Opposite Gender Concerns

[Noor]

Re: walk home

check your intentions

 

[nevesirth]

Re: walk home

lets try 2 be logical here, would u prefer she rather be prone to harm by a complete stranger than walk with a non mehram man who she feels will give are some form of protection? in this age we are, i think its better to analyze such a situation with a open mind rather than applying rules blindly>>>>>>

 

[Um_ahmad]

Re: walk home

First of all you are not allowed to see the face of any non mehram Brother..:X 2ndly At night how can you see if his face is red or blushing??...:blind:

Sister are you seriouse we are not supposed to look at the face??:?

 

[Muslim Woman]

Re: walk home




I seek refuge in Allah (The One God) from the Satan (devil) the cursed, the rejected

With the name of ALLAH (swt) -The Bestower Of Unlimited Mercy, The Continously Merciful


Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh (May the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah be upon you)



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hi, i take islamic classes at night time and i have to walk home after words, its only like 10 minute walk and a brother has to do the same walk. i feel fightened sometimes, and he offered to walk with me to protect me if i wanted. can i?

---if it's dangerous, then don't attend the night classes.....try to do class in day time

i mean, he is no threat and he would never do anything to me,

--may be but it will violate the commands of God Almighty .

In the holy Quran , most probably Sura Nur/light , Allah told us to avoid those acts that can lead us to immoral act like adultery/fornication. Spending time with opposite sex at night is surely a step towards immoral relationship.

everytime i talk to him he gets all red and blushed and gets nervous, so its not like he is a big bad guy.

-- he is shy now but if u 2 spend time together for a long time , then gradually he will overcome his shyness.

Prophet Muhammed (p) said ( not the exact words ) ....when a man is alone with another woman , 3rd person comes & that's the devil.

so sis , pl. avoid the bro , instead tell ur bro or dad to pick u up or find another day time class.

 

[Muslim Woman]

Re: walk home


Salaam/peace;

First of all you are not allowed to see the face of any non mehram Brother..:X

-----there is a hadith for men not to look at non-mehram women for the 2nd time ' cause 2nd glance is from devil ..... I m just curious .....is there any specific hadith for women not to look at men ?

2ndly At night how can you see if his face is red or blushing??...:blind:

hahahaha , may be it was not that dark , street light was enough to see the blushing :giggling:

 

[Khayal]

Re: walk home

If it's not possible to go with a mahram, or get a lift home, then walk with the guy for your own safety, so long as he's trustworthy.

How can be he trustworthy, if his face is turns red n he blushes in front of a girl? Astaghfirullah.......:X

 

[Khayal]

Re: walk home

check your intentions

Yeah...but what about his intentions??:? +o(

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[lavikor201]

Re: walk home

Obviously none of you would care what Jewish law (Halakha) says about this type of situation, however, let me ask you all, this the chance of this girl getting hurt because she did not have a male (ho may not be related to her, but cares about her and is shy so wont probably wont advance on her) worth her seperation from the male?

Let me ask you all:

If this girl comes on here in a week and tells you all she has cuts over her face and was raped because the male not related to her, was not aloud to gaurd her, because of YOU ALL, would you change your answer?

This is a REAL person, and telling her to walk alone, could impact her forever.

Some of you need to think.

 

[Khayal]

Re: walk home

lets try 2 be logical here, would u prefer she rather be prone to harm by a complete stranger than walk with a non mehram man who she feels will give are some form of protection? in this age we are, i think its better to analyze such a situation with a open mind rather than applying rules blindly>>>>>>

So, you would wish for safety in a like situation. SO, the best way to stay safe is to avoid such a situation where one could put herself in danger like that.

 

[Khayal]

Re: walk home

Sister are you seriouse we are not supposed to look at the face??:?

Sister you can see, but you can't stare. It depends on the intention.

 

[Khayal]

Re: walk home

Salaam/peace;



-----there is a hadith for men not to look at non-mehram women for the 2nd time ' cause 2nd glance is from devil ..... I m just curious .....is there any specific hadith for women not to look at men ?


It applies to both genders. And to be clear, by my understanding, the second glance cannot be a stare.



hahahaha , may be it was not that dark , street light was enough to see the blushing :giggling:

Oo, OK......

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[siFilam]

Re: walk home

:salamext:

Salaam/peace;



-----there is a hadith for men not to look at non-mehram women for the 2nd time ' cause 2nd glance is from devil ..... I m just curious .....is there any specific hadith for women not to look at men ?

sis, you don't need a Hadith, it's in the Qur'an Surah Noor (24:31)
"And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty..." (24:31)
wasalam
-SI-

 

[youngsister]

Re: walk home

[How can be he trustworthy, if his face is turns red n he blushes in front of a girl? Astaghfirullah......./QUOTE]

That doesnt make him untrustworthy(haha does it even make sense) anywaysss, Maybe hes just shy and being shy its a good quality.

Sister is best not to walk with him, thats what I think. we are being told to stay away from fornication (not only that but anything that might leads to it).

 

[Snowflake]

Re: walk home

I wouldn't advise walking with the brother, even if you don't look at each others face. Let's face it, for how long? Soon one of you will exchange a word or two. This will lead to three or four and before you know it you'll be engaging in long conversations. Pious people aren't immune to commiting sin.

You can take islamic classes online. You don't need to go out to learn Islam.

An online islamic educational institute

http://www.**************/

 

[youngsister]

Re: walk home

I wouldn't advise walking with the brother, even if you don't look at each others face. Let's face it, for how long? Soon one of you will exchange a word or two. This will lead to three or four and before you know it you'll be engaging with long conversations. Pious people aren't immune to commiting sin.

:thumbs_up :thumbs_up

 

[Snowflake]

Re: walk home

why isn't the link coming up? :?

 

[Snowflake]

Re: walk home

neway, try this

http://www.islamonline.net/english/hadith/hadith.shtml

 

[Muezzin]

Re: walk home

So there are a few possibilites.

Firstly, you could get a day class, or study Islam over the net.

Secondly, you could continue going to the night class, but, if there's no alternative, walk home with the dude for your own protection.

Is it not possible to get a lift home from one of your relatives for instance? It's dangerous for girls to walk around alone at night.

 

[queenmuslimah]

Re: walk home

inshallah may allah make everything easy for u...ameen...........if i were u i would have at least another person walk with u.....inshallah everyting is goin to be alright

 

[deen_2007]

Re: walk home

simple: change your class time