Anger

wow!! u gotta calm down....i mean all of us has anger rite...but lashin out at ur husband!! *shakes head in disbelief*...i no how it feels wen ur angry...i mean it happens to me wid ma parents...i obviously dont lash out but i do argue...i no it aint gud but atleast betta dan lashin out. so wat i wud say is dat u ry to control it....argue if u wanna but do not cause physical harm by lashin out

Salaam.

Calm down back there. Now I'm in no position to advise you on this, but I can say that normally, when two people argue all the time over almost every little thing, it's 'cause there's something else that either of them wants sorting.

Talk to him about whether he needs help with anything. Or if there's something that he wants that's missing. You'll be suprised to know.

but in sum cases it cud be different...cuz i sumtimes feel lyk am loosin...so lyk i keep arguin until da other person stops...lyk ma parents...i jus cant tolerate it if dey won da argument :grumbling any advise bot dat...cuz its related to da topic innit

Please try not to be angry, think about whats happening, be calm, be rational and follow the advise below

Volume 8, Book 73, Number 74:
Narrated Sulaiman bin Surad:

A man from the companions of the Prophet said, "Two men abused each other in front of the Prophet and one of them became angry and his anger became so intense that his face became swollen and changed. The Prophet said, "I know a word the saying of which will cause him to relax if he does say it." Then a man went to him and informed him of the statement of the Prophet and said, "Seek refuge with Allah from Satan." On that, angry man said, 'Do you find anything wrong with me? Am I insane? Go away!"

1. say audhubillah himinash shaytaanir rajim weneva you feel angry

Volume 8, Book 73, Number 135:
Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah's Apostle said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."


Sahih Bukhari

say sister control yourself and try to find the root of your anger... it could be jelousy.. just a thot

Be patient for Innallaha maa as-sabireen (Allah is wiv the patient)

it isnt jealousy bro...its ju dat i h8 lusin arguments .....n well i tried seekin refuge but i jus cant stop....sumtimes i do wen i no dat ma dads gonna xplode...but still ma anger remains...n i dont talk to him 4 lyk 2 or 3 days...

format_quote Originally Posted by Iqram

Trust me......Argue wiv ur parents, and ur dead!


Just stay quiet....listen to waht they say.........and do nothing..........

I'm talkin frm past experience........

Also, those Kalms tablets are good if u can't do it urself.....

Altho i neva used it maself.

bro i vnt xperienced less!!...i mean all ma lyf practically...if u knew wat iv been thru u wudnt v told me to stay quiet...trust me...im all over it...its jus lyk smtime i fell lyk i h8 em....n not only them...ma sistas as well...at dose tyms its betta if im left alone...but dey jus wont leave me :grumbling

format_quote Originally Posted by Iqram

Trust me......Argue wiv ur parents, and ur dead!


Just stay quiet....listen to waht they say.........and do nothing..........

I'm talkin frm past experience........

Also, those Kalms tablets are good if u can't do it urself.....

Altho i neva used it maself.

Allahs blessing is not on the discussion which turns into an argument!!!

btw lol you can neva go "against" your parents, jus dont try it lol, you'd open your mouth and hear

"CHUP!!!!!!"

lol

format_quote Originally Posted by Iqram

Exactly......Don't even think it.......

Just keep quiet....think of the achievement of argue and what u will achieve if u dont......

I can't stand it some of the things my dad goes on about.......

Now it's got to a point that i dont care anymore.

what the HEY!!, respect your parents!!
Care about what they say! Care about what they believe in! Realise that they only want the best for you!
bro trust you gotta wait till your older, dats when your dad will giv you more value and prob listen to you but for now "LISTEN TO HIM".. unless he goes against islam of course

format_quote Originally Posted by Pr4sE

Please try not to be angry, think about whats happening, be calm, be rational and follow the advise below

Volume 8, Book 73, Number 74:
Narrated Sulaiman bin Surad:

A man from the companions of the Prophet said, "Two men abused each other in front of the Prophet and one of them became angry and his anger became so intense that his face became swollen and changed. The Prophet said, "I know a word the saying of which will cause him to relax if he does say it." Then a man went to him and informed him of the statement of the Prophet and said, "Seek refuge with Allah from Satan." On that, angry man said, 'Do you find anything wrong with me? Am I insane? Go away!"

1. say audhubillah himinash shaytaanir rajim weneva you feel angry

Volume 8, Book 73, Number 135:
Narrated Abu Huraira:

Allah's Apostle said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."


Sahih Bukhari

say sister control yourself and try to find the root of your anger... it could be jelousy.. just a thot

Be patient for Innallaha maa as-sabireen (Allah is wiv the patient)

Jazakallah for all of the words of advice everyone. The funny thing is i am really not a violent person at all so when i get like this i feel so so bad for my hubby (although he plays his part in all of this) .I had a think about it and i do think that we have some communication problems. My hubby will not discuss problems where as i need to talk about them there and then. I try to walk away sometimes but i often end up feeling worse . I dunno i think its just me being hormonal. Anyway thanks again

format_quote Originally Posted by Pr4sE

what the HEY!!, respect your parents!!
Care about what they say! Care about what they believe in! Realise that they only want the best for you!
bro trust you gotta wait till your older, dats when your dad will giv you more value and prob listen to you but for now "LISTEN TO HIM".. unless he goes against islam of course

of course daddys lisen wen we r older n dey are old....duh dey dont v any power on u plus dey no dat if dey do summink ud proly go n abandon dem

well....u say dat e shud care bout our parents...care wat dey say...yeh i did once...but dont anymore...i mean da same lecture n da same kinda beatin....man!!...i get bored

format_quote Originally Posted by Tagrid

of course daddys lisen wen we r older n dey are old....duh dey dont v any power on u plus dey no dat if dey do summink ud proly go n abandon dem

well....u say dat e shud care bout our parents...care wat dey say...yeh i did once...but dont anymore...i mean da same lecture n da same kinda beatin....man!!...i get bored

your dad beats you?... lol SO DID MINE!!!!
and gess what, now i aint a gagnster, i got a good job and im keeping my mum really happy plus i pray and do my duties to Allah (swt)! I got mass beatings, you dont kno, but i was some spoilt brat and i dont blame my parents, i love em!
They lectured me on a regular but i neva got bored, i thot theres a reason behind each lecture!!

sister please dont treat your parents like there minor coz they play a MAJOR part in your goin to heaven!!!
plz try to understand the importance of there words and try your best to respect what they say and obey them!
i kno it can be hard sometimes, BELIEVE ME I DO!! but there our parents... even if there kaafir, EVEN IF THERE THE KUFFAR we have to treat them nicely!!

inshaAllah may Allah guide us!!!

Salaam.

Hormonal or not, when there's a little odd bit of air, it should be settled instantly. It could end up building up to a huge thing, which would result in the both of you having a go at each other whenever possible.

Like I said, you need to ask and talk to him. Hope it goes well.

sister be patient wiv him inshaAllah, ask him wats wrong and talk it out. If while talking both of you feel angry, pressured then say audhubillah himinash shaytaanir rajim, take a break and get bak to it but always rememba ur love for each other...

im not good at this coz i aint married lol but.. . hope i helped



I pray Allah helps you sis!!!

yea but dats da fing...he WONT talk fings out