Opposite Gender Concerns

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Re: walk home

I think is best to go with a mehram. But if you cannot make sure he walks in front of you.
 
Re: okay..um I'm nt sure what 2 name this thread

Actually I do not talk to them without having some1 present...and I did not tell them I love then in words...but its a feeling some1 gets when you get on with them very well...but thank you for your replies.
And just to let you know I have made a decision, and I have talked to my parents about it....after all the one who propose saw my parents to do so..I just didn't give no reply...the other guy well..he's not serious and he's deen is not very good..not that I am saying mine is but you'll understand what I mean!!!
Jazakallah*
 
Re: okay..um I'm nt sure what 2 name this thread

siFilam said:
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I’m with sister Muslimah_Sis I won’t judge you. But you asked for advice and I will give you one as Muslim. This may sound harsh but it’s the truth. First of all, you’re not married to them but you’re telling them you love them. You’re not even supposed to talk to them to on the phone without a third person on another line. For the sake of your own self, fear Allah. If you’re serious about marrying any of these guys then get your parents or a guardian involve in this matter. you’re not Kaffir so stop imitating their behavior.
Please forgive me if I offended you and May Allah, The Most Merciful, forgive me as well. But I won't lie to you.
wsalam
-SI-
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:sl: ^^MashaAllah very well said.

But Im glad Allah guided you with a partical decision. May Allah have mercy on us all Ameen.
 
Hijab but kisses

At my school there is a girl who began wearing a Hijab during Ramadan. Now she wears this Hijab and draws attention to herself, but no one ever makes fun of her or anything. But I saw her in the halls and she passed a non-muslim white guy and gave him a little kiss on the cheek and said Hi, smiled and kept going. Now:
  • Is it better that she not wear the Hijab at all if she acts that way with it on?
  • As a Non-Muslim, who knows a lot about Islam is it my place to make a comment to her about it, or is that to rude?
  • Anything you have that I can tell her which will basically tell her she is completly wrong etc, like no kissing guys, or physically touching them (from quran).
Thanks.
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

Maybe she's not wearing it with intention and you might have witnessed something no one is supposed to know about.
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

Maybe it wud b wise 2 tell sum 1 who is muslim. But not spread gosip but 2 help the girl?
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

yes? then she must not have been waering it with intention, as the hijab is designed to stop physical contact.

you shouldnt think about it too much to you be your way and to her be her's
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

its better to do the lesser of two evils always

so not wearing hijaab n kissin is worser then wearin hijaab n kissin.

the girl remains a faasiq but inshaAllah she'll slowly realise

may Allah guide her!
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

Look at the maybe's *tsk*

Ameen to the dua!

Allahu alim, Allah (swt) knows her intentions.
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

IbnAbdulHakim said:
its better to do the lesser of two evils always

so not wearing hijaab n kissin is worser then wearin hijaab n kissin.

the girl remains a faasiq but inshaAllah she'll slowly realise

may Allah guide her!
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but what if people get the idea it is okay for islamic girls to do these things?

I say we get this non-muslim to hand this girl a note from the "LI board" inviting her to come on here so we can explain why she is doing wrong.
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

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arabiyyah said:
but what if people get the idea it is okay for islamic girls to do these things?

I say we get this non-muslim to hand this girl a note from the "LI board" inviting her to come on here so we can explain why she is doing wrong.
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I agree. Thats the best idea. if she accepts then please remember that we should be gentle with her.
May Allah, The Most Merciful, guide us.

wasalam
-SI-
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

Why didnt u say anything to her..whats the point in wearing the headscarf if u gonna go and kiss people.. silly girl.
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

arabiyyah said:
but what if people get the idea it is okay for islamic girls to do these things?

I say we get this non-muslim to hand this girl a note from the "LI board" inviting her to come on here so we can explain why she is doing wrong.
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Good plan.

Except there's the very real probability that she will recoil and think the original poster is talking out of line.
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

if a person wears hijab they will be seen by some non-muslims as a representative of muslims as a whole. so i think they would have a special obligation to present a good example.
 
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snakelegs said:
if a person wears hijab they will be seen by some non-muslims as a representative of muslims as a whole. so i think they would have a special obligation to present a good example.
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True. I still think the original poster should be gentle, because if he or she is too harsh, the girl in question may take offence and not actually correct the problem.

To the original poster: You could try talking with the girl about whether Muslim girls are allowed physical contact with boys, without specifically mentioning that incident. Just in a friendly sort of conversation in which you want to learn more about Islam, or more about the way she follows it. You say you have a lot of knowledge of Islam, so, in the course of the conversation, you might say something like, 'I've read that Muslims aren't allowed to touch members of the opposite sex?'

The key word is friendliness. I think if you outright say 'hey, I saw you kissing that boy's cheek, you're a bad Muslim', she would probably react negatively, because that's how most people would react. In my opinion at least.
 
2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

:sl: i am in a weird situation and need advice i have fallen for this decent brother whos on his last year of college i really really like him i had this feeling for a few months now. summer is coming up and college will close soon because we both going to go to university different ones i will not see him again. do you think i should tell him how i feel? the disadvantage is that it might create fitnah and even though i would like to marry him it will not happen as in my family we have to finish university first.
should i stay quiet and risking of loosing him OR tell him how i feel and maybe tell him so well he can come and ask for my hand one day:?
what do you think i should do? by the way i dont talk to him never have.w.salam
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

Just stay quiet sis,you don't even know the guy, like u said u just seen him around at college..You'll get over the brother once u leave.Even if do the brother will probably not feel the same way about you.So save yourself the fitna and the embarrassment. Sat quiet.
 

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