A man has one heart and it will belong only to one female , this is what the Quran has confirmed and i think it's pretty clear from the Prophet's Seerah that his heart PBUH was only inclined towards Aisha May God be pleased with her
I'm interested to see where the Qur'an says that a man's heart can only belong to one female, can you show me please. Thank you. We know from the seerah that he loved Ayesha the most after Khadija, but that doesn't mean he did not love his other wifes. Kind of like a mother, she loves all of her children, but there is one that she adores the most out of all of them. That doesn't mean she see's her other children in a lesser way, or would be incapable of being just to all her children. Would you tell a woman she can only have 1 child incase she doesn't love them all equally? or incase her heart is particularly inclined to one child?
the Holy Quran also states that IF the man cannot be just and impartial, which the Holy Quran its self has confirmed that Men will never be just towards equality in polygamy , and if you fear (i.e) the men ) that you will not be Just them Marry ONE or What is under your Gaurdian ship ____ CAn anyone here claim that the Quran didn't say this???
i dont think so these verses are Clearly stated in the Chapter of Women, (Correct me if i am wrong)
You are correct, the Qur'an does address men saying, “And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice” [al-Nisa’ 4:3]
However where does it confirm that men will never be just in equality? When it talks about a man being just, it is with regards to, his time, and his wealth. So he must divide his time and wealth justly between the two wifes, I.E he must give them both the same number of days, he can't stay with one for 2 days and another for 3 days. He must stay with them both for the same duration of time, it also applies to his wealth, if he buys one a car, he also has to buy the other one a car. And this is the man being just with them. However if he fears he will not be able to do this then he should only marry one. Where does it say he will never be able to deal justly? maybe I'm not reading it correctly.
The other thing is that these verses were in first place revealed regarding orphans, this is one point , and what many muslims fail to understand is that God almighty did not permit Polygamy as a some type of fun or Worldly lust , Polygamy only started occuring in the days or the Sahaba after the Ghazawat ( the Islamic Battles) because more and more female companions were widows and they needed men to care for them as we know at that society there wasn't many options for women to go to , especially the muhajerat.
You are right, but Islamic Law is not bound by time, the rulings of Islamic Law do not change because of time periods, what was Islam 1400 years ago, is Islam today. To say polygamy was only appropriate for that time because of wars can lead one to say this about everything in Islam, whatever we don't agree with, we can disregard it and make up a reason as to why it's no longer viable in todays world. At the end of the day, it is halal, and we should not look at anyone who wishes to indulge in it, as doing something wrong.
Another thing about Polygamy is that one has to understand the way God has created Women , read all the prophetic traditions about LAsy Aisha and you will see that even though she was blessed with the prophets love , she was still very jealous of her Co-wifes who werent at the same level with.
So a woman may get jealous of her co wife, what is your point? that doesn't change the fact it's perfectly fine for a man or woman to do it in Islam. If a woman feels she can not handle a co wife then I'm sure her husband will oblige to her wish, however if she's happy with a co wife I don't see any problem.
Secondly the muslims of today are not the muslims of the Prophet PBUH time , and i don't think anyone can argue with me about that , the time has changed , the peoples mentality has changed, and many people from our global humanitarian community will not understand the issue of polygamy
they will come up with questions like --Do you all sleep in one bed..etc which is very sad because it seem from their point of view that islam is this Arabian,Lustfull , Women surpressing religion which God knows is not true and it is verily the responsibility of all muslims to clarify to their fellow human siblings that this is not what God has created us for..we have a much bigger purpose than to discuss such issues.
I agree the Muslims today are not as amazing as the Muslims of the past, however this doesn't change the fact that polygamy is allowed in Islam for any man or woman who wishes to indulge in it. Who cares if some non Muslims have perverted thoughts, do we change our religion to please other people? What are you suggesting that we should say Islam doesn't allow polygamy, in order to improve the image of it for non Muslims? If they think of such questions then they are simply displaying their own pevertedness are they not?
One last thing i would like to comment on , some of you muslim women think that you are the female sahabis sisters and that you are the second or third khadija or Aisha this is wrong because you isolate yourselves from other people especially women ar girls who are not at the same religous level as you are and it really shows that you atek islam for granted and you are supporting it is us verses them and belive you are not doing yourself or Your religion any benfit know well that there was a jewsih prostitute who found a thirsty dog and she quenched his thirst by filling her own shoes God Almighty has forgiven her and has granted her paradise, and know as well that there was devoutdly worshipping women who used pray and fast regularly but she used to hurt people with her tongue and God had destined her to Hell fire , and finally i would like you to know an important thing know very well that it is not your good deeds or your externally piety that will take you to Jannah it is Only God's Mercy and Prophet Muhammed Pbuh himself with all his greatness is not excluded from this.
Have you ever heard a sister say that she thinks she's the sister of a female sahabi? this is indeed worrying, you should take her to a doctor if she believes she is khadija or ayesha who has come back to life in the 21st century.
