60 Ways to Keep the Love of your Wife

[S_87]

explanation needed for :
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal
28. Help at home and with housework
18. Speak about topics that interest her
10. Be a good listener

lol are you serious?
ok how i see it

59. no woman (or man) is perfect. you may find something you dont like in her but you may also find loads you do like in her. Accept what you dont like and dont hold onto it or bear grudges.

28. you really dont understand this? of course each household is different and just like a woman who doesnt really work should be considerate of her husband coming home from working, a man should also consider this. if a woman has worked all day and comes home tired just like the man-theres the kids cleaning and cooking still to be done. he should understand that just as hes probably tired, so is she and help with it all.

18. talk to her.

10. a wife needs to know her husband is there to listen to her whenever she wants to talk. he should be the type that listens rather than brushes her off and lets her 'deal with her stuff' alone. or just in general. talk.

 

[Cabdullahi]

i hope the above helps brother najm because i had already known the answers ,exactly the same solutions as the sister
ehm

 

[al Iskander]

JazakAllahou bikhayr .

May Allah gives you the best rewrd for that , these are very good advices to share a nice life together , I and my wife .:statisfie

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

some of these shock me honestly :uuh:

34. Take shaytaan as your enemy, not your wife

52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, “Don’t jump on her like a bull”

heh......

most of them are natural easy stuff anyway

most brothers i know would check every box including my own ones ALHAMDULILLAAAAH!!

 

[GuestFellow]

52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, “Don’t jump on her like a bull”

:skeleton:

explanation needed for :
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal
28. Help at home and with housework
18. Speak about topics that interest her
10. Be a good listener

59: Well everyone has something that other people may not like and that they cannot change...for example having a very big nose. You can't change that and it is best to accept it...okay maybe not the best example.

28. Help her clean up and do the washing etc.

18. Well when your talking to your wife, talk about that things that she likes and not the things that she would find boring.

10. When she is speaking don't interrupt her.

 

[Ayesha_Hanif]

mashallah, a good read

 

[Najm]

1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce

11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing

13. Utilize pleasant surprises

16. Give sincere compliments

19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is

21. Get rid of routine, surprise her

25. Expect and respect her jealously

29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her

30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

From 1-30 these are the ones i want to know about.

My Question for 1,11,13,16,19, 21,29: Suggest How i should do each of these? examples would be great (to get me started etc etc):embarrass

25: How does/can this occur, how to prevent it and deal with it? :hmm:

30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you

She already is!! Alhamdulillah!!:statisfie

FiAmaaniAllah

 

[S_87]

1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce
When youre arguing or something- there shouldnt be the threat of im gonna divorce you if you dont... i wish i never married you etc

11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing
flattery :statisfie you look so beautiful, wow that suits you, mashaAllah this food was great youre such a good cook..compliments

13. Utilize pleasant surprises
bunch of roses, box of chocolates, a cute note stuck on the fridge/in her purse etc doesnt have to be expensive, small and thoughtful

16. Give sincere compliments
refer to no 11

19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is
mashaAllah im really blessed to have married your daughter, shes a great woman/wife etc

21. Get rid of routine, surprise her
you could take her out out of routine for dinner/a weekend away/just shopping or somewhere she wanted to go, plan it without telling her

25. Expect and respect her jealously
just how you would be jealous of other men over her she will be jealous of other women over you. no harm in letting her know you only have eyes for her

29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her
if you force her to look after and be with your family 24/7 then shes probably gonna be argh. dont make her stay and be with them all the time..having just married you, she will be getting used to you, to have to get used to a whole new family with her husband pressuring her sucks. it will take time and give her her own space and inshaAllah she will build a relationship with them

30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you
something like no 25...

 

[Salahudeen]

^ MASHALLAH sis the note on the fridge or in her purse is sooooo cute, she could be sitting on the train or bus and looking in her bag feeling miserable and then find this lovely note that makes her smile

you could put chocolates in her bag when she's not looking also

I know, I would enjoy finding ways to make her happy like above hehe part of the fun :statisfie

 

[Cabdullahi]

1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don?t threaten her with divorce
When youre arguing or something- there shouldnt be the threat of im gonna divorce you if you dont... i wish i never married you etc

11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing
flattery :statