Accepting to be in a polygamous relationship has nothing to do with where you're raised..be it Canada..Saudia or Timbaktu one can be a second/third/fourth wife, according to her state of Iman or so I like to believe, correct me if im wrong..
sharing one's husband is no easy feat but if you truly have your heart set on pleasing Allah the concept of polygamy would not seem so daunting.
I've heard of sisters who share their husbands with their best friends, in a world where the ratio of men to women is so uneven is it not selfish not to share your husband with other God-fearing sisters?
the level of intimacy need not vary just because you have a co-wife, it all depends on ones attitude towards the akhira, remember that this world is temporary and that Allah has promised us unfathomable rewards if we perservere and show great character, is not this a test for us women? Besides were you not in a monogamous relationship of sorts? how did that work out for you?
It seems the purpose of peoples lives today isnt to attain jannah in the hereafter but rather to find the 'love of our lives' or as many tend to say 'the one' when we forget that Allah is Al-Wahid and that He alone is sufficient for us..
It is to him we belong and to him we return, doesnt this thought make marriage seem truly insignificant? if we honestly married to complete our deen instead of 'finding happiness' we would have less divorce rates and happier muslims in general..
im sorry to have gone on and on but sis your looking at things from a very bad angle..
you should think of growing your knowledge in Islam rather than finding a husband..you just came out of a bad relationship, I honestly felt your pain as I read your original post!
Concentrate on Allah and things will inshallah fall into place..
who knows we might end up sharing a husband
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(jumping the gun a bit)
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