What would you ask a potential partner?

[~Taalibah~]

Eh?
What about guys? They can be more annoying.....?

 

[Najm]

Girls can be so annoying, I feel sorry for the lads, they gotta marry one. :uuh:

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Eh?
What about guys? They can be more annoying.....?

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

I think girls expect too much, which drives the guys out!!!

Sabeeha aint sure hence, the question marks for approval, its ok uhkti, its really ok, dw

Most girls are not annoying UhtkE, they are just misunderstood like you!! :embarrass


AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

 

[Musaafirah]

Randomness. Is it wrong for me to ask whether a potential partner smokes? Or is that seen as rude?

 

[crayon]

Randomness. Is it wrong for me to ask whether a potential partner smokes? Or is that seen as rude?

No way would it be rude.. I'm definitely making sure he's a non smoker before even considering him. Haram AND nasty.+o(

 

[Al-Zaara]

Randomness. Is it wrong for me to ask whether a potential partner smokes? Or is that seen as rude?

Nothing wrong at all.

This thread is still going strong. How come the Marriage Section ever got deleted? Haha.

 

[Musaafirah]

When did the section get deleted?
Anyway, would it be wrong to ask the question before even considering the proposal?
Before any sort of meeting etc :-[

 

[Al-Zaara]

Lightyears ago.
I ask always before even meeting the guy or even knowing his name. I ask my parents who ask his parents, or something.

 

[Musaafirah]

Cool. So there's nothing wrong with me. Woop.

 

[Pk_#2]

Eh?
What about guys? They can be more annoying.....?

I've never met an annoying lad before, but them again no lad out their can beat my annoyingness, (is that a word?)

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Most girls are not annoying UhtkE, they are just misunderstood like you!! :embarrass


AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

WaAlikum As Salaam WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

imsad Oh oK akhE, But then why are boys so stoopid?

AsSalamOAlikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

FiAmaaniAllah

 

[~Taalibah~]

Musaafir:
Definitely not! I too find out everything possible about a guy before i'd see him. As for smoking, i would ask him straight out, buut most likely my father would have found that out already.

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

I think girls expect too much, which drives the guys out!!!

Sabeeha aint sure hence, the question marks for approval, its ok uhkti, its really ok, dw

Most girls are not annoying UhtkE, they are just misunderstood like you!! :embarrass


AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

^o):mmokay:
Uhh while i admit to having misunderstandings, this is not one of them.
The question marks were put more so as not to sound offensive.

 

[~Taalibah~]

Nothing wrong at all.

This thread is still going strong. How come the Marriage Section ever got deleted? Haha.

It did?? Aww

 

[Najm]

I've never met an annoying lad before, but them again no lad out their can beat my annoyingness, (is that a word?)



WaAlikum As Salaam WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

imsad Oh oK akhE, But then why are boys so stoopid?

AsSalamOAlikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

FiAmaaniAllah

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Annoying is my word, your taking my words too?imsad

Boys just are, hence why we have mums and sisters! You should be happy your mum and sisters looks after you!! :-[

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

Musaafir:
Definitely not! I too find out everything possible about a guy before i'd see him. As for smoking, i would ask him straight out, buut most likely my father would have found that out already.



^o):mmokay:
Uhh while i admit to having misunderstandings, this is not one of them.
The question marks were put more so as not to sound offensive.

AsSalamOAlikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Im glad you admit it! :X I know what you did with the question marks, so I said "its ok" :-[

Anyways, before a potential partner comes around your house make sure you have checked the basic background stuff i.e all the important things you want!!......deen, education, life story etc

FiAmaaniAllah

 

[Najm]

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Just wanted to add some more questions...

1. What aspect of marriage is most important to you?
2. What are your long term goals in life?
3. What kind of schooling is best for children and why?
4. What do expect in terms of finance?
5. How do you express anger?
6. How would you like to solve issues between each other?
7. Do you have friends of the opposite gender?
8. Where would you like to go for vacations?
9. How do you express your feelings?
10. What would you love to do in your spare time?
    

My apologies if already asked :-[

FiAmaaniAllah

 

[~Taalibah~]

^Some good q's.:thumbs_up

 

[Musaafirah]

Thing is, how on earth do you manage to ask the questions? (face to face that is)
I've worked with male colleagues and whatnot, but I was never the one to start a converstation. At my placement it took me at least 3 months to even say hi to some dudes and that was only in response.
I don't think I could ask all the burning questions face to face.
Would it be weird if I wrote 'em down instead? Parents'll probably think I'm mad though, not to say they don't already.:rollseyes

 

[~Taalibah~]

Thing is, how on earth do you manage to ask the questions? (face to face that is)
I've worked with male colleagues and whatnot, but I was never the one to start a converstation. At my placement it took me at least 3 months to even say hi to some dudes and that was only in response.
I don't think I could ask all the burning questions face to face.
Would it be weird if I wrote 'em down instead? Parents'll probably think I'm mad though, not to say they don't already.:rollseyes

Thats something i wonder about myself. I have the mouth to say i will but i can only know when it happens, lol.

I know my friend wrote down what she wanted to ask and read and re-read the q's so that she almost knew it by heart and the list wasnt very long, say between 5-10 q's
Mos q's parents can see to and clarify, i guess.

 

[KashifB]

i wouldnt ask anything to be honest


i'd just joke with her


thats it




i'll let my parents do the asking and finding out lol



Assalamu Alaikum

huh?


i dont want my wife to work, at the same time i wont stop her if she insists on working for say a school (primary not secondary or islamic) or something which requires no mixing with opp gender but i would insist when complications arise (helping family/pregnancy etc)


what does that tell you about my attitude towards women? seriously i wanna know



Assalamu ALaikum

subhanAllah you demean the position of wife and mother so much where our prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam raised their position so high by saying "he who is best to his wife is best of men" and "below the mothers feet lies jannah"...


"men are expected to work their asses off, nothing more" (bring home money n take care o stuff etc)


^ see how that sounds!




please try not to think like that inshAllah.


Assalamu Alaikum

I agree 100% with Fighting4Iman . :thumbs_up

 

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

Lots of great questions posted..just to add:

1) What makes you smile?
2) What is something small that makes you extremely happy?
3) Who do you think you are?
4) Complete: "I am...."
5) Why are you considering me for marriage?

 

[Faseeha]

Would it be appropriate to ask about the person's past, for example Have u had a gf/bf before? have you ever tried drugs, or been clubbing, etc? This would apply only if the person was born muslim.

 

[Re.TiReD]

Lots of great questions posted..just to add:

1) What makes you smile?
2) What is something small that makes you extremely happy?
3) Who do you think you are?
4) Complete: "I am...."
5) Why are you considering me for marriage?

:wasalamex

First one is cute masha'Allah, 3rd sounds like it should have this emo after it >> ^o) and number 4....If it was me I'd laugh my head off.

^ I don't get 3 and 4.

Sounds threatening. :hmm:

Isn't this too ambiguous? She could say anything. "I am... sitting here right now" lol

;D I thought the same :-[

Would it be appropriate to ask about the person's past, for example Have u had a gf/bf before? have you ever tried drugs, or been clubbing, etc? This would apply only if the person was born muslim.

Why would you wanna ask that?? If Allah (swt) has concealed his/her sins then who are you to ask. If its in the past then its in the past, name one person who hasnt done something wrong or something they have repented for. If they tell you then they will, if not I think you should leave em. You can ask the ppl who know him/her a little about the character and from there deduce if they're the kinda person who would do any of the above. Wallahu A'lam.