Having more than one wife in Islam..

[Regrets1]

I'd much rather, if I could, marry 2-4 sisters to protect them from rape, etc.

One can kill the person in order to protect one's honour, afaik.

Even if the first one loves you dearly and can't share u?? And if you take that step she would want divorce? You'd rather divorce her? And not everyone gets raped so can't really use that as a reason to have more than one wife

 

[Regrets1]

There are many pious men who still unmarried because they still can't get wives. So, rather than those women marry the men who already have wives, it's better if they marry those unmarried men.

Well ll said brother ardianto. i gave an example b4 of a man who doesn't work he is on benefits but he has two wives I don't think that's right. There is another one that's if his wives stop working he won't be able to provide for them from his own wage

 

[ardianto]

Well ll said brother ardianto. i gave an example b4 of a man who doesn't work he is on benefits but he has two wives I don't think that's right. There is another one that's if his wives stop working he won't be able to provide for them from his own wage

Polygamy happen because two people, the man who want to take another wife, and the woman who is willing to become his another wife. If there's no woman who is willing to become the another wife, then polygamy would not be happen

So, if we want to reduce polygamy rate, we cannot just tell the husbands to not commit polygamy, but we must assure the single women that it's better if they marry the unmarried men or single men like widower.

 

[Regrets1]

Polygamy happen because two people, the man who want to take another wife, and the woman who is willing to become his another wife. If there's no woman who is willing to become the another wife, then polygamy would not be happen

So, if we want to reduce polygamy rate, we cannot just tell the husbands to not commit polygamy, but we must assure the single women that it's better if they marry the unmarried men or single men like widower.

Yeah true.
If The man is thinking of providing for another woman be there for her etc thats cool, but I think he should consider what "his wife" would go through..if she's ok with it then it's all good but if he had to hurt his wife and she starts staying depressed etc because of his actions then he shouldn't go ahead with it.

 

[ardianto]

I'd much rather, if I could, marry 2-4 sisters to protect them from rape, etc.

There are many brothers here who still unmarried because they cannot get wife. So, rather than you marry four women, and let those brothers still unmarried, it's better if you marry one woman and help three brothers to marry those three other women.

 

[sister herb]

I'd much rather, if I could, marry 2-4 sisters to protect them from rape, etc.

One can kill the person in order to protect one's honour, afaik.

How do you see that being married protects anyone not to becoming raped? Rapers don´t ask before their victim´s marital status. Or do you think you can guard your wife/wives 24/7 in everywhere?

 

[Regrets1]

How do you see that being married protects anyone to becoming raped? Rapers don´t ask before their victim´s marital status. Or do you think you can guard your wife/wives 24/7 in everywhere?

I know..and rather than marrying someone to "save" them from getting raped why not marry a victim and give her the honour and respect as it wasn't her fault she got raped

 

[Serinity]

There are many brothers here who still unmarried because they cannot get wife. So, rather than you marry four women, and let those brothers still unmarried, it's better if you marry one woman and help three brothers to marry those three other women.

Provided that these signs haven't taken place yet:

I will narrate to you a Hadith and none other than I will tell you about after it. I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying: From among the portents of the Hour are (the following): -1. Religious knowledge will decrease (by the death of religious learned men). -2. Religious ignorance will prevail. -3. There will be prevalence of open illegal sexual intercourse. -4. Women will increase in number and men will decrease in number so much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man.

I agree.

 

[ardianto]

Provided that these signs haven't taken place yet:

I will narrate to you a Hadith and none other than I will tell you about after it. I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying: From among the portents of the Hour are (the following): -1. Religious knowledge will decrease (by the death of religious learned men). -2. Religious ignorance will prevail. -3. There will be prevalence of open illegal sexual intercourse. -4. Women will increase in number and men will decrease in number so much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man.

I agree.

But at the moment composition of men and women are still balance.

 

[Serinity]

How do you see that being married protects anyone not to becoming raped? Rapers don´t ask before their victim´s marital status. Or do you think you can guard your wife/wives 24/7 in everywhere?

Ehm, now I am confused.. Idk where my intentions were, but I didn't mean to say to marry 4 wives to protect them from rape, as in, rapes, i.e. potential rapes. As by that, every female is a potential victim.

Idk, I can't answer your question, as:

A. Idk what my intention was.

So either way, if I told you I meant marry the victim, I'd be perhaps lying to you cuz I forgot what intention I had.

But yeah, (if I could be allowed without lying) I meant marry vulnerable rape-victims. As the victims have no fault of their own, as such, do not deserve any dishonoring, as that'd be unislamic, and unintelligent. Afaik.

 

[Serinity]

But at the moment composition of men and women are still balance.

At this moment in time, it is close to 1:1

Therefore, it'd make sense that to every man, a female.

If it goes like 1 male: 50 females, then polygamy would be the choice.

If 20 males: 4 females, then.......... Idk.

 

[Regrets1]

I am left hanging here lol. Is it ok for a woman to demand divorce and leave her husband because he got 2nd wife? Or it's a sin?

 

[EgyptPrincess]

I am left hanging here lol. Is it ok for a woman to demand divorce and leave her husband because he got 2nd wife? Or it's a sin?

It's her marriage, she can divorce him because for whatever reason she pleases. Obviously in the eyes of Allah one should have patience with their spouse so divorcing for petty things or things which can be resolved is not recommended. Ultimately if the thought of her husband having two or more wives is too much to handle then she can divorce him.

