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As salaam Aalaikum,
Islam have put great values to both parents and as I am reading islamic question websites and other websites they all mention that fathers and mothers have great rights to their children and neither parents rights should be dismissed and so on. However, that is what Islam or better yet...that is what Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) himself tells us....we all know in reality that is not the case. We all know that only mothers in our eyes and only her have great values and rights and fathers have no rights at all or values in our eyes. So here comes the question I am going to ask. I am intending to get married soon, Insha'Allah, but I also know that no marriage is guaranteed life time or lasting a long time...we all know when I get married I will have to do all the sacrifice alone as society accept this deformed and mutant thinking and we all know I will be 100% the bad guy and my wife 100% the good guy. This is the narrative I am taking it and can't be changed so I am accepting it for now. I also accept I have to tolerate that I may go through verbal and physical abuse from my wife in the future as a man I must accept this because the narrative is that what is a man have to do...he have to accept it, you have to be strong and take it like a man. Again that is narrative I am going to have built and perhaps it makes me strong or perhaps it makes me a fool...it is a game and it must be played.
Now comes the question to this post. The children. When children disrespect me as a father or mistreat me or in the future they grow up they join the mother and raise the middle finger at me and say F you....do I have the right to make dua against them? Would the dua return back against me? Would the banner of my dua between me and Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) be lifted so it is immediately accepted, much like a mother would do against her children? I just need to know where I stand on this.
I know in Islam it talks a lot about husband rights been great but nowadays even that is not respected and we just step on it and open our zipper and piss on it. Even if it is commanded from Allah (himself) we raise our middle finger and refuse it and call ourselves Muslims. I have to say there is nothing Muslim on us and that is something we need to wake up or wallahi if the angel comes with the hammer and smash our heads we deserved it and if the grave crushes us and we see hellfire we earned it. So the question comes in...if the father makes dua against his children would it be at the same level as if the mother made dua against her children?
I need to know because that would make me really happy if it is yes, this gives me peace in mind knowing that in the future should my wife tries to play mind games against me and try to hurt me through the children and have the children become my open enemy that to release the pressure in my heart and mind and not go crazy or wild that I can just simply make dua against them all and cry out from my heart to give peace in my heart and mind and know justice will be served.
Please do not come and answer me with therapy or say you need to solve your issues about women first, blah blah blah. The only reply in this post I need to know if the answer is yes or not anything else I will just read it and thank you for your opinions and concerns and move on. I have heard enough injustice toward men from women and family court and laws and disrespect to men and fathers that I have had it up to here. I accept the reality I live in and that cannot be changed and I will accept and tolerate verbal and physical abuse from future wife it it comes and consider this means of getting high reward in the afterlife, but I also have limits and need to know as a dad (not care much about as a husband) if the children (I care more about them than a wife, a wife she comes and goes and she can become strangers to me and she can marry another man and she can be happy and live a happy life) wage war against me and they make dua against me would it be accepted from them? What if I made dua against them, would it be accept it right way then?
One final question, if I cut ties from them completely and say F you...stay with your mother or they say we do not care for you...we want our mom you can leave dad...go...would I be accountant in the afterlife for cutting ties. DO I have to go to these kids or single child like a dog to his master and submit to them and try to get their approval or get their connection?
Islam have put great values to both parents and as I am reading islamic question websites and other websites they all mention that fathers and mothers have great rights to their children and neither parents rights should be dismissed and so on. However, that is what Islam or better yet...that is what Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) himself tells us....we all know in reality that is not the case. We all know that only mothers in our eyes and only her have great values and rights and fathers have no rights at all or values in our eyes. So here comes the question I am going to ask. I am intending to get married soon, Insha'Allah, but I also know that no marriage is guaranteed life time or lasting a long time...we all know when I get married I will have to do all the sacrifice alone as society accept this deformed and mutant thinking and we all know I will be 100% the bad guy and my wife 100% the good guy. This is the narrative I am taking it and can't be changed so I am accepting it for now. I also accept I have to tolerate that I may go through verbal and physical abuse from my wife in the future as a man I must accept this because the narrative is that what is a man have to do...he have to accept it, you have to be strong and take it like a man. Again that is narrative I am going to have built and perhaps it makes me strong or perhaps it makes me a fool...it is a game and it must be played.
Now comes the question to this post. The children. When children disrespect me as a father or mistreat me or in the future they grow up they join the mother and raise the middle finger at me and say F you....do I have the right to make dua against them? Would the dua return back against me? Would the banner of my dua between me and Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) be lifted so it is immediately accepted, much like a mother would do against her children? I just need to know where I stand on this.
I know in Islam it talks a lot about husband rights been great but nowadays even that is not respected and we just step on it and open our zipper and piss on it. Even if it is commanded from Allah (himself) we raise our middle finger and refuse it and call ourselves Muslims. I have to say there is nothing Muslim on us and that is something we need to wake up or wallahi if the angel comes with the hammer and smash our heads we deserved it and if the grave crushes us and we see hellfire we earned it. So the question comes in...if the father makes dua against his children would it be at the same level as if the mother made dua against her children?
I need to know because that would make me really happy if it is yes, this gives me peace in mind knowing that in the future should my wife tries to play mind games against me and try to hurt me through the children and have the children become my open enemy that to release the pressure in my heart and mind and not go crazy or wild that I can just simply make dua against them all and cry out from my heart to give peace in my heart and mind and know justice will be served.
Please do not come and answer me with therapy or say you need to solve your issues about women first, blah blah blah. The only reply in this post I need to know if the answer is yes or not anything else I will just read it and thank you for your opinions and concerns and move on. I have heard enough injustice toward men from women and family court and laws and disrespect to men and fathers that I have had it up to here. I accept the reality I live in and that cannot be changed and I will accept and tolerate verbal and physical abuse from future wife it it comes and consider this means of getting high reward in the afterlife, but I also have limits and need to know as a dad (not care much about as a husband) if the children (I care more about them than a wife, a wife she comes and goes and she can become strangers to me and she can marry another man and she can be happy and live a happy life) wage war against me and they make dua against me would it be accepted from them? What if I made dua against them, would it be accept it right way then?
One final question, if I cut ties from them completely and say F you...stay with your mother or they say we do not care for you...we want our mom you can leave dad...go...would I be accountant in the afterlife for cutting ties. DO I have to go to these kids or single child like a dog to his master and submit to them and try to get their approval or get their connection?
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