Gems Happy Muslim Husband & Wife thread

"There was a man who was very poor and lived with his wife. One night, his wife asked him to buy her a comb for her hair, which was very long. He looked at her with sadness in his eyes and said, "I can't afford it...My watch also needs a strap, but I can't afford to buy one..." His wife didn't argue with him. She just smiled in his face.

The following day, after work, the man went to the shop and sold his watch for a very cheap price. With that money, he bought a comb for his wife. When he returned home that night with the comb in his hand, he found his wife with very short hair, and in her hand was a strap for his watch. Each of them looked at the other with eyes overflowing with tears, not because what each of them had done turned out to be of no use, but because they saw that each one loved the other exactly the same, and each one was willing to do their utmost to please the other.

Always remember: When you love someone, or when you are loved by someone, you must do your utmost to make her/him happy through every way that you can, even if he wants an iPhone 7 + 256GB. Because, true love is (proven) through actions and not words.

Have you understood, or should I reply with a story that's even longer?"

[Translated from an Arab love story.]
 
Kiro said:
Why is Faaaar han so active here
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They won't teach you this at school. Your brain will be filled with the periodic table over there lol.

Some topics that you can learn that will lead to a very fulfilling life :statisfie:

- How to have a loving relationship with your spouse
- How to perfect your relationship with your Creator
- How to balance your relationship with money
 
farhan said:
They won't teach you this at school. Your brain will be filled with the periodic table over there lol.

Some topics that you can learn that will lead to a very fulfilling life :statisfie:

- How to have a loving relationship with your spouse
- How to perfect your relationship with your Creator
- How to balance your relationship with money
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Are you getting married

did you get a proposal
 
Kiro said:
Not even at halal land?
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Some good advice:

Avoid eating at take-aways if you can. Try to make your own food instead. It's better in every way.


  1. You know that the food you're eating is Halaal (know for certain where you're getting the meat/chicken from)
  2. You know for certain that the food was prepared in a hygienic manner (Take-aways many times don't worry that much about hygiene. Take it from someone who worked in one.)
  3. The food is prepared by yourself, as a Muslim, so there is more Barakah (as compared to having a Kaafir make your food. Even in Muslim take-aways, the staff making the food are almost always Kuffaar.)
  4. When you make food yourself, you can make it according to your own specifications
  5. Sometimes the staff who work in the take-away are ill-treated and have a grudge against the owner. They hate their job but have to do it because there's nothing else for them. As a result, their curses and misery settle over the food prepared by them like a kind of darkness (Zhulmat). Thus, when you eat the food, you might feel sick (this is according to some of the Hukamaa; it is not a ruling in Sharee`ah. It's just from their experience.)
  6. The Hukamaa (Wise Men) have said that there is more Barakah (blessings) in food you make with your own hands.
  7. Take-aways and restaurants many times tend to charge exorbitant prices for their goods. If you made that very same dish yourself, you'd have spent considerably less money. One restaurant may charge R75 for a burger, for example, whereas if you made it yourself it would only have cost you R10 or less.

More benefits could be mentioned, but I'll keep it at this. We don't want to derail the thread also.

Then again, this issue of food and whether to make your own food or buy from take-aways/restaurants is very much connected to married life (the wife you marry may not want to cook or bake), so it is relevant in a way.
 
Huzaifah ibn Adam said:
Some good advice:

Avoid eating at take-aways if you can. Try to make your own food instead. It's better in every way.


  1. You know that the food you're eating is Halaal (know for certain where you're getting the meat/chicken from)
  2. You know for certain that the food was prepared in a hygienic manner (Take-aways many times don't worry that much about hygiene. Take it from someone who worked in one.)
  3. The food is prepared by yourself, as a Muslim, so there is more Barakah (as compared to having a Kaafir make your food. Even in Muslim take-aways, the staff making the food are almost always Kuffaar.)
  4. When you make food yourself, you can make it according to your own specifications
  5. Sometimes the staff who work in the take-away are ill-treated and have a grudge against the owner. They hate their job but have to do it because there's nothing else for them. As a result, their curses and misery settle over the food prepared by them like a kind of darkness (Zhulmat). Thus, when you eat the food, you might feel sick (this is according to some of the Hukamaa; it is not a ruling in Sharee`ah. It's just from their experience.)
  6. The Hukamaa (Wise Men) have said that there is more Barakah (blessings) in food you make with your own hands.
  7. Take-aways and restaurants many times tend to charge exorbitant prices for their goods. If you made that very same dish yourself, you'd have spent considerably less money. One restaurant may charge R75 for a burger, for example, whereas if you made it yourself it would only have cost you R10 or less.

More benefits could be mentioned, but I'll keep it at this. We don't want to derail the thread also.

Then again, this issue of food and whether to make your own food or buy from take-aways/restaurants is very much connected to married life (the wife you marry may not want to cook or bake), so it is relevant in a way.
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For the guys here who are unmarried: Learn how to cook/bake from now already, just in case the girl you marry doesn't want to do it.
 
In Joburg (SA) for example, there are a myriad of take-aways, so some of the girls from there are not that inclined to cook or bake for their husbands. The way they see it, "Why should we cook for you when there're so many take-aways around? Just go out and buy something!"
 
Huzaifah ibn Adam said:
In Joburg (SA) for example, there are a myriad of take-aways, so some of the girls from there are not that inclined to cook or bake for their husbands. The way they see it, "Why should we cook for you when there're so many take-aways around? Just go out and buy something!"
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Sounds like some dear sisters I know...why put in the effort if someone has already done it for you?

I'm an advocate of home-made food, probably because I've spent the 17 years of my life eating food freshly cooked by my mother. That said, I prefer baking to actually cooking, and I prefer feeding other people than feeding myself, probably because I know exactly how many grams of butter has gone into the recipe :p. If I don't say so myself my chocolate brownies are quite famous around these parts.

I mean, there's that age-old saying 'The way to a man's heart is through his stomach'. You don't want the takeaway cooks in your husband's heart, do you? I'm sure they don't want to be in his heart. :D
 
A man shouldn't allow himself to be useless, in the sense that he is unable to make anything for himself and has to rely solely on the wife for everything. Also, wives generally cook and bake everyday, so the men should take that into consideration and try to make things easier for them by having braais more often (braais are always made only by men). The men marinate the meat and braai it. If they (the men) have also learnt how to make other things, then they won't have to rely on the wife's cooking. He can make a huge deg of chicken akhni, for example, which could last a week.
 
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