'Lads mags' and the disgraceful women in them (OP)
I am sick of seeing these disgusting magazines right in front of my nose whenever I go to the supermarket. They say they aren't pornographic, but as far as I'm concerned if they're meant for arousing sexual desire then they are the same. Also, the women in them are all disgraceful *****s, just like in porn. What is your opinions of them? Is there anything I can do to try and get them off the shelves of my local supermarket? I thinks its disgusting that they are in plain site for kids to see.
There's a lot of wrong in society and sometimes we don't have the power to change or remove evil from society that's why it's important to keep a conscious tab of your thoughts, what your eyes look at, what your ears hear, what you touch etc. As all your senses have an effect on your soul.
If you can bring a change to society for the better then seek the necessary means but if not control your actions and speak to the network around you (family, neighbours, community etc).
One of the weakness of men is women that's written in our books so of course the kuffar are going to use this to thier advantage. You see airbrushed pretty women selling and promoting goods which aren't even female products etc. It's just a distraction like everything else.
Stay focused on the real goal and direct your emotional energy in something worthwhile.
That's my advice.
Last edited by BeTheChange; 02-08-2014 at 10:55 PM.
Pain and hardships allow you to grow spiritually Alhamdulilah so smile when a so called calamity befalls upon you.
Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the greatest.
That's happened before the era of internet and cellphone with video that can be used to distribute video. We can imagine how easy for boys nowadays to get porn materials. Different than lads mags that easily can be found by the parents, electronic porn materials are easy to be hidden by the boys.
Just an info for the parents.
Yes, I have made it clear to my boys that I do check their bedrooms from time to time and if I find anything they will be in big trouble. But it is so easy for them to hide it now with the new technology.
Yes, I have made it clear to my boys that I do check their bedrooms from time to time and if I find anything they will be in big trouble. But it is so easy for them to hide it now with the new technology.
But the most dangerous is 'adult sites' in internet. The boys do not need to hide it, but they can see it in everywhere. Because this is placed in the web, not in the hardware (computer).
Yes, sis, you can visit a website through computer in your house, and you can visit same site from computer in your friend's house, from computer in another city, or even from computer in another country.
to be fair i cant find a distinction between lads mags and most media we are fed anymore.
but im not insincere enough to think im above it. *
the development of personal shame helps in being humble.
the lack of it is what changes the world.
although im wrong again because god is the judge and im not the one who makes distinctions between lesser and greater sins.
...i have no idea what heaven or hell awaits, although i doubt i could sway a jury.
apparently most "lads mags" will have opaque plastic coverings on them in the future..although the thread has moved on.
*
(not kidding, my wife wanted to buy some drinking glasses that were marketed as "pilsner glasses" i said no. she got them later anyway and now that i look at them... they are just glasses...insane)
But the most dangerous is 'adult sites' in internet. The boys do not need to hide it, but they can see it in everywhere. Because this is placed in the web, not in the hardware (computer).
Yes, sis, you can visit a website through computer in your house, and you can visit same site from computer in your friend's house, from computer in another city, or even from computer in another country.
Yes, indeed, the internet is full of danger. In our house the only two computers are in the main living area with the screens facing the centre of the room so that others can see what is being viewed. Our boys are only permitted to visit websites that are safe, i.e. without haram images and preferably Islamically beneficial. If they wish to visit a new site not on the list of favourites they must ask permission first and we will review it and only if it seems halal and educational may they continue. After they have finished their session we may check the history and if there is anything we don't like the look of they are questioned. I strongly believe that the path from viewing haram images to even bigger sins in a very short one and as a parent, this is an area I am not prepared to take any chances.
"The coalition government has pledged to prevent abuse of women and girls, so tackling a culture that glorifies abuse is critical for achieving this”
Holly DustinDirector, End Violence Against Women Coalition
if only they applied the same logic and method to women being portrayed as objects for men. Then we can say society is advancing. What you are reading in that quote is nothing more than damage control for an already imploding society .
"The coalition government has pledged to prevent abuse of women and girls, so tackling a culture that glorifies abuse is critical for achieving this”
Holly DustinDirector, End Violence Against Women Coalition
if only they applied the same logic and method to women being portrayed as objects for men. Then we can say society is advancing. What you are reading in that quote is nothing more than damage control for an already imploding society .
Scimi
lol, sure.. so i guess they should never have sent guidance in the first place.
but if you insist in burning today then thats what you have sent out for tomorrow.
After engaging more with the Muslim community through activities like da`wah (calling to Islam), conferences, and halaqa's (study circles), I have observed something intriguing: there seems to be a fascination—even obsession—with the topic of marriage. Regardless of whether a particular lecture is dedicated to something other than gender relations, the topic of marriage somehow always creeps up.
