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    Non muslims just married, looking for a reading from us to muslim parents for them (OP)


    In summary, we have just got married, the civil part with close friends who have seen us through the hard times and enjoyed with us the happy times. Both sets of parents have not supported us throughout our relationship or approved of it at times.

    We decided not to do anything religious as we do not follow a religion; we both feel that following a religion is something that is inward and personal; should we follow a religion it would have to be with our whole heart, taking everything it has to offer, thus following parts as and when you feel like (as most people do now) isn’t something we believe is right. We can’t offer our whole hearts to a particular religion, for our own reasons, this doesn’t need explaining, we only ask that you respect our choice in this.

    We do not view ourselves of a particular religion, however both sets of parents follow a religion; not fully practicing, only taking what they feel fits with their life, this is their choice and we respect that. My parents consider themselves Muslim, his Christian; they do not get on with each other, something we cannot understand considering all religions are so similar.

    We have let both sets of parents know we are now married; they knew we had been planning but were not invited as we wanted it to be a small legal commitment to each other (we ask that you don’t judge us for our decision). Families want to be involved in our future which is good and we welcome that, but mine have stated they want me to do a nikah. They are very certain that we have to do that otherwise bad things will happen to them, Allah will punish them and it will show our commitment to each other for them. I respect their worries and concerns, however is there anything out there that we can do as a family that doesn’t focus on marriage (we are already together and committed, we have made that step) but instead focusses on my parents, us being with them and their future? To put their mind at ease that they have done their best and nothing bad will happen?

    We respect what they are asking but we cannot do what they want as it isn’t right for us; it wouldn’t feel right and we would be lying in the eyes of Allah as we are not Muslims, it feels disrespectful to those that do take it seriously. Hence why we’re asking is there anything specific we can do for them? Like a children to parents prayer for their happy life and future?

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    Re: Non muslims just married, looking for a reading from us to muslim parents for the

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    Greetings,

    It took a lot of courage for Farahziya come to this forum and ask this kind of question with honesty and sincerety, especially knowing that some posters would take the opportunity to attack and judge her. She ought to be commended, as should those who responded with honesty, sincerety, and love.

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    Re: Non muslims just married, looking for a reading from us to muslim parents for the



    It's kind of sad that you asking us to tell you how to reassure your parent that your act that forbid in Islam can be acceptable and they should not worried about you, no it's not acceptable in Islam and they have their right to worried about you. It's kind like asking indirect question how to convince your parent that burn in hell is ok.

    In Islam, children are considered as blessing and amanah for couples, and on the day of judgement all humans will be asked for their responsibilities with what they have been trusted. Even though you are not a child anymore, your parent still have responsibilities to always warn you, so if you respect Islam as you told, you should let your parent worried you, warn you, and remind your parent to always warn you, so then at least your parent will be saved for their responsibilities.

    If you want to please your Muslim parent who're not very religious, then you should be more religious than them.

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    Re: Non muslims just married, looking for a reading from us to muslim parents for the

    Quote Originally Posted by air View Post
    It's kind of sad that you asking us to tell you how to reassure your parent that your act that forbid in Islam can be acceptable and they should not worried about you, no it's not acceptable in Islam and they have their right to worried about you. It's kind like asking indirect question how to convince your parent that burn in hell is ok.
    They failed to give the OP her islamic right and raise her on Islam, giving her an islamic education to instill the deen in her. She is an atheist who does not believe in Islam and rather then be concerned about that they are concerned about her marrying a kuffar. Being a non-Muslim is a lot more serious than marrying a kuffar. Her parents failed her and still don't see error of their ways and have misplaced priorities.

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