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Thank you very much for answering my question. I guess I am just confused because I was told that women are treated equal if not better by Muslim men, but yet if they do something wrong they can be lightly hit. What happens if the man does something indecent?

Islam is a natural way of life. Both male and female have their own rights according to their biological and physical make up. So for example a women has the right to be provided for and her needs looked after by her husband and if she earns then it is hers and she does not even have to give any of it to her husband. But the husband has to provide for her and his money goes towards looking after her needs and requirements.

So both genders have their own rights so there are some rights women have over men which men do not have and some rights which men have over women which women do not have. But what you should know that the rights that men and women have over each other are completely fair and just.

That is why countless people accept Islam everyday because everything makes complete sense and as you learn more and more you will realise without a doubt that it is a superiour and unique way of life ordained from the creator himself. It is the only way to eternal success so let us implement every aspect of it into our lives and please the one who created us and be ever thankful to him for guiding us to the truth.
 
Ok, so I make sure I have it correct. Islam is a way of life, and Muslim is a religion. Now my question also is.... can a person be one without the other, or do the two things have to be together? I hope this doesn't sound dumb. I always say, if you don't know something, then ask, cause that is the only way to learn. Sunnie
 
Ok, so I make sure I have it correct. Islam is a way of life, and Muslim is a religion. Now my question also is.... can a person be one without the other, or do the two things have to be together? I hope this doesn't sound dumb. I always say, if you don't know something, then ask, cause that is the only way to learn. Sunnie

Islam is a way of life. Muslim is the person who follows that way of life.

How can a person call himself a Muslim if he is not fulfilling the condition for holding such name? Like if I am a teacher yet I don't teach anyone! it won't make any sense. I have to teach others so I can be called a teacher. The same thing for Muslim, no one can call himself a Muslim while he follows or believe in another religion.

I hope this answer your question sis.
 
Thank you Islamiclife for answering me so quickly.
you're welcome sister

I have to say, that I did not know that there was a difference between Islam and Muslim. Can you explain the difference to me, please?
Sorry to confuse you and sister danah clarified it above. I was trying to say that we shouldn't look at Muslims to conclude that something is part of Islam. Rather we should directly go to Islam. Because not every Muslim follows Islam 100%. I hope this clears the confusion

And May Allah Ta'ala make your journey to Islam easier, ameen
 
On that topic, it's worth noting that in the Quran, the beating is the third step after admonition first, and refusing to share his wife's bed second. It takes persistent immoral behaviour from the wife, and a very morally upright husband, to get to the point where the beating would be relevant. How many of the wife-beaters of this world do you think would deprive their wife (and themselves) of sex to protest her immoral behaviour? It's pretty safe to say that at least 99% of all the wife-beatings that actually happen in the world would not be permissible according to the standards set by the Quran.
 
the beating is the third step

You must read the tafsir and the hadith which go hand-in-hand with the ayah, you cannot use the ayah alone. The ayah uses the word iḍribūhunna there are various definitions of this, linguistically and symobollically. It can mean to hit, to seperate, to cover and so forth.

The vast majority of the scholars have referred to the meaning of it as 'strike lightly' not beat.

Looking at the hadith the Prophet PBUH said if the husband was to refer to striking the wife, what should he use? Fists? Feet? Batton? Baseball bat? No, a miswak
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and it's not to be used in sensitive areas ( face, chest area stomach) it's not to leave a mark either, the purpose is symbolically, to bring shame on the wife for her improper conduct.
 
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I accept your admonition, sister. I hope you can see from my post that it was by no means intended to be an endorsal of wife-beating.
 
I accept your admonition, sister. I hope you can see from my post that it was by no means intended to be an endorsal of wife-beating.

Just shedding some light on your post, for those who may interpret it wrongly :)
 
Hi LauraB,

I understand you perfectly ,and i can tell you that there in Janah we certainly get all that we want.
You could met your family your husband I´´ M QUITE SURE OF THAT
 
But that could happens in extreme conditions or exceptional cases

I mean that as far as one could go. please note that Islam is message for all people and cultures in all over the world ,Africa ,Asia...

BUt i belive that it is a exceptional in situations ....
 
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Hamza you ´r ..very good ..your answers too congratulation
 
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Sunnie..be careful where you take your advice and knowledge from..if its not backed up by Quran or Hadith..its garbage and innovation. I've never heard that anywhere.
 
I guess it will take me some time to understand this part.. I just don't see why 72 wives would be a reward & vice versa..! When one person is enough.. Hmm

You never know ... the 72 other wives could end up being your maids. ;) That would be heaven! Just kidding.
 
But, on a serious note, as exemplified by the conduct and manners of the Brothers in Islam on this forum, Sisters in Islam are respected and honored. A Muslim man will always defend the honor of his wife, mother, and sisters, and the last thing on his mind would be to cause them harm.
 
