Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

transition? said:
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InshaAllah, you'll find a righteous sister who isn't superficial and values you more than your money!

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DUA IS ALWAYS A GOOD OPTION :

Ive earned around £96,000 in 8 years, So Allah swt has given me wealth.
Its my own fault im in debt.

If only i started practising islam in my teens, i wouldnt be in this mess,
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The question was, how much do we get, right?

I did not read all posts in this thread, so I do not know if there is any Malaysian has posted any comment. during my time, 13 years back, I received RM3000 as a present which is less than USD1000 but my husband secretly gave me RM2000 which is about USD500 to get a cow for the feast. It is our culture to call relatives and friends )school friends, work friends), my friends, hubby friends, mom's friends, my dad's friends and all villagers. Friends and relatives will gather only at weddings. I also will take opportunities to meet long lost friends or relatives that I haven't seen for years. some for almost 20 years.

Some x neighbours will say "Look at you1 You r big already"

If there is any wedding, my side or my husband's side, his relatives or my relatives, we will take that opportunity to meet other people.

so, of course a wedding will cost a lot of money. We will have something like 1000 guests. Per head will cost RM10.00 which is about USD2.50

My friend a teacher and her husband is a politician, when 3 of their children getting married at the same time, their guests like from 11am to 5pm, 200 peoples at one time non-stop. I was among people who help them serve the guests. I was so tired that I just left by 4:30pm. It was just a voluntary work.

Nowadays, most people will give RM8000 as present (USD2000) together with the real mahr RM80(USD20) and few other presents will be exchanged between them. If the guy give 7 plates of present which normally will be decorated nicely, the girl will give 9 plates. what on the plate depends on the family. the must are cakes, sweets and decorated betel leaves. from the guy there will be a ring. others are depend so much on the family's inspiration. some will give songket, some will give pair of shoes to the guy, belt, handbag for the girl, make-up set.
 
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The Prophet (saaws) said: “The best of mahrs is the simplest (or most affordable).” [Narrated by al-Haakim and al-Bayhaqi, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3279.]

And Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: “Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honour and dignity in this world or a sign of piety before Allaah, then Muhammad (saaws) would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, more than twelve uqiyah. A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her and says, ‘You cost me everything I own, and caused me a great deal of hardship’.” [Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah, 1532.]

And shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 32/194:

Whoever thinks of increasing his daughter’s mahr and asking for more than the daughters of the Messenger of Allah (saaws) were given – when they were the best women in this world in all aspects – is an ignorant fool. The same applies to asking for more than the Mothers of the Believers were given. This applies even if one is well off and can afford it. With regard to one who is poor, he should not give a mahr greater than he can afford to pay without any hardship.
 
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wow cant believe people would demand up to 35,000 .... wow.... i don't even see a point in why one would spend so much money on the wedding dress as they'll only wear it once. I'd rather just wear my burka/jilbab/abaya...

I think in Bengali weddings they show off all the brides gold when people are handing in their gifts... I'd take all the gold and boil it in a pan and would probably get murdered at he same time... i mean what will she do with all that gold?

And some brides don't eat on their wedding day i mean don't they feel hungry?

wa/salam
 
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just something that came to my mind, we all know that some women want extravagant weddings, but what about brothers who had all the cash they need, would they still go for an OTT wedding or a simple one even they they can afford a huge feast... make sense?...

wa/salam
 
'Abd al-Rahman said:
Brothers, what are you planning on giving?
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Plan A:
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Plan B:
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Plan C:
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The Nuclear Option:
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In response to Skye..
I wouldn't mind this as mehr. :D
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Though at the mo I've just got a little corsa, which I love. Miss my little polo though...
 
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AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Islamically speaking......

what is a dowry and Mahr?......Are they the same?
What is the purpose?
When must it be given? < before/after wedding?
What is the sunnah amount?
Do the spouse decide or the parents?


FiAmaaniAllah
 
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

A true story of just a little Mahr for a big gain!.....

"Let me relate a true story, told by one of the students of Sheikh Ibn Baz (Rahimullah). One day, the Sheikh was reading out loud a question from one of his female students which read something like this:

“Please ask any of your students if any of them would be interested in marrying me. I am a student of such and such and I am at such an age and am ready for marriage. The Mahr is only ONE Saudi Riyal and my father is here today to do the nikah”

(The student who related the story is actually our own dear Sheikh AA). He said basically all single brothers’ hands were up including himself.

