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Can anyone please give me some knowledge regarding the Arab's customs of marriage at the time of Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w)? I mean he married Hazrat Ayesha when she was 9 years old. There are some Muslim sites which try to argue that she was not 9 but 16 or 17 etc when she married the Prophet. But that's not right as I have read an authentic hadith of Sahih Bukhari where she herself says that she was 9 years old at the time of her marriage.
Yes, you are correct that this is in the Sahih Bukhari. I find it pitiful that some "Muslims" today are trying to nudge up Aisha's age to in order to conform to the standards of what new age American and British culture approves of. Such Muslims who try to do this are being disgracefully dishonest, and we can know too well that the only reason they are trying to fool us all is because they are complete sycophants to America and Britain. The motivation is patently OBVIOUS. The bigotry and negative thinking towards early marriage is something born out of a newly founded morality which was instigated by the West. This newly found morality is NOT part of some kind of internalized "progression" in Asian/Islamic culture, but rather it is a mentality completely invented and promoted independently by the West, just as things like homosexuality and fornication is now promoted by the disturbed West. I am completely baffled by the West's complete hypocrisy because on one hand they have invented a newly founded morality against the divine and wholesome practice of early marriage while on the other hand they have also invented another newly founded morality that promotes old men going to bed with each other. The West is on a crusade to promulgate these grotesque new ideas and thrust them on extraneous cultures. The West has also been on an intentional agenda to dumb down their own children, that's why their 9 year olds act more like 2 year olds, it's quite pathetic really.
DON'T allow the infidels the satisfaction of seeing us of ever sycophantically buckling in to these newly founded mentalities! Because if you DO, then they have won and you have lost.
But you know that the non-Muslims say many pathetic things about our beloved Prophet that he married a child and ... all other crap.
But SO WHAT if our beloved prophet married a child? SO WHAT? WHY would you allow yourself to feel "bad" about this?? Just because the infidels don't like child marriages, why then the sense of obligation to blindly jump on their ridiculous band wagon? They have completely separate moralities to us and we should not let that bother us. Why do we need to think in exactly the same way as non Muslims for? Why is that so important?? Child marriage is allowed under Islam, and that's all that is important here. Don't let the kafir play guilt games on your mind. The moment you allow yourself to feel "bad" is the moment the infidels have won over you.
Remember that the very same infidels who make attacks on child marriage also promote things like adultery and homosexuality...so are you also going to feel "bad' just because the infidels play guilt trip games on you if you do not also want to jump on their band wagon in promoting adultery as well?? NO, you WON'T if you are a good Muslim with strong mind and sound judgment. Never allow the infidels to grind you down, for that is exactly what they are trying to do. Instead what you need to do is have nothing to do with them. They are the Djinn with the forked tongues of snakes and they are trying to play with your mind and steer you in wrong paths. Whenever you do need to rebut them, be most careful that you do it in such a way that does not give any credence to the very mentality itself behind their attack. For example, if an infidel makes attack on Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) for his marriage with Aisha, and a foolish Muslim answers back by saying something like "but Muhammed (PBUH) didn't marry Aisha when she was 6, she was 35 instead blah blah blah", this very kind of pathetic defense only acknowledges a validity to the very moral basis of the infidels' attack. It's like if an infidel attacked the prophet for eating tomatoes. Now a very weak minded Muslim might say something like "but prophet didn't eat tomatoes, he ate plums instead". That kind of defense only acknowledges that eating tomatoes is bad in the first place. See what I mean? A good Muslim of strong constitution will instead rebut the infidel attacks against Muhammed (PBUH) by saying that "You yourselves in the West might have newly invented this to be a "problem", but nonetheless, YOU are NOT us! One size does not fit all. Ok our morality and ways of thinking might not suit you, but neither does your morality and ways of thinking suit us. We are not the same, so therefore your new morality means nothing to us. Ultimately it is simply not a "problem" under Islam and it is accepted under Islam. END OF STORY."
This makes me feel bad as I myself think that 9 year girl is just a child.imsad
Well that completely depends on the race of human you are talking about. My own sisters were certainly not "children" at the age of 9, they were adolescent youth not all that far away to being fully grown. But my question is again: SO WHAT even if they ARE "children"? Why does everyone need to think of marriage and its sexual context only in visions of bestial violent thrusting commonly perceived as part of the process of reproduction itself? The love life of a married couple is far more exploratory and imaginative than that! Just because a husband may go to bed with his child bride does NOT automatically mean that they will try and actually reproduce. Besides, this will usually not be the case anyway because it is a sheer scientific impossibility for the prepubescent girl to be able to bare young. However, there is the exploratory, erotic, experimental and sensual sides of love making that is absent of actual coitus, and this is an indulgence that a husband and his child bride are able to enjoy without the need for the unrealistic burden of actual reproduction itself at a too young age. Unlike the prudish attitudes towards sexual matters of the Judeo-Christian faiths, Islam is open minded and positive towards sex and erotic love making between husband and wife. Age per se is irrelevant under Islam and is NOT a prerequisite to sexual relations; rather, it is MARRIAGE itself that renders sexual relations halal.
If the Arabs had some custom of having younger brides than please can anyone explain me this?
At the end of the day it's "to each their own" with something like this. It's a very private matter and should never be a political or "social" issue . But to try and help answer your question...many people have varying reasons. There are many good reasons for a preference for prepubescent brides. First, they are purest virgins. It also is a way in which husband and bride can book each other at an early stage. It's also a plain fact that many men have an appreciation for and have the opportunity to enjoy certain qualities in their wife that will be short lived. If one is honest with themselves they will know obviously well that a prepubescent girl glows with the magical beauty of youth itself, as given by Allah, her skin is so perfect, her eyes are so sharp, she has a kind of beauty that is very short lived. She is so pristine in every physical way. Why wouldn't any normal heterosexual man admire these divine qualities?
