Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

Ar-RaYYan said:
''You can also show off your new bruises after shes done with you.''




ditto :thumbs_up just what i was thinking!
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So now..... it seems that we'll get life threatening bruises for offering something we can afford :(......

Guys i think we just have to get diamonds,pearls and a stash of 250...20 pound notes
 
WELL DONE !
BROWNIE POINT FOR ABDULLAHI Y'ALL!

Hes finally gotten it :)


Jokes.

Tbh I would ask for whatever I needed at the time. And maybe a little more. Come on, its your wedding day, indulge a little.

But I wudnt rip the poor guy off lool otherwise he might turn up to the wedding in a potato sack instead of a tux...and we wudnt want that.
 
u knw wat id ask 4..? dnt laugh plz...a tree...! seriously...we'd both plant it 2geda n watch it grow as we both grow old 2geda...! dat sounds cheezy ryt...?!
 
NIKKY said:
u knw wat id ask 4..? dnt laugh plz...a tree...! seriously...we'd both plant it 2geda n watch it grow as we both grow old 2geda...! dat sounds cheezy ryt...?!
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Terribly so, lol.


Jokes babe, sounds kinda cute...:D

BUT

I doubt you would ask for a tree.

Youre jus saying that...right? ...right?

lool.

:X
 
^^ am dead serious...! am nt in2 bling n dat...bin der dun dat..! as 4 money...it cums n goes...i wnt sumat dat will b der 4eva.....
 
tree ideas sweet, id do that anyway, but that wouldnt be the mahr i'd ask for.


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lemme think......i'd ask for a nice necklace, not something that would break the bank, but nice. and id wear it every single day to show him how much i love and appreciate him.
 
lol just read this at ummah forums :D

when reffering to arab marriages a member said:

its really hard i mean my friend is ahle bayt and they asked him $250,000 and he was just shocked he didnt know what to say and he said he only had 1/10 of the total and they were like get off our porch and take your slave with you ( referring to me) .You get weird things in Saudi but it is a blessed place.
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The tree idea is super cute! :D
I might ask for a vegetable garden, but I don't have much of a green thumb.

I've thought a lot for this question. Lol, sadly, when I think of things that make me happy that aren't family, friends or Islam, there's like nothing lol other than chocolate cake and flowers O_o.

Then it hit me! I want a kitten!
or a treadmill.
 
i actualy thought evri 1 wud av laughd at ma tree idea....!
 
^ no way i think that is sweet idea!
at first it might take him time to get use it (you know how men pretend they are all macho and might find it too cheesy) but inshallah he will get use to it!
 
after a loooong think and looking past the material glitz,

What would be ideal mehr...if i had thought about it before, is
....'a look'

one of those deep meaningful looks, where every pain would be compassionately understood without words...it would be priceless and perhaps rare because it would have to be genuine...( i don't mean the trained counsellor type ones which maybe be considered whilst the genuine one was being worked on)

This 'look' can be paid in installments throughout the marriage upon demand whenever (is this asking for too much?) the wife required..even in the middle of an argument the husband was about to win. :D

im sure it could solve the whole 'men not understanding women' issues...and a wife will never have to complain.
 
Güven said:
10 , 20 THOUSAND? :ooh:



and what tha heck is she gonna do with it ? :skeleton:
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spend it on the bloody wedding that is where it goes when the dress alone costs a good $6000

Now that being said, it is my personal opinion that weddings are unnecessary I wonder if it is true that all girls dream of that day? I am a girl and I have never dreamt of that day (so I do suppose it is all relative) unless I am the only one :skeleton: ? -- I am too senile to remember whether or not I answered this thread before too but to sum it up in a few words I think a reasonable mahr depends highly on the bride...it could be a symbolic amount or it could be very high, I don't know .. I wouldn't want mahr personally, I'd rather get the keys to a brand new
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and with that I'd forgo the wedding too :D

I don't think any gal out there would turn that down (unless she doesn't know how to drive?) but even then, it would give you the opportunity to teach her something :D


my two cents

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p.s actually your take home message is, it really depends on the lady you are betrothing and women are very different...
 
^^^ weddings are unnecessarily extravagant. I think it needs to be small, quick and with your family and closest friends lol. You're not the only one!
 
I can save £20 a month, so i dont know how i,l get marrried' or pay the mahr
 
lol sis had to see your gender to make sure you are a sister...
I don't even like the fam and friends deal, but that is just me, everyone says it is Islamically best but I think, isn't that what the witnesses and the sheikh are for? I am painfully shy and I sort of don't like people ..well, I don't like dressed up made up people with noise in the background I should rather say.. that is money that is better spent on a good honeymoon, building a nice home, buying a nice veheicle .. I think that is what money is for on that day, the bride and the groom not the bloody guests...

down with the guests.. here here
 
Gossamer skye said:
lol sis had to see your gender to make sure you are a sister...
I don't even like the fam and friends deal, but that is just me, everyone says it is Islamically best but I think, isn't that what the witnesses and the sheikh are for? I am painfully shy and I sort of don't like people ..well, I don't like dressed up made up people with noise in the background I should rather say.. that is money that is better spent on a good honeymoon, building a nice home, buying a nice veheicle .. I think that is what money is for on that day, the bride and the groom not the bloody guests...

down with the guests.. here here
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lol @ checking.

lol I'd keep it small so my friends and family can't help along the way through and after the wedding. I think my family and closest friends would be offended lol if I didn't let join me in a life changing decision!

lol. true that to your last line haha!
 
yeah I know what you mean.. just hate weddings, I tried to weasel out of my sister's wedding by creating fights with her but that didn't work, thankfully my bro. didn't have a wedding which is best...

this whole thread reminds me of a commercial I saw once (hilarious at that) was themed as such

'what you want, what you can afford' and it goes on about say you want a beautiful car but the next scene is the fellow taking the subway, wants a beautiful woman but ends up with a hairy pet, wants a five course meal but ends up dinning at McDonald, was so funny, come to think of it, I wonder what the point of it was, I remember at the end the what he wanted and what he could afford were one, perhaps it was hanes undershirts or something ;D ;D ;D

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Gossamer skye said:
yeah I know what you mean.. just hate weddings, I tried to weasel out of my sister's wedding by creating fights with her but that didn't work, thankfully my bro. didn't have a wedding which is best...

this whole thread reminds me of a commercial I saw once (hilarious at that) was themed as such

'what you want, what you can afford' and it goes on about say you want a beautiful car but the next scene is the fellow taking the subway, wants a beautiful woman but ends up with a hairy pet, wants a five course meal but ends up dinning at McDonald, was so funny, come to think of it, I wonder what the point of it was, I remember at the end the what he wanted and what he could afford were one, perhaps it was hanes undershirts or something ;D ;D ;D

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haha, my sister is the opposite. She'd cry tears if I didn't come, as if I carry a baggage of drama or something!
lol @ starting fights.
Yeah I don't mind attending weddings, fooddddd is always an open option for me.

lol. that commercial..... And that's why you should always have low standards! jokes!
 

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