Do brothers tell sisters to cover up?

[anatolian]

Reminds me of a news i read last week. Egypt shiekh saw Mubarak at the Prophet's masjid and went up to him and reminded him to 'fear Allalh'. His securities escorted both of them out separately and took the sheikh back and imprisoned him for 15 years. He just got out now.

Yea be carefull whom you warn..

 

[Simple_Person]

Assalam alaykum

I don't mind a brother coming up to me and telling me to put my hijab as irritating as he might be. I have men telling me or asking me to put hijab. He wouldn't tell me that if he didn't care. Also I'm right there in front of him, so of course he is going to see me. Ladies never be mad if someone tell you to cover yourself. I used to wear hijab myself. But I stopped it for two reasons.
I wore hijab not because I wanted to please Allah but because I had cut my hair.
Second i used to wear hijab while wearing tight clothes, I felt that it was disrespectful in a way. When God said cover yourself it wasn't only the head but also the body. I see many sisters wearing hijab and wearing tight clothes and makeup. I'm not judging anyone but I don't that's real hijab. May Allah Guide us all, give us patience and grant us life and death of a good Muslim.

Ameen,

Honesty, i just LOVE HONEST PEOPLE!!. Knowing you are wrong and following the path of what you admit is wrong is first step towards right. As you already stated, many sisters wearing hijab but tight pants. Also not judging, but keep doing it thinking it is "oke". Anyways, you have my respect for being honest and admitting your state.

I have said this to many brothers included to myself, if we want to marry to a good wife/husband, we first must work on ourselves. From among our brothers and sisters who already are married, to bring blessings to the marriage also, work on yourselves. I would absolutely NEVER want to marry a sister who doesn't pray and follow Islamic obligations, so WHY would a sister marry me if i don't pray and follow Islamic obligations right? It goes both ways, but again..the first step is honesty. We must admit we are wrong and ask Allah(swt) to guide us to the right path.

May Allah make it easier for you and i to overcome our weaknesses and submit fully to Him. Ameen.

 

[aicha94o]

Ameen,

Honesty, i just LOVE HONEST PEOPLE!!. Knowing you are wrong and following the path of what you admit is wrong is first step towards right. As you already stated, many sisters wearing hijab but tight pants. Also not judging, but keep doing it thinking it is "oke". Anyways, you have my respect for being honest and admitting your state.

I have said this to many brothers included to myself, if we want to marry to a good wife/husband, we first must work on ourselves. From among our brothers and sisters who already are married, to bring blessings to the marriage also, work on yourselves. I would absolutely NEVER want to marry a sister who doesn't pray and follow Islamic obligations, so WHY would a sister marry me if i don't pray and follow Islamic obligations right? It goes both ways, but again..the first step is honesty. We must admit we are wrong and ask Allah(swt) to guide us to the right path.

May Allah make it easier for you and i to overcome our weaknesses and submit fully to Him. Ameen.

Thank you brother.

I mean honesty is the key. We muslims today are so different from the ones before us. We are fast to get angry, we are arrogant and pretentious. Muslims before used to be very open to advice because they fear God and wanted to be pleased by Allah. Whereas when you advice someone today that person will say that you're judging him/her. I will accept any advice if it's not haram no matter what that person look like, whether he/she is perfect or not, I don't care. Non-Muslims come to me and ask me why I'm not wearing hijab, isn't that haram and stuff and honestly it makes feel ashamed of myself. although some see that as judgment, it makes think about my life and how I should change.

Thank you for your previous comment

 

[Muslimah inshal]

Honestly me myself I would love if a person gives me an advice whether it is a brother or a sister and I would thank her/ him for correcting me .
The problem is that nowadays giving advice is seen like judging and it's not .

 

[Muslimah inshal]

(1) I have observed that women have less problems with heat when it is warm and are easily freezing when it is just slightly breezing. So basically sub'han'Allah the body of women are created in such a manner that during winter they can wear clothes, while men can withstand cold better. In the summer they can withstand the heat better while men are sweating like crazy . I ALSO have discovered why it is so important to have clothes to have pockets of air between the cloth and the body. During winter it acts like air that is frozen which is extra isolation and during summer breezes can more easily come with under the clothes and cool down the body. So benefit upon benefit to have loosely fitted clothes.

(2) I agree with you on that. In the Qur'an Allah(swt) FIRST talks about men to lower their gaze. Their is even a logic in this. There are women who dress outrageously but just not even looking at those women, i have no problems at all. In another topic i believe it was @sister herb or you who said that dirty men will always be dirty. Now a days as a Muslim for me it is rather hard as it is very difficult to be outside as everywhere you look are indecent things to see. So i just try to adapt my schedule when to go outside, as there are certain time scoops that the eye of the tornado is active you could say. For example Saturday morning when the shops JUST open almost nobody is outside..they are still sleeping or just waking up. You can go quickly to the shop ..do your shopping and go back home. Evaded much trouble . Or there are primary roads and those back alley's which nobody walks..also eye of the tornado . Sleep early and wake up early during the night you can take a walk..it is so calm outside (also eye of the tornado). Or even during summers around 05:00 o'clock ..it is very nice and cool outside. Blessed moments.

