Opposite Gender Concerns

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Re: bad touch

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"It is not permissible for a woman to allow a man to hold her hand or touch her because he is a stranger (non-mahram) to her."

It is not permissible for a man who believes in Allaah and His Messenger to put his hand in the hand of a women who is not permissible for him or who is not one of his mahrams. Whoever does that has wronged himself (i.e., sinned).

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh.

Allahu a3lam

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Re: bad touch

Sometimes wen u hav to pay someone in a shop, it can get a bit awkward taking back loose change without allowing ur hands to touch.........

best way to go about it.....if u put ur money on the counter instead of handing it into the assistants hand, hopefully they will do the same wen giving change.........

or better still giv the exact amount.........
 
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SUMMAYAH said:
Sometimes wen u hav to pay someone in a shop, it can get a bit awkward taking back loose change without allowing ur hands to touch.........

best way to go about it.....if u put ur money on the counter instead of handing it into the assistants hand, hopefully they will do the same wen giving change.........

or better still giv the exact amount.........
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i kindly disagree sister :)


if we keep our hands a fair distance away then the exchange can go rather smoothly (ie money can be dropped from mid air into hand). Alhamdulillah contact hasnt ever been an issue for me.
 
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Anonymous Tester said:
salaam, wat r u meant 2 do if ur hand touchz the hand of a person of da opposite gender n u didnt feel guilt abut it wen it happend, n u liked it?:cry:
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Umm... you should try to feel guilty, I don't know how you can stop yourself from liking it... but feeling guilty is something you can work on. :thumbs_up

And of course, always try to avoid touching anyone.

IbnAbdulHakim said:
if we keep our hands a fair distance away then the exchange can go rather smoothly (ie money can be dropped from mid air into hand). Alhamdulillah contact hasnt ever been an issue for me.
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Interesting! Can you please clarify this technique? Money exchange can be annoying for me sometimes.:mmokay:
 
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Malaikah said:
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Interesting! Can you please clarify this technique? Money exchange can be annoying for me sometimes.:mmokay:
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:wasalamex

sure, you lift up your hands, you wait for the person to open their hands while you have yours locked in a fist to show that you aint allowing the palm to palm exchange, their natural instinct will be to spread their palms in front of you, then you simple loosen the fist and allow the money to freefall directly into their hands.

The finders keepers rule may be applied to any change that falls on the floor, sins will be distributed to those who act on the rule
 
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IbnAbdulHakim said:
i kindly disagree sister :)


if we keep our hands a fair distance away then the exchange can go rather smoothly (ie money can be dropped from mid air into hand). Alhamdulillah contact hasnt ever been an issue for me.
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I very kindly disagree :)

the person giving the change back might not drop it from mid air but put it in your hand.. and some stinky pervs linger while doing that! :raging:

I agree with summayah sis.. give exact change AND put it on the counter :thumbs_up
 
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Muslimah_Sis said:
I very kindly disagree :)

the person giving the change back might not drop it from mid air but put it in your hand.. and some stinky pervs linger while doing that! :raging:

I agree with summayah sis.. give exact change AND put it on the counter :thumbs_up
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lol mashaAllah kindly Agreed
 
walk home

hi, i take islamic classes at night time and i have to walk home after words, its only like 10 minute walk and a brother has to do the same walk. i feel fightened sometimes, and he offered to walk with me to protect me if i wanted. can i? i mean, he is no threat and he would never do anything to me, everytime i talk to him he gets all red and blushed and gets nervous, so its not like he is a big bad guy.
 
Re: walk home

Anonymous Tester said:
hi, i take islamic classes at night time and i have to walk home after words, its only like 10 minute walk and a brother has to do the same walk. i feel fightened sometimes, and he offered to walk with me to protect me if i wanted. can i? i mean, he is no threat and he would never do anything to me, everytime i talk to him he gets all red and blushed and gets nervous, so its not like he is a big bad guy.
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First of all you are not allowed to see the face of any non mehram Brother..:X 2ndly At night how can you see if his face is red or blushing??...:blind:


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Re: walk home

well, of course i don't know the islamic position on this.
but it would seem that since it is a matter of your safety, maybe it would be ok if you didn't talk to or look at each other?
it's not really safe for women to walk alone at night in most places.
 
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One more thing WHICH is very IMPORTANT...you are not allowed to stay or walk with any non mehram brother ALONE .
 
Re: walk home

if you were in a dangerous area (and most places are dangerous for women at night) - are you saying it would be better for a woman to walk alone (and risk being attacked, etc) than with a non-mehram brother?
 
Re: walk home

It's better to walk with a mahram(brother of father, and some others), or not go out at all. Why go out if dangerous? In Islam, better safe than sorry.
 
Re: walk home

If it's not possible to go with a mahram, or get a lift home, then walk with the guy for your own safety, so long as he's trustworthy.
 

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