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So.. I was reading the quaran today (english copy) & read through a few sura's saying about good deed's will be paid back with good rewards & then i read something about a reward of virgin companions.

I was under the impression that if we are granted a space into paradise.. we'd be with the one's we loved aslong as they believed in Allah too.. I wouldn't want my future husband with virgin companions!! I would like to think he would still only be with me :(

I may read this wrong.. but please can somebody help me to understand what this really means??
 
We will be with the ones we love (that belive in Allah) in Paradise inshallah
I remember reading somewhere that once we get into Paradise (inshallah) the feeling of jealousy will be removed from our hearts.... But seriously think about it as long as we are in Paradise who cares what the men get...
 
While a man will get many Hurs in jannah, a women would be made the queen of Jannah. Her beauty will far outshine the beauty of the hurs.

Umme Salamah R.A narrates that she said to Rasûlullah SAW "O Rasûlullah, are the women of this world superior or the hûrs?" He replied, "The women of this world will have superiority over the hûrs just as the outer lining of a garment has superiority over the inner lining."

Umme Salamah R.A then asked, "O Rasûlullah, what is the reason for this?" He answered, "Because they performed salâh, fasted, and worshipped [Allah]. Allah will put light on their faces and silk on their bodies. [The human women] will be fair in complexion and will wear green clothing and yellow jewelry. Their incense-burners will be made of pearls and their combs will be of gold. They will say, 'We are the women who will stay forever and we will never die. We are the women who will always remain in comfort and we will never undergo difficulty. We are the women who will stay and we will never leave. Listen, we are happy women and we will never become sad. Glad tidings to those men for whom we are and who are for us.'" (Tabrânî)

Muhammed ibn Ka'b Al-Qurazi t narrates from a person of the Ansâr (people of Madînah) that Rasûlullah SAW said, "I take the oath of that Being who sent me with the truth, you are not more acquainted with your wives and houses than the people of Jannat. A person of Jannat will come to 72 wives which Allah specially created in Jannat (hûrs) and 2 human wives. The human wives will have virtue over the [hûrs] because they worshipped Allah in the world.(Targheeb Vol.4 Pg.534)

This will be the high position of the women of the world in Jannah.

If a women had more than one husband, she will choose which one of them to stay with, and she will choose the one with the best character. As for those women who never married or their husband were mushriks, they will be allowed to marry whichever worldly man, they so wish, in Jannah. Thus every man in Jannah will have 2 wives from the world.

If we have full conviction in Allah's promise that he will fulfil our every desire in Jannah, then instead of worrying about what they will get in jannah, the women should concentrate their endeavours on pleasing Allah and thus getting to Jannah. As for pleasing us in Jannah, That is Allah responsibility, so he will do His and we should do ours. The greatest pleasure in Jannah for men and women will be the very pleasure of Allah. Everything else will be secondary.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
 
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I guess it will take me some time to understand this part.. I just don't see why 72 wives would be a reward & vice versa..! When one person is enough.. Hmm
 
Personally, I would be so happy to be in Paradise with Allah, that it is of no importance who someone else is with. Thoughts like that don't even cross my mind, because Allah is most important.
 
Does it make me a bad question to ask? Sunnie I hope oneday I will be as strong in my faith as you are. I am not a muslim but i do hope to convert.. I just have questions.
 
LauraB said:
Does it make me a bad question to ask? Sunnie I hope oneday I will be as strong in my faith as you are. I am not a muslim but i do hope to convert.. I just have questions.
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& I meant bad person* not question lol oops..
 
Bedouin said:
I've read that the wife of this world would be more superior to the hoors.
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Yup. There's a hadith when Aisha RA the Prophets PBUH wife also asked the same question as you, the hadith went along the lines of "becasue we women worshipped Allah SWT, and they didn't (the 72 virgins) then they will be nothing compared to us." Don't worry, your future husband will only have eyes for you, both this life and the next inshAllah :D

LauraB said:
I guess it will take me some time to understand this part.. I just don't see why 72 wives would be a reward & vice versa..! When one person is enough.. Hmm
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Islam understand the nature of men, they are visually stimulated, having something so pure and beautiful is something they desire, having it more than once is of course heaven for them.


