Four Husbands

Asalaamz,

I hope everyone is enjoying their Ramadan... May Allah make it easy and rewarding for everyone.

So, on to the topic... I need to know explicit reasons why Islam prohibits women from having multiple husbands.

I've read many things about the woman being barren and stuff, but the man can also be impudent and in that case... she has to divorce him where as the Man can just get another wife. So, if someone can give me a list of reason only applicable to a woman as to why women cannot have more than one husband that would be greatly appreciated.

This is for discussion with non-muslims.

Thanks,
W'salaamz

Alpha Dude said:

Wa alaykum salam,

If both men and women were allowed multiple partners, then it would lead to a big chain of married people. Let me elaborate:
1 man marries 4 women. Each of those 4 women is married to 3 other guys. Each of those other guys is married to 3 other women. And so on.. it could be an infinite chain. :hmm: So clearly, if it has to be allowed, it has to be limited to one sex being given that opportunity only.

And why should it be men and not women that are allowed? I guess the simplest explanation might be that we can't know who the father of any child is, if a woman is in a polygamous marriage.

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you know i wanted to ask that question also because the man has every right to marry another woman if his first wife cannot have kids or she is disabled but yet if the womans husband is tha one who cannot produce or is disabled then whats the woman mean't to do? also what would be the need for the child to know who his dad is after all wouldn't he be calling them all his guardians? sure a the child can also get confused who his mum is if there was more the one woman in the house and they would be also loving the child like there own:hmm: like this has confused me a bit.. and i would also like some clears and proper evidence that a woman cannot marry more then one husband. i have not come across it in the hadiths yet or is it written in holy QURAN on some surah i missed?:hmm:

Polygamy has been there since the dawn of time

Every nation, every civilisation has practiced it in their own way,

Its not like islam suddenly came along, and invented it, islam came to regulate it

There is a biological reason for this but I don't want to get into it 7 mins and 08 seconds before iftar..

i would like polygamy to be both ways.. finding out who the father is can be easily solved these days so wouldn't that make it halal in these times

cat eyes said:

i would like polygamy to be both ways.. finding out who the father is can be easily solved these days so wouldn't that make it halal in these times

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Can you give me a reason as to why you want more than one husband

I await skyes answer

Woah so many people thinking about multiple spouses :O .. Is marriage so crazy ?

If that was applicable we get the endless big chain of married that brother Alpha talked about, we even might end up having the brother marry his sister without either one of them knowing

the reason behind that is biological, emotional and social

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Question:

Why are women not allowed to have 3 or 4 husbands but men can have 3 or 4 wives?

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

This is connected primarily to faith in Allaah. All religions are agreed that it is not permissible for a woman to have intercourse with anyone except her husband. Among these religions are those which are undoubtedly of heavenly origin, such as Islam and the original versions of Judaism and Christianity. Belief in Allaah dictates submission to His rulings and laws, for Allaah is All-Wise and All-Knowing, He knows what is in the best interests of mankind. So we may understand the wisdom behind the ruling of sharee’ah, or we may not be able to grasp it.

With regard to the permissibility of multiple spouses for men and its prohibition for women, there are several issues which are obvious to every intelligent person. Allaah has made woman like a vessel, but man is not like that. If a woman becomes pregnant (when she has had intercourse with a number of men at one time), the father can never be known. People’s lines of descent and lineage will be mixed up, families will be destroyed and children will be lost. Women will be burdened with so many children that they will be unable to bring them up and spend on their maintenance. Maybe women would find themselves forced to sterilize themselves, which would lead to the extinction of the human race. Moreover it is medically proven now that one of the major causes of the serious diseases which have become widespread, such as AIDS etc., is women having intercourse with more than one man, and the mixing of seminal fluids in the woman’s womb causes these lethal diseases. Hence Allaah has prescribed a waiting period (‘iddah) for a woman who has been divorced or whose husband has died, until enough time has passed for her womb and passages to be cleansed of any traces of her former husband, and the monthly period also has a role to play in this matter. Perhaps these brief pointers will dispense with the need for a lengthy discussion. If the purpose of the question is research for a university or other assignment, he may refer to the books which have been written on the topic of plural marriage (polygyny) and the wisdom behind it. And Allaah is the Source of strength.

Shaykh Sa’d al-Humayd

IslamQA

why not take a survey asking how many women would want more than one husband?

theres no point on having a survey... this matter is clear. alhumdulilah. Women can only have 1 husband.

nebula said:

theres no point on having a survey... this matter is clear. alhumdulilah. Women can only have 1 husband.

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True!

If a woman cant stand living with a husband who keep asking for many things to be done, can she stand living with another clone of that man and be able to cope between them?
give it another though guys :hmm:, look at it from different angles !!

DigitalStorm82 said:

Asalaamz,

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When you ask such questions, you are questioning Allah's Justice and Wisdom. Not a good thing imo.

cat eyes said:

and i would also like some clears and proper evidence that a woman cannot marry more then one husband. i have not come across it in the hadiths yet or is it written in holy QURAN on some surah i missed?:hmm:

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Also (forbidden are) women already married, except those (captives and slaves) whom your right hands possess. Thus has Allah ordained for you. All others are lawful, provided you seek (them in marriage) with Mahr... Surah 4 Al-Nisa, verse 24

nebula said:

theres no point on having a survey... this matter is clear. alhumdulilah. Women can only have 1 husband.

