ive been searching on google to find an answer and nearly all the opinions is that is for each ramadan i missed intentionally (no matter how many days) i must perform kafara and qadaa.
to perform kafara:
must pay to free a slave
if you cant free a slave then you must fast consecutively for 60 days
if you cant fast for 60 days you must feed 60 poor people
plus you must perform qadaa as well based on how many days missed
most of the opinions are from fatwas but one of them did give me a evidence:
narrated by Abu Huraira in the following Hadeeth: "A man came to Allah's Apostle and said, "I am ruined." The Prophet asked, "What do you mean?" He said, "I had a sexual intercourse with my wife during Ramadan (while fasting)." The Prophet asked him, "Can you manumit a slave?" He replied in the negative. He then asked him, "Can you fast for two successive months continuously" He replied in the negative. The Prophet then asked him, "Can you feed sixty poor persons?" He replied in the negative. In the meantime an Ansari came with a basket full of dates. The Prophet said to the man, "Take it and give it in charity (as an expiation of your sin)." The man said "Should I give it to some people who are poorer than we O Allah's Apostle? By Him Who has sent you with the truth, there is no family between Medina's two mountains poorer than we." Allah's Apostle told him to take it and provide his family with it. Allah knows best.
most of the answers from fatwas are based on questions missing one day of ramadan but i found a couple stating the amount of days missed makes no difference
ok now to praise allah for not giving me a wife!

i have plenty of fasting to do
ps. as for not paying zakat i still havent found an answer if i have to pay fidya or something else