But, on a serious note, as exemplified by the conduct and manners of the Brothers in Islam on this forum, Sisters in Islam are respected and honored. A Muslim man will always defend the honor of his wife, mother, and sisters, and the last thing on his mind would be to cause them harm.

There is NO religion, faith, creed, group or people in the whole history of mankind from the first man until the last who has and who will honour women and give them the high status they deserve than Islam and truly practising Muslim men.

Anyone who says otherwise are either liars or they clearly know NOT about what Islam teaches regarding conduct towards women.

Any Muslim men who treat women badly are going against the teachings of Islam and are not practising Islam properly because if they were then they would know to treat women the best just like Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) did and just like Islam teaches us to.

And Allah knows best in all matters
 
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So.. I was reading the quaran today (english copy) & read through a few sura's saying about good deed's will be paid back with good rewards & then i read something about a reward of virgin companions.

I was under the impression that if we are granted a space into paradise.. we'd be with the one's we loved aslong as they believed in Allah too.. I wouldn't want my future husband with virgin companions!! I would like to think he would still only be with me

I may read this wrong.. but please can somebody help me to understand what this really means??

i think it dosent need so much saying to understand; Why!! ...because if you would have thought if you be IN Hell with whom would you like to be with your ....etc?
 
I wouldn't want my future husband with virgin companions!! I would like to think he would still only be with me I may read this wrong.. but please can somebody help me to understand what this really means??

Salam dear sister Laura,

One of the key issues of being in Heaven is that your earthly character will not follow you and you will only remember pleasant things about your earthly life.
Inshallah you make it to heaven none of your Ego traits will exist therefore no jealousy, possessiveness, dislikes, phobias e.t.c all gone.
When you Inshallah learn more about Islam you will realise why so much emphasis is placed on developing Islamic Sifa (character traits) and Adab (Islamic manners) to make one a better person and Muslim.
Believe me it will all become clear to you in time.
Patience sister patience.

Best wishes and may Allah S.W.T open your heart to His truth.
Masalam
 
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A long time ago, (well, more than thirty years can be considered as a long time, right?) when I was full of questions about Islam (and I am even more full of even more questions about Islam now but that's another story), I asked an ustaz how we will look like in janna. Will we, I asked him, look old or young?

The ustaz, Allah blessed him with hidayah, told me that in akhirah, we are no longer in this dimension and therefor things which we consider to be real in this world no longer apply. So how we look and the idea of old and young does not apply in janna.

Once, I tuned in to BBC World Service and listened to a phone-in radio program about Islam. Someone called in and asked the ustaz on air whether it was true that we would meet Allah in janna. The ustaz said that it was not possible because to say that we would meet Allah in janna would mean that janna is bigger than Allah. Nothing can be bigger than Allah, of course.

So why does the Quran talk about such things like trees and flowing rivers in janna?

As an experiment, try explaining to a small child of, say, three years of age, about the sensation of orgasm and you will begin to have a very rough understanding of what I am talking about.

The Quran is meant as a guide book for all of us to use until kiamat. Therefor it has to explain things in the unseen dimension in a way which we can understand. Janna is described as a place with trees, flowing rivers and houris so that it is easy for us to visualize janna.

As a very rough analogy, let's say the reward for salaah is described as twenty-seven twirling lights of forty-three different colors blinking and flashing in seventy-two different random patterns. I think even Albert Einstein would have a problem visualizing that.

For myself, I find that the reward promised by Islam is already evident when I try my best to practice Islam as closely as I humanly can. Whatever awaits me in janna, only Allah knows. Whether I even get to janna at all is totally up to Allah. After, what right has a slave to make demands of his master? So what right have I, as an insignificant creation, to demand anything of my Rabb, my creator?

Please do not make the mistake committed by so many people. So many people have created their god in their own image so much so that they cannot see the absurdity of worshiping a god who goes to the toilet just like they do.

So if you are sincere about wanting to know more about Islam, I heartily recommend that you learn by doing. For example, what's so wonderful about performing salaah? Only way to really find out is to perform salaah. After all, you don't have to pay a million-dollar membership fee up front to be a Muslim. You don't even have to be a Muslim to learn how to perform salaah. So give it a try.

May Allah bless you with the nur of hidayah. Ameen, ameen, ya Rabbil alamin. AlhamduliLLahi Rabbil alamin.
 
So what do us girls get?

If men get houris, what do girls, women get in Paradise?

Let me ask....how does the idea of having the same reward that the men get appeal to you?

I can imagine that reward being given to a man but I can't imagine the same thing being given to a woman. A man can have many wives but the thought of one woman having many husbands is a repulsive idea.

It's sufficient for me to know that women will enjoy the highest levels of dignity and have all that their hearts desire in Paradise. And Allah, the Most Great and Most Just surely knows what would please women....and each individual woman who makes it to Paradise. :)
 

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