In Islam you can divorce your spouse if the marriage is not working or if one is unhappy. Thus if the husband getting a divorce makes the wife unhappy, she can divorce

 

[Serinity]

It's her marriage, she can divorce him because him for whatever reason she pleases. Obviously in the eyes of Allah one should have patience with their spouse so divorcing for petty things or things which can be resolved is not recommended. Ultimately if the thought of her husband having two or more wives is too much to handle then she can divorce him.

In Islam you can divorce your spouse if the marriage is not working or if one is unhappy. Thus if the husband getting a divorce makes the wife unhappy, she can divorce

I think it is wrong to divorce someone just because of whims and desires, as in "I feel unhappy" or whatever..................

I just don't find it acceptable to divorce someone because of some feelings.

Marriage is a commitment, ofc if it becomes waaaaaaay to unbearable then one can divorce, only under extreme circumstances, etc.

Ps. one can marry young women in polygamy, up to their choice.

It is best we don't speak off of our own opinions and desires, and try to direct it to the scholars.
May Allah SWT forgive me if I said anything wrong. Ameen.

And Allah SWT knows best.

 

[Regrets1]

It's her marriage, she can divorce him because him for whatever reason she pleases. Obviously in the eyes of Allah one should have patience with their spouse so divorcing for petty things or things which can be resolved is not recommended. Ultimately if the thought of her husband having two or more wives is too much to handle then she can divorce him.

In Islam you can divorce your spouse if the marriage is not working or if one is unhappy. Thus if the husband getting a divorce makes the wife unhappy, she can divorce

yeah true..when wife does try and make things work but the husband is not ready to accept anything then I guess divorce is the last option, even when one is ready to do anything but husband still wants another wife then he should divorce first one for her happiness.

 

[Regrets1]

I think it is wrong to divorce someone just because of whims and desires, as in "I feel unhappy" or whatever..................

I just don't find it acceptable to divorce someone because of some feelings.

Marriage is a commitment, ofc if it becomes waaaaaaay to unbearable then one can divorce, only under extreme circumstances, etc.

Ps. one can marry young women in polygamy, up to their choice.

It is best we don't speak off of our own opinions and desires, and try to direct it to the scholars.
May Allah SWT forgive me if I said anything wrong. Ameen.

And Allah SWT knows best.

even when everything is perfectly fine with first wife he can still go and get married so he can stay happy (don't know what happiness hel get by having 2nd wife when the first one loves him dearly and have got evrything together) so she can demand divorce so she can be happy don't u think? She's got right to be happy whether she lives alone or gets married again rather than living a depressed life. people should have this in the married contract that the husband cannot marry again while with his first wife or marry again without her consent (il definitely do this)

 

[EgyptPrincess]

I think it is wrong to divorce someone just because of whims and desires, as in "I feel unhappy" or whatever..................

I just don't find it acceptable to divorce someone because of some feelings.

Marriage is a commitment, ofc if it becomes waaaaaaay to unbearable then one can divorce, only under extreme circumstances, etc.

Ps. one can marry young women in polygamy, up to their choice.

It is best we don't speak off of our own opinions and desires, and try to direct it to the scholars.
May Allah SWT forgive me if I said anything wrong. Ameen.

And Allah SWT knows best.

My opinion does not supersede Allah of course. It's just what I personally think, not that it means anything to allah swt.

So do you honestly think that if the Quran said wives can have up to 4 husbands, you would be ok with your wife having a second or a third husband? Think about what it is you're asking of her, it truly must be one of the absolute toughest things for a women to deal with. As a man, you surely must be gracious to your wife and even though it is your right, you should certainly put your wives feelings in to consideration?

 

[EgyptPrincess]

even when everything is perfectly fine with first wife he can still go and get married so he can stay happy (don't know what happiness hel get by having 2nd wife when the first one loves him dearly and have got evrything together) so she can demand divorce so she can be happy don't u think? She's got right to be happy whether she lives alone or gets married again rather than living a depressed life. people should have this in the married contract that the husband cannot marry again while with his first wife or marry again without her consent (il definitely do this)

We've answered your question several times now. Tell your friend to discuss with her husband how much she dislikes the idea and if she doesn't want that kind of marriage then she will have to play the divorce card. Fact is marriages don't work out a lot of the time... non islamic or islamic marriages... they all have their problems. It's up to the couple to resolve the differences Inshallah it's a smooth process.

 

[Serinity]

even when everything is perfectly fine with first wife he can still go and get married so he can stay happy (don't know what happiness hel get by having 2nd wife when the first one loves him dearly and have got evrything together) so she can demand divorce so she can be happy don't u think? She's got right to be happy whether she lives alone or gets married again rather than living a depressed life. people should have this in the married contract that the husband cannot marry again while with his first wife or marry again without her consent (il definitely do this)

Afaik, if you stipulate it in your contract that he can only marry once, and if he decides to marry twice, you've the right to divorce. Allahu alam tho.

Of course if things become unbearable, afaik, you can divorce.

 

[Serinity]

My opinion does not supersede Allah of course. It's just what I personally think, not that it means anything to allah swt.

So do you honestly think that if the Quran said wives can have up to 4 husbands, you would be ok with your wife having a second or a third husband? Think about what it is you're asking of her, it truly must be one of the absolute toughest things for a women to deal with. As a man, you surely must be gracious to your wife and even though it is your right, you should certainly put your wives feelings in to consideration?

https://islamqa.info/en/10991
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If a woman had 4 husbands, the husbands would proly fight eachother, and out of their jealousy kill eachother or something. Allahu alam.

No man would share their wife.

There is a reason why Allah SWT didn't allow it. It isn't wise to let women have more than 1 husband. Allahu alam.