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I don't think you understood my point. If you take a survey, you will see most women want just one husband. This is because it is in a woman's nature to want only one husband at a time. Islam is the religion according to a person's nature & not against it. Asking why Allah didn't allow women to have more than one husband equates with questioning His justice but what Allah did is according to our nature.

al Amaanah said:

:salamext:

Question:

Why are women not allowed to have 3 or 4 husbands but men can have 3 or 4 wives?

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

This is connected primarily to faith in Allaah. All religions are agreed that it is not permissible for a woman to have intercourse with anyone except her husband. Among these religions are those which are undoubtedly of heavenly origin, such as Islam and the original versions of Judaism and Christianity. Belief in Allaah dictates submission to His rulings and laws, for Allaah is All-Wise and All-Knowing, He knows what is in the best interests of mankind. So we may understand the wisdom behind the ruling of sharee’ah, or we may not be able to grasp it.

With regard to the permissibility of multiple spouses for men and its prohibition for women, there are several issues which are obvious to every intelligent person. Allaah has made woman like a vessel, but man is not like that. If a woman becomes pregnant (when she has had intercourse with a number of men at one time), the father can never be known. People’s lines of descent and lineage will be mixed up, families will be destroyed and children will be lost. Women will be burdened with so many children that they will be unable to bring them up and spend on their maintenance. Maybe women would find themselves forced to sterilize themselves, which would lead to the extinction of the human race. Moreover it is medically proven now that one of the major causes of the serious diseases which have become widespread, such as AIDS etc., is women having intercourse with more than one man, and the mixing of seminal fluids in the woman’s womb causes these lethal diseases. Hence Allaah has prescribed a waiting period (‘iddah) for a woman who has been divorced or whose husband has died, until enough time has passed for her womb and passages to be cleansed of any traces of her former husband, and the monthly period also has a role to play in this matter. Perhaps these brief pointers will dispense with the need for a lengthy discussion. If the purpose of the question is research for a university or other assignment, he may refer to the books which have been written on the topic of plural marriage (polygyny) and the wisdom behind it. And Allaah is the Source of strength.

Shaykh Sa’d al-Humayd

IslamQA

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but where in the hadiths is it written, where in the only qur'an is it written. is there anything even written from the early scholars? like i just want clear and understandable evidence thats as we all know times are changing Allah knows, its easy to find out who the father is these days with the technolegy we have today! look a scholar has many different types of views on everything concerning shariah law.. you will find loads of scholars will says different things about a certain law which might not be right and he is just making from his own head what he think is right.

like a man, a woman has needs now if her husband becomes disabled and can't fufil her sexual needs, what is she mean't do? she loves him and don't want to leave him but she is not happy and she wants another husband which will make up for the rest of her needs. and i am dead sure that there is women like that in the world..

i am just saying in some cases it should be allowed!

about the mingling of different sexes sure obviously the man has to take permission from his first wife to get married to another woman so therefore it can be controled!

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Allah has perfected this deen. why should something be allowed now because time has changed?

i believe things should be made halal in some cases. we are all humans no matter if we are man or woman.. it bothers me when a woman comes to a scholar and asks for his advice on sensitive issue's such as this and he tells her divorce your brain dead husband and marry another man to have your kids how would that be islamicly right?when she loves her first husband dearly and wants to take care of him, wants to give him affection but yet she is longing for children. and like mabe a man might have other problems in the bed area.

i have never been the type to shy away from things like this and i have always been open like some women don't talk about this because they are to afraid men will call them horrible names i won't mention what they might say but i am speaking as a woman and a HUMAN with needs. i hate the way some men believe and talk as if we have no needs, like they are basically calling us something else other then human. yes its true brothers women do think about having more than one husband for many a reason but at the same time she fears Allah and want to do everything right to not hurt anybody with divorce as divorce is hated by Allah swt. a human can love more then one person. if yous believe aids will spread by a woman sleeping with more then one man sure it would be the very same thing for a man to sleep with loads of women aids spreads also in this case if you don't get checked come on!!

DigitalStorm82 said:

Asalaamz,

I hope everyone is enjoying their Ramadan... May Allah make it easy and rewarding for everyone.

So, on to the topic... I need to know explicit reasons why Islam prohibits women from having multiple husbands.

I've read many things about the woman being barren and stuff, but the man can also be impudent and in that case... she has to divorce him where as the Man can just get another wife. So, if someone can give me a list of reason only applicable to a woman as to why women cannot have more than one husband that would be greatly appreciated.

This is for discussion with non-muslims.

Thanks,
W'salaamz

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Salam, From my understanding, if a man has sexual relations with one or more women and they all get pregnant, who's the father? He is of course, BUT if a woman has one or more husbands and she gets pregnant, who's the father? One of them surely would be, therefore introducing the DNA concept of proof. Hope this helps.

Also another thing came to mind, It was allowed back when there were many more wars and many more widows and orphans, this is when it became ok for a man to take on more than one wife, however as stated in the Quran, if you can equally treat all of your wives the same then marry more than one but seeing you can not only take one. Off hand I can't remember the Surah location, but if someone else knows where the Surah is located please state it here.

i've read the other posts and Of course there are other ways of finding out who the father is, but in most countries there are noway to find out, thats just asking for more trouble and issues. Besides why would any woman or man want more than one? Sheesh do we all not have enough to worry about these days....lol