LauraB said:
Does it make me a bad question to ask?
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Why would it be bad? Islam has nothing to hide, it has an answer for everything. Also never follow anything blindly, ask if you're in doubt. Just like the Prophet Ibrahim did to Allah SWT. :)
 
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Thanks Ghazalah.. I like how you have explained it! :) So far, i've had no doubts apart from this part. But I guess i should try not to worry.. what will be will be!
 
Greetings,

i see it this way: Allah rewards his servants however He pleases.

second off, i dont think its really the women of jannah that is the concern. its the man's fault for being attracted to her. A man should love his wife enough to be with her in the hereafter, despite what other women may be there....If he really was a man was worth getting jealous over that is...

dont mind me, im a bit of a "man-hunter." :hiding:
 
I looked at the link you posted and read that it is ok for a man to beat his wife lightly. I want to be Muslim, but that I can not agree with. Is that still allowed in this day and age?
 
There needs to be more clarification on this matter. If the wife committs indecency or becomes rebellious against her husband then only in exceptional circumstances is it is permissable for the husband to lightly rebuke her but NOT cause her any injury.

It is a fact that our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) never hit nor did he ever shout at any of his wives or servants. He was the best towards his wives and that is why the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) stated that the best men are those who are best to their wives.

But obviously there are some women who are out of control and become rebellious against their husbands and so for those exceptional circumstances where the husband has tried everything but nothing seems to work then it is allowed for him to lightly rebuke her not causing her any injury. For example slapping her face is forbidden.

So if she is rebuked she should be rebuked in such a way that does not leave any trace of injury on her. Hope that clarified things for you. Please continue to ask if you need any clarification on any matter at all for it is asking questions which will rid us of any misconceptions we may have.

And Allah knows best in all matters
 
Thank you very much for answering my question. I guess I am just confused because I was told that women are treated equal if not better by Muslim men, but yet if they do something wrong they can be lightly hit. What happens if the man does something indecent?
 
Sunnie said:
Thank you very much for answering my question. I guess I am just confused because I was told that women are treated equal if not better by Muslim men, but yet if they do something wrong they can be lightly hit. What happens if the man does something indecent?
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1 - May Allah quickly bring you to Islam sister, ameen.

2 - Equality isn't the right word in Islam because definition and implication of it is very subjective. The correct words are justly/fairly. Islam treats both genders justly and fairly. There just can't be equality between men and women because they're inherently two different genders.

3 - Let's keep in mind that we need to make a distinction between Muslims and Islam. Not every Muslim practices Islam as it should be.

4 - I understand that as a woman these issues concern you but remember that validity of a religion is not based on these secondary issues or rules. Rather a religion is true or false based on its creed and mythology. So from that perspective, it's really absurd for example if someone says "I believe Islam is false religion because it says you cannot eat pork". Also remember that rules within a religion is based upon following premises 1) there is a God, 2) He is all knowing, most wise and just and 3) religion is true. So if one accepts all these three premises then rest just follows it. I am not saying that don't ask questions if you're confused or need clarification but what I'm trying to say that every ruling in Islamic jurisprudence is based on those three premises. Not every ruling has an answer to our "why". And we could try to come up with reasons to say why a certain ruling is justified or what is wisdom behind it but that's about it.

5 - Lightly hit isn't the right word again, it's more like a light tap.

6 - No, there's no such thing as "lightly hit the husband if he does something indecent" if that's what you're looking for.
 
Thank you Islamiclife for answering me so quickly. I see that I have alot of learning yet to do. I have a package of books on there way here to me. It should be here in a day or two and then I will have a lot of reading to do. I have to say, that I did not know that there was a difference between Islam and Muslim. Can you explain the difference to me, please? I see where people say they converted to Islam, and I automatically assumed that meant they becoming Muslim. Sunnie
 
LauraB said:
So.. I was reading the quaran today (english copy) & read through a few sura's saying about good deed's will be paid back with good rewards & then i read something about a reward of virgin companions.

I was under the impression that if we are granted a space into paradise.. we'd be with the one's we loved aslong as they believed in Allah too.. I wouldn't want my future husband with virgin companions!! I would like to think he would still only be with me :(

I may read this wrong.. but please can somebody help me to understand what this really means??
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Technically, the word the Quran uses for "virgin" in the context in question is gender-neutral. It's not an issue of exclusive male entitlement. Allah wants us to be happily married, the virgins of paradise are married to those who enter it unmarried. There is a hadith, as far as I remember, that says that nobody will be a single in heaven.
 

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