When you point at something or somebody for the problems, know three fingers are pointing back at you (directed at those people who always want to blame women for the problems).

Yeah you are very right . I agree. I always think how men can handle this problem . There are semi naked women everywhere omg [emoji29]
As a sister I think women SHOULD make it easy for men by covering themselves because seriously it's really difficult to be looking always at the floor omg I can not imagine lowering my gaze all day and night . We are not angels . Poor men.
And by covering themselves , they will be respected .

 

[Simple_Person]

Yeah you are very right . I agree. I always think how men can handle this problem . There are semi naked women everywhere omg [emoji29]
As a sister I think women SHOULD make it easy for men by covering themselves because seriously it's really difficult to be looking always at the floor omg I can not imagine lowering my gaze all day and night . We are not angels . Poor men.
And by covering themselves , they will be respected .

I'm gonna get very frank, maybe even a bit out of line, but just directly hopefully women to understand this. As you yourself pointed out that men constantly looking down. We men are visually very strong. What we see and turns us on, our body already reacts to it. This so called epididymal hypertension, in other words "blue balls". When the seed is being created it needs to get out because we have been turned on. This is being the outcome that men have wet dreams, as these dreams i believe are even a mercy from Allah. the condition of "epididymal hypertention" can only brought back to normal if the seed finds it's way out by having intimate relationship with one's spouse or wet dreams only possible halal way's for Muslim men.

So for many brothers who are not married, this is a big injustice many women doing to them. I mean oke, we look away all the time, but every where now a days you look such women with such tight clothes are there. I have observed my own behavior and the days that i have witnessed such dreams and every time it happened when i came in contact with women or not able to look somewhere that they are not walking there.

Majority of women now a days are such shallow thinkers and think it is their body and they can do what they want with it. Many brothers, Muslim or not Muslim, can control themselves, but some might not. If those insane guys are not assaulting those women, FOR SURE those women are assaulting men who can control themselves and try to look away. How assaulting us? by creating epididymal hypertention in our body. Some women might find this funny and something to laugh about, this is injustice and Day of Judgement will also come for you.

 

[Muslimah inshal]

I'm gonna get very frank, maybe even a bit out of line, but just directly hopefully women to understand this. As you yourself pointed out that men constantly looking down. We men are visually very strong. What we see and turns us on, our body already reacts to it. This so called epididymal hypertension, in other words "blue balls". When the seed is being created it needs to get out because we have been turned on. This is being the outcome that men have wet dreams, as these dreams i believe are even a mercy from Allah. the condition of "epididymal hypertention" can only brought back to normal if the seed finds it's way out by having intimate relationship with one's spouse or wet dreams only possible halal way's for Muslim men.

So for many brothers who are not married, this is a big injustice many women doing to them. I mean oke, we look away all the time, but every where now a days you look such women with such tight clothes are there. I have observed my own behavior and the days that i have witnessed such dreams and every time it happened when i came in contact with women or not able to look somewhere that they are not walking there.

Majority of women now a days are such shallow thinkers and think it is their body and they can do what they want with it. Many brothers, Muslim or not Muslim, can control themselves, but some might not. If those insane guys are not assaulting those women, FOR SURE those women are assaulting men who can control themselves and try to look away. How assaulting us? by creating epididymal hypertention in our body. Some women might find this funny and something to laugh about, this is injustice and Day of Judgement will also come for you.

Yes definitely ! Day of judgement will come and we will all witness it . Whether we did good in our test or bad . We will be asked for every act we did so better to listen to what Allah commanded us to do . Women : cover ; Men : lower gaze. And inshallah everything will be okay .

I really understand what you say . I always ask my older brother how he can handle this situation . Subhanallah , what can I say .

May Allah make it easy for everyone that is having a problem and may Allah help us worship HIM as he told us . Amiin ya rab Al alamiin

 

[Muslimah inshal]

HE ***

 

[Supernova]

Assalamu Alaikum


So you see a muslimah not properly covered/wearing hijaab improperly/etc...do you say anything to her?

Asalaamualaykum

I would first point out a mistake of my own. If I don't have any visible error then I will tell her something within me example that I am struggling with tajweed class or something upon those lines and ask for input.

Thereafter I will point out that issue of hijab and ask her if I could do anything to support the cause like get her in touch with some sisters etc.

Its not easy for many muslimahs to make that jump into hijab.

The approach of a cat to its prey is more beautiful than the spring.