had she either not taken her courses or not explained her past, many of our "incidents" could have ended any "normal" relationships. it is BECAUSE of those courses that she can be so effective helping others. yes, Muslims will tell you [sincerely] that you don't "need' help. the truth is that NONE OF US know what you need. we CAN'T know how what happened to you a
from her point of view, "as a Muslim, would you refuse a doctors help if you were sick? wouldn't you be denying the help that Allah has provided for you? the WHY oh WHY would you deny someone "mental" first aid or assistance?'
DANG GOOD QUESTION!
i leave you that as food for though.
Brother yusufnoor, a very touching story and I cannot pray enough for the well being, health and happiness for you and your wife InshAllah, may you guys be forever blessed, and may your trials be over soon aameen.
I have included a portion of what you said in my post, and it struck me, since I dont know, who says that you cant go for treatment to the doctors? This has to be some mis-understanding, since in cases of clinical depression and specially the kind that your wife has struggled with, it is recommended to take medication, courses and psychological treatment and etc. Why would anyone in their right mind stop you? Has an imam or a scholar said that to you, because I would like to know if they have since I have never heard a scholar advocate against psychological treatment. It is your right, and maybe an average muslim brother may have said to you that all you need is Quran, that is true for normal cases of day to day stressful events, tensions, slight worrisome matters, but for a condition that severe, one needs to seek all that help, since it clearly shows that you are unable to help yourself and need someone else's help to gather yourself again.
It may have been that those people have under-estimated your wife's condition, and trust me no-one knows what depression is really like unless they go through it, severe depression is a serious condition and MashAllah MashAllah from what you say, I think you're wife is doing so well mashAllah! that sounds like great progress! Keep doing the treatment, and keep asking for shifa from Allah swt (shifa= wellness from disease) and you will be blessed inshAllah.
So yeah, for people who haven't gone through all those difficult trials like your wife, and flowergarden, they don't really know what they're talking about, usually. While reading the Quran, is especially good for all, it heals your soul and puts your worries away , makes you strong inside, one can always take treatments if they feel what they're doing isn't enough. And yes in initial stages of mild depression, treatment through the Quran ( doing good recitations and listening to them, like that of Sura Rahman, almost everyday, have helped many people heal their mild to moderate depression) but someone who has already delved into severe depression ( which is marked by suicidal tendencies) must seek professional help.
Islam recommends treatment, and if you know of the hadiths that tells us that Allah swt says " I am fond of 2 types of knowledge in this world which hold great value to me, one is the knowledge of religion, other; the knowledge of tibb ( cures, medicine,doctors etc)
By the way I have a booklet which has duas for depression, I can share some with you if you'd like