Now, do I consider this a bad thing? Not necessarily. Indeed, considering the magnitude of fitan (trials) that many unmarried folks face, such as the pressure to date or deal with the opposite gender on terms outside of the boundaries of Islam, I believe that marriage is something that should be discussed and encouraged.
What I’m more fascinated with, however, are the underlying reasons for why people – especially the youth – want to get married so quickly. Despite not having enough resources to care for themselves, let alone a spouse, or whether they understand the Islamic obligations and duties of a spouse, it seems that many of our brothers and sisters have become consumed with the thought of marriage…why? I wonder: what are the psychological reasons behind why a person—who might not be physically or emotionally prepared—wants to get married? If this sounds like you—have you asked yourself why? I mean, apart from the obvious reasons of wanting to complete “half your deen,†or pleasing Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He), do you think there are some underlying issues that may be driving you to consider marriage?
Here are some reasons that I have come up with on my own:
I have noticed that some people view marriage as an escape from their current situations. Perhaps they believe that by getting married, all of their social and familial problems will be solved. Unfortunately, some Muslims may be living under dire conditions at home and might be going through emotional and/or physical abuse, and so for them marriage seems like a way out.
Some people may feel misunderstood by their peers and families, and may desire a partner who can understand and sympathize with them.
Some individuals may be feeling pressure from their relatives or cultural/ethnic communities. They may be made to feel bad for not finding a spouse, or even ridiculed and ostracized for being single.
A lot of people seem to be what I’d like to call “baby-obsessedâ€: for them, marriage is about having child, after child, after child, after…you get the point.
For some, being in a relationship is about status: literally going from “single†to “taken†or “married.†It is about letting the world know that “Yes, I am important,†and the fact that they have a partner is a sign of that importance.
What about those who feel left out? Some may find that all of their friends or peers are getting married, and yet there they are, all alone. They may internalize their “single-hood†and begin to think that something is wrong with them.
My point is, issues such as low self-esteem, lack of attention, the desire for appreciation, the need to be noticed, lack of emotional support, peer/familial pressures, and societal expectations are, unfortunately, some of the underlying reasons people may seek marriage. We have been made to believe that marriage will solve all of our problems; that after getting married, we will truly live happily ever after. In my opinion, this outlook turns marriage into an end instead of a means and as a result, marriage becomes the “end all, be all†for many of us, We tell ourselves things like: “after marriage, I’ll be happy,†“after I get married, I’ll be satisfied.†We begin to view marriage as the ultimate solution to all of our problems, when in reality it is not. Marriage must be viewed as a means, and understood in terms of your personal relationship with Allah (swt). It is not marriage, in and of itself, that will bring you things such as happiness or contentment. Rather, it is through the act of marriage that you will find yourself coming closer to Allah (swt) insha’Allah (God willing). Through coming closer to Him and turning back to Him, you will begin to find true happiness and contentment, insha’Allah (God willing). That said, marriage should be viewd as a means to draw you closer to Allah (swt); a means of attaining His pleasure and earning His Paradise.
Brothers and sisters, marriage won’t solve your problems—Allah (swt) will.
So, if you find yourself currently in a rut—everything seems to be going “bad†for you; you’re depressed, lonely, sad, angry, frustrated, confused, or hurt—take a step towards Allah (swt). Turn to Him to solve your problems. Who knows, marriage may be the means through which He decides to help you…yet at the same time, it may not be. The point is, we need to start viewing the idea of marriage with a healthy mindset: one that is enriched with knowledge and empowerment from the Qur’an and Sunnah and one that realizes that Allah (swt) alone is the solver of all our problems and issues—and Allah (swt) knows best.
In another thread I've ever given an advice to a teen boy to not choose career as DJ. I told him, I know how is club life, how is night life.
That's because I've ever lived in a wild life when I was young. Life that full of sins. I admit it. Yes, my Iman was not so strong like many brothers here.
But then there was something that made me my life better, and prevent me to fall into wild life again. Presence of a woman in my life.
I know it sound strange for many people here. But living single made me feel like a bird that flies anywhere but didn't have a place to perch. And I felt an emptiness in my heart. Living single made me had a freedom, but I could not control it.
Having someone made me feel like a bird who have a nest, where I lived with someone who filled my heart. I felt comfort with life like this although I lost my freedom. I was under control by someone, but she control me with love, and it made me very happy.
Did marriage solve my problems?. Yes!. Marriage gave me a halal way to have a someone. Having someone, that's what made me could leave my wild life, and made me closer to Allah.
And I still feel grateful with it although now Allah has taken back my beloved wife.
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