In some ways I would, in other ways I wouldn't, but considering I was raised by a single mom as of the age of 6 (that's when my parents divorced), I think ym mom did the best she could.
I'd like to keep the open conversations my mother and I had (I could ask her anything and not feel embarrassed or bad - a lot of my friends couldn't get over the fact that my mother and I were so open with each other).
But I would be stricter on certain things (no dating, no alcohol) but considering my culture, I cannot hold it against my mother. I would also like my kids to grow to have a relatinship of somekind with God. I was raised Catholic but never practiced (I guess I tehcnically celebrate but I don't care about the holidays anymore, I just go to them because I get to see my family).
Basically, I'd be a bit stricter and I'd be more active in my kids' lives. I always felt like I missed out on a bit of my childhood because I spent a lot of time alone and had to look out for myself and do a large part of the housework by the age of 10. I appreciate having learnt these things, but I felt like I never really had a mother past that age.
Oh, and I would cook for my kids all the time! I envy people who get invited over to their parents' places and get home cooked meals all the time.
I could probably top this in that, it isn't a question of whether or not I would raise my kids the way my parents raised me. In truth I think there's an enormous amount of doubt in parenting within my own generation. For instance, if you ask me if I would have raised my kids differently - I would answer YES! In fact, if you asked anyone if they would have lived their lives differently, I'm sure a lot of them would answer YES. They would say: If I only knew then what I know now. It's a nasty reality.
Thus, the wisdom of my great grand-mother: You do what you know.... until you know better.
The Ninth Scribe
Last edited by Ninth_Scribe; 05-29-2008 at 04:41 PM.
i just have one thing to say which was inspired by the qoute above..about bringing ur children up differnly and they will be in a different time.
most of us are children of migrant parents. we are in a diffrent world to them no matter what. we are going to change the way we raise our kids...inevitable.
eg)
i currently live in australia. very multicultural country.
i want to marry someone from a culture besides my own.
my father wud rather die.i guess.
me? who cares...a muslim is a muslim.
i will allow my kids to marry wateva culture they like.
get me?
"'Cause I hear the whispered words
In your masterpiece beautiful
You speak the unspeakable through
I love you too"
no matter how i raise ma children... BUT i dam thing is 4 sure that DUUUUUUMMMMBBBBBBBBB culture is gona stay outa their n ma lyf.... its sooo annoying.. i mean kum on beleivin in stupid superstitious tings... erggggg ... hey i tink im beta off wid not startin lol... peace out
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