Then Sheikh Ibn Baz asked: “Who did Fajr in Jama’ah in the Masjid every morning, never missing…?” And a lot of hands went down drastically with only a few left.

Then he asked: “Who fast Mondays and Thursdays?” a few more hands went down.

Then he asked: “Who did Tahajjud last night? And one hand remained and the Sheikh asked if he can afford to keep a wife. The answer was yes and he married that female student for only ONE Saudi Riyal (In Saudi standard, this is a real bargain).

May be we should follow that example. Allah knows best

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Comment: SubhaanAllah!!! That is trully amazing!!! She got a blessed guy!! :statisfie

FiAmaaniAllah
 
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SubhanAllah.

Muezzin you took my plan,but thats the plan if I get married during my young teen ages 13-14:D once I'm big ,I might make a forum and dedicate it to her inshAllah.
 
Musaafirah said:
In response to Skye..
I wouldn't mind this as mehr. :D

Though at the mo I've just got a little corsa, which I love. Miss my little polo though...
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LOL...i want something like this
http://heronarmoury.co.uk/swords/m/main/falchion.jpg
now that is what i call a mahr :shade:

Najm said:
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

A true story of just a little Mahr for a big gain!.....

"Let me relate a true story, told by one of the students of Sheikh Ibn Baz (Rahimullah). One day, the Sheikh was reading out loud a question from one of his female students which read something like this:

“Please ask any of your students if any of them would be interested in marrying me. I am a student of such and such and I am at such an age and am ready for marriage. The Mahr is only ONE Saudi Riyal and my father is here today to do the nikah”

(The student who related the story is actually our own dear Sheikh AA). He said basically all single brothers’ hands were up including himself.

Then Sheikh Ibn Baz asked: “Who did Fajr in Jama’ah in the Masjid every morning, never missing…?” And a lot of hands went down drastically with only a few left.

Then he asked: “Who fast Mondays and Thursdays?” a few more hands went down.

Then he asked: “Who did Tahajjud last night? And one hand remained and the Sheikh asked if he can afford to keep a wife. The answer was yes and he married that female student for only ONE Saudi Riyal (In Saudi standard, this is a real bargain).

May be we should follow that example. Allah knows best

...Source...

Comment: SubhaanAllah!!! That is trully amazing!!! She got a blessed guy!! :statisfie

FiAmaaniAllah
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i totally admire how the shaikh handled that...it almost seems as if he was looking out for the girl...really wise, mashallah
 
Umm ul-Shaheed said:
LOL...i want something like this
http://heronarmoury.co.uk/swords/m/main/falchion.jpg
now that is what i call a mahr :shade:


i totally admire how the shaikh handled that...it almost seems as if he was looking out for the girl...really wise, mashallah
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AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Uhkti what you going to do with the sword....:exhausted

I wouldnt mind doing what she did you know. Although the pushy parents might insist on looking at the woman first :enough!:

FiAmaaniAllah
 
Yanoorah said:
Men n their Egos.

I think a wicked Mahr wud be to be shown all the most Beautiful Masjids in the whole world...All of them...n to pray in them...:statisfie
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yeah sounds like a wicked mahr but a stash of 50 pound notes in a big purse would be cool too isnt it! :rollseyes

if i had to give lots of mahr i would work day and night and if i couldnt find a job i would sell a kidney, women deserve to be pampered
 
Najm said:
The Mahr is only ONE Saudi Riyal and my father is here today to do the nikah

FiAmaaniAllah
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now that would be a dream come true for me (if looks were part of the package :D)
 
^Whoever thinks the mahr is one riyal has been duped; it's not, it's way more; it is fajr in a jama'ah at the masjid every morning, fasting mondays and thursdays, doing tahhajud every night... It's not something everyone can offer.
 
If I were a Muslim woman getting married I would not mind a reasonable mahr preferably in books as I love to read and love to seek knowledge. Of course money and clothing would be nice too. I have never been a woman with expensive taste and that I believe is in my favor. If a Muslim man is to marry a Christian or Jewish woman is he obligated to give her mahr as well?
 

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