enaged and marriage?

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Ar-RaYYan said:
It depends by what you mean by 'community'? people from the same culture or range of different cultures and races of people living in the same area?

for the first part im not sure. i havent witnessed anyone doing it yet and the latter i have heard that they do it as most people who dont practice tend to but i was kind of surprised that someone i know (who practise the deen btw) will be doing it coz it has become a 'family thing'
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when i say "community", i meant the place (city/town) u live

n yeah, i knew wat u meant by "ppl who practice"
like i said, its common in some places
 
Abdullahii said:
what the heck is bridal shower?!......the bride doesnt wash herself for a year and then when its engagement time she has a shower??
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:laugh: LOL
r u for real akhee?!! lol
n NO,
bridal shower is when a bunch of girls/women get together n have some sorta party
i have no idea y they call it a "bridal shower"
 
what the heck is bridal shower?!......the bride doesnt wash herself for a year and then when its engagement time she has a shower??
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lol
basically its another version of hen party
 
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Abdullahii said:
what the heck is bridal shower?!......the bride doesnt wash herself for a year and then when its engagement time she has a shower??
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I thought a bridal shower is when you have a baby or something. Or a few months before you have a baby. :X
 
Brasco said:
Well, I got also a few questions :D actually I did not care about those things :D


When I have nikkah with the person I want to get married, can I hug her? Well, other questions will follow insha'allah :D
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Of course you can. You can do anything with her because islamically she is your wife! Islamically, when you have done your nikkah, she belongs to you.
 
Abdullahii said:
what the heck is bridal shower?!......the bride doesnt wash herself for a year and then when its engagement time she has a shower??
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:rollseyes

Bridal shower is like the hennah party, the girl gets all prettied up n stuff. But then some cultures differ on when they do it.

eHafiz said:
I thought a bridal shower is when you have a baby or something. Or a few months before you have a baby. :X
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No thats called a Baby'Shower.
 
Yanoorah said:
:rollseyes

the girl gets all prettied up n stuff. But then some cultures differ on when they do it.


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so in some cultures the bride waits 2 or even 3 years before she takes a bath and is ''prettied'' up

bridal shower was it practised before in the times of the prophet??!!
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Thank you everybody!!! The reason of my question is that i want to getting marry to a guy inshaAllah but my family is against it so i though engaged should stop them to control my life. LOL my mother think im too young and i told her that ISLAMIC people can marry as long as they are happy. Prophet Mohammed married PBUH a young girl, i forget her name, am i right?
 
Bub said:
Thank you everybody!!! The reason of my question is that i want to getting marry to a guy inshaAllah but my family is against it so i though engaged should stop them to control my life. LOL my mother think im too young and i told her that ISLAMIC people can marry as long as they are happy. Prophet Mohammed married PBUH a young girl, i forget her name, am i right?
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yep thats right! her name was aisha (r) :)
 
Bub said:
:D thank you, bro... my family said education is come first and said i could marry in four years time :exhausted
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Actually, we're in the same situation :D Her parents say to her that it is too early for marriage :D But insha'allah we can marry quickly :D

Of course, we should care our studies and so on, but all will be fine insha'allah! We'll be that what is decreed for us :D

:bump1:
 
Brasco said:
Actually, we're in the same situation :D Her parents say to her that it is too early for marriage :D But insha'allah we can marry quickly :D

Of course, we should care our studies and so on, but all will be fine insha'allah! We'll be that what is decreed for us :D

:bump1:
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Yeah i knooow, brother! i went like wow, that brother is in the same situation as me. Im 18 years old and my family think im too young! they want me to focus on education not a husband. Yeh InshaAllah, so your family let you to marry her or...? In my other post, a sister says i should talk to Iman maybe you can ask Iman for a help?? InshaAllah Allah will help us
 
For girls 18 isn't too young, there was an advice thread here where a sis got married at 16. I think for men its about being old enough to have the means to support your wife.
 
aadil77 said:
For girls 18 isn't too young, there was an advice thread here where a sis got married at 16. I think for men its about being old enough to have the means to support your wife.
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Exactly! 18th is an adult, why is getting marry so difficult? imsad look at Christian, girlfriend/boyfriend so easy so marry should be easy for Muslim i think my family is influenced by western culture. thanks i will check thread out
 
Bub said:
Yeah i knooow, brother! i went like wow, that brother is in the same situation as me. Im 18 years old and my family think im too young! they want me to focus on education not a husband. Yeh InshaAllah, so your family let you to marry her or...? In my other post, a sister says i should talk to Iman maybe you can ask Iman for a help?? InshaAllah Allah will help us
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She asked her parents and they said that she was too young for marriage. So far now, I've only asked my mom and she only smilied :D For now, my parents went to Iraq and they'll return in September, and at that time I will ask them again and I want a clear answer but I guess, my parents will be again marrying (this) early :D Insha'allah all will be okay!
 
Brasco said:
She asked her parents and they said that she was too young for marriage. So far now, I've only asked my mom and she only smilied :D For now, my parents went to Iraq and they'll return in September, and at that time I will ask them again and I want a clear answer but I guess, my parents will be again marrying (this) early :D Insha'allah all will be okay!
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Yeh, im in the same shoe as her imsad HAHA, a good sign from ur mother's smile and InshaAllah they enjoyin themselves... fingers crossed for u! inshaAllah :thumbs_up

p.s. i spoke 2 my aunt and she said im too young but i blah blah about muslim and she said yes its allowed to marry early
 
p.s. i spoke 2 my aunt and she said im too young but i blah blah about muslim and she said yes its allowed to marry early
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it dosent make sense. lol. are they restricting your age?

eh, if allowed to marry early. then marry..
 

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