I think the problem with Israel and the US can be summed up with an analogy.
The US saw Israel as being the helpless new kid at school. There were bigger kids at the school and a few of them called Israel names, so Israel cried to Big Daddy who told the little Isrel to stand up for itself. Israel came back and said now the kids were being bullies and hitting him. So the US gave little Israel a stick to hit the bullies with if the kids tried to hit him any more. Little Isrel took the stick and shped it into a spear now Isrel came running and said the big kids have swords, so the US gave little Israel a rifle which Isreal refashioned into a machine gun and is now chasing the bigs kids. The problem we are faced with is how to get the machine away from Israel.