Everyone who is young and single is so focused on getting married and some people end up in family feuds over the subject of finding a suitable partner.
I don't intend to discourage any two muslims who are "in love" from afar to not get married and it is completing ones faith and it is an important sunnah.
I'd like to bring to light a different perspective for those who are doing everything to get married, instead of staying single for awhile and waiting longer before tieing the knot. Perhaps their is a reason for why you are not getting married so quickly? Perhaps there is a hidden blessing that you are over looking.
Think about it....
1. Single means you can eat, sleep, study, work, go out to the park when ever you want.
2. Being single allows you the opportunities to earn your own living in order to travel to far off major booming economies such as Dubai or Qatar, and you can work how ever many hours, jobs as you want.
3. Being single means you can spend your last two dollars on a chocolate covered chocalate if you wish,without anyone standing over you forbidding you for any reason.
4. Being single allows you to choose how you want to live, go to the masjid at anytime you like, not being forbidden from doing so.
5. Being single means you have more time to wait for Allah to send you a good Muslim your way, by waiting, sometimes you actually get better end results in finding a suitable marriage partner.
6. Being single allows you time to explore your own personality, and to buid "you" before you try to build a relationship based on "us".
7. Staying single longer means you can jump at any opportunity that comes your way, and you can set your life up, buy a car, build a nice house, so you'll always have something to call your own in your own name no matter if you get married or not.
8. Delaying marriage means more time that you can spend with your mom while she is still alive, instead of having to deal with a needy spouse who always wants you at home cooking and cleaning.
9. Staying single a little longer will allow you the opportunities stay out with your best friends instead of having to always be at home having to deal with a grumpy nagging spouse.
10. Last but not least, staying single means more opportunities to seek knowledge and more time to build your Imaan up!
these are the kinds of things one should find out when meeting with the sister and when asking around about her character. im not suggesting to just marry the first beating heart you see now.
Actually the people you ask won't be able to tell you whether the person is a wife beater or has cheating tendencies because these are the qualities that surface only after the marriage.
Actually the people you ask won't be able to tell you whether the person is a wife beater or has cheating tendencies because these are the qualities that surface only after the marriage.
yes but thats where putting trust in Allah comes. We see many western couples know each other inside out, live together before marrying and still end in divorce-and they did all the 'checks' as such...if both peoples fear Allah and work at it then inshaAllah the marriage will be blessed and even with ups and downs and faults, they will still remember why they are together inshaAllah
Actually the people you ask won't be able to tell you whether the person is a wife beater or has cheating tendencies because these are the qualities that surface only after the marriage.
you must be asking the wrong people.
if you worry about the bad then why even get married? this is like saying "im not going to drink hot chocolate because it might burn my tongue"
yes but thats where putting trust in Allah comes. We see many western couples know each other inside out, live together before marrying and still end in divorce-and they did all the 'checks' as such...if both peoples fear Allah and work at it then inshaAllah the marriage will be blessed and even with ups and downs and faults, they will still remember why they are together inshaAllah
Yes we should trust Allah in everything we do but we should be realistic before getting into something as major as marriage. Alot of people have unrealistic expectations of what marriage is going to be like, and so they end up getting really disappointed.
you must be asking the wrong people.
if you worry about the bad then why even get married? this is like saying "im not going to drink hot chocolate because it might burn my tongue"
It's more like preparing yourself for the chance that your tongue might get burnt, rather then believing that it can't happen at all!
if your spouse is getting married just to steal your money then?
if your spouse abuses your parents then?
if your spouse doesnt take care of you then?
if your spouse just wants your passport then?
if your spouse stays out all night with their friends then?
if your spouse never listens to you then?
if your spouse really sits at home and doesnt do nothing then?
if your spouse doesnt take of the kids then?
if your spouse wants to travel on her own then?
if your spouse just wants the dowry and get a divorce then?
If your spouse simply dosent give any of your rights then?
So much for the "Epic Win"
May Allah protect us from these kind of spouses. Allahumma Ameen
FiAmaaniAllah
Looking at it from a womens point of view... ffended:
Alllahumma Fazna.
May Allah Ta'aala save us!
Proudly Muslim wrote
Yes we should trust Allah in everything we do but we should be realistic before getting into something as major as marriage. Alot of people have unrealistic expectations of what marriage is going to be like, and so they end up getting really disappointed.
I must say for my own sisters marriage, she would conflict with you. She has got nothing out of her marriage except all the negatives in the world and a really "bad" man! I try my best to keep her patient and keep her going, but its really hard because she not even done a single thing wrong!
I am getting contradicting views on marriage at the moment!
FiAmaaniAllah
Sub7anALLAH...That is heartbreaking to hear. May ALLAH give your sister much Sabr. *sighs*
I know exactly what you mean...it is very sad to see wonderful sisters married to scumbags who do not know what ALLAH and His Rasool say about kind treatments towards one another...Sub7anALLAH!
May ALLAH guide us to that which pleases Him. AMEEN!
The ruling regarding marriage
*Please appropriately reference this fatwa to: www.fatwa-online.com, thankyou!*
Question: Is it obligatory (fardh) to marry or is it (simply) recommended (Sunnah)?
Response: It is an encouraged Sunnah to marry for those who are able; as the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said:
((O gathering of youth! Whoever among you is able to marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.) and whoever is unable to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power)).
It is (quite) possible in respect to some people it is obligatory (to get married) if there is fear within himself that he may fall into fornication whilst he is able to afford to get married.
And with Allaah lies all success and may Allaah send prayers and salutations upon our Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) and his family and his companions.
The Permanent Committee for Islaamic Research and Fataawa, comprising -
Head: Shaykh 'Abdul 'Azeez ibn Abdullaah ibn Baaz;
Deputy Head: Shaykh 'Abdur-Razzaaq 'Afeefee;
Member: Shaykh 'Abdullaah Ibn Ghudayyaan
Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa.imah lil-Buhooth al-'Ilmiyyah wal-Iftaa. - Volume 18, Page 6, Fatwa No.9624, Question 3
"The Human being is an enemy to what he is ignorant of"
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