!!
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^ depression is a real illness and like others needs the correct treatment. I know so many people use the word 'depression' when feeling sad etc.. But depression is serious and goes beyond that. It the point where one stops functioning normally or behaving rationally. Bipolar depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. I don't know what causes the imbalance but I think it may be when a person has gone through so much crap and tried to brave it, but things have continued to get worse for them. I believe the stress weakens a person's immune system or nervous system and that in turn causes the imbalance. I dunno, it's my theory.
SubhanAllah.. I feel so dizzy after reading some posts, I can't actually handle things like these because it feels as if I can feel the pain, I imagine it too strongly..
All I wanted to add was you're all in my duaas inshaAllah, I really hope you and many others will get help and find peace and get out of this horrible state you're in..
All I wanted to add was you're all in my duaas inshaAllah, I really hope you and many others will get help and find peace and get out of this horrible state you're in..
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As Salaam Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu and Greetings.
It may seem as though you are all alone in the world; that there isn't anybody who can help you through your situation, but there is. Many organisations and groups can offer you support and there are also different strategies you can use to stop self harming.
Accept that you are a self harmer and you want to get out of this situation. Believe that you need to stop self harming and you want to find a safer way of coping with your problems. Be brave, take a deep breath and seek some help. It has to be your decision, if you try to quit for anyone other than yourself you probably won't be able to stop.
The best way you can help yourself is by talking about how you feel and learning to deal with those issues that have caused you to self harm in the first place. You may find you can turn to a close friend, family member or teacher.
Write down who you are angry at rather than taking that anger out on yourself. Pretend a pillow is that person and take your anger out on that instead.
Stay with it, if you find that counselling/ medication isn't working for you then re-evaluate your options and try another. Stay determined.
It may seem as though you are all alone in the world; that there isn't anybody who can help you through your situation, but there is. Many organisations and groups can offer you support and there are also different strategies you can use to stop self harming.
Accept that you are a self harmer and you want to get out of this situation. Believe that you need to stop self harming and you want to find a safer way of coping with your problems. Be brave, take a deep breath and seek some help. It has to be your decision, if you try to quit for anyone other than yourself you probably won't be able to stop.
The best way you can help yourself is by talking about how you feel and learning to deal with those issues that have caused you to self harm in the first place. You may find you can turn to a close friend, family member or teacher.
Write down who you are angry at rather than taking that anger out on yourself. Pretend a pillow is that person and take your anger out on that instead.
Stay with it, if you find that counselling/ medication isn't working for you then re-evaluate your options and try another. Stay determined.
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Emm... If I may throw in my 2 cents.
If I was depressed I'd figure out why I was depressed, and then try and change those circumstances so I wouldn't have to be depressed about it. The only person who can get you out of a depression in the end is you yourself, it makes no sense to believe others can do it for you. Yes, others can help you realize stuff that pertains to your depression (and don't underestimate sharing your feelings with others), but in the end it's your own entity who has to come to terms with the world in one way or another, either by accepting the circumstances and stop cutting, or changing the circumstances and stop cutting. Most likely you're torn in between these two choices and can't make up your mind.
If it's circumstances in regards to your culture or your religion it may be hard to find a non-biased 'listener'. In that case a psychologist is your friend, they have taken the vow of silence and what goes on between the two of you never leaves the room.
I must say I find it grotesque to suggest using 'surrogate' cutting as a replacement, that doesn't rid anyone of depression, it just make it seem ok.
If I was depressed I'd figure out why I was depressed, and then try and change those circumstances so I wouldn't have to be depressed about it. The only person who can get you out of a depression in the end is you yourself, it makes no sense to believe others can do it for you. Yes, others can help you realize stuff that pertains to your depression (and don't underestimate sharing your feelings with others), but in the end it's your own entity who has to come to terms with the world in one way or another, either by accepting the circumstances and stop cutting, or changing the circumstances and stop cutting. Most likely you're torn in between these two choices and can't make up your mind.
If it's circumstances in regards to your culture or your religion it may be hard to find a non-biased 'listener'. In that case a psychologist is your friend, they have taken the vow of silence and what goes on between the two of you never leaves the room.
I must say I find it grotesque to suggest using 'surrogate' cutting as a replacement, that doesn't rid anyone of depression, it just make it seem ok.
"No burden do We place on any soul, but that which it can bear" Al-An'am 6:152
Allah does not burden anyone more than they can bear but that dosnt mean its not possible for a person to be over burdened but its not Allah who overburdens them, they themselves do it, just like Allah also says "It is not Allah who wrongs them, but they wrong their own souls"
People like this really need to wake up and drink the coffee, your beyond smelling it, i know i know its hard but there are people in far worser conditions, maybe this isnt a very advisable post but if its still open later, i try, well thats if my advice is wanted
JazakAllah
Allah does not burden anyone more than they can bear but that dosnt mean its not possible for a person to be over burdened but its not Allah who overburdens them, they themselves do it, just like Allah also says "It is not Allah who wrongs them, but they wrong their own souls"
People like this really need to wake up and drink the coffee, your beyond smelling it, i know i know its hard but there are people in far worser conditions, maybe this isnt a very advisable post but if its still open later, i try, well thats if my advice is wanted
JazakAllah
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It's not a simple as you think. Depression may not be due to present circumstances, but could be a result of things that have happened in the past. You might say then get counselling and deal with the past. Yet counselling/drugs don't help everyone. Nobody likes to be depressed and it makes it worse when people don't understand it and tell you to 'just get on with it'. Nobody tells a cancer patient to do that. Then why tell a depressed person to that just because their illness can't be seen or understood. Believe it or not depression is an illness.
No one's disputing that Allah places on a person more than his share of burdens. I agree that we wrong ourselves, Allah doesn't. Nevertheless depression isn't simply a case of feeling sorry for oneself. So telling people to 'snap out of it' is just ignorance. I suggest you and others who cannot understand this mental health disorder take a look at the link below.
http://mentalhealth.about.com/od/depression/a/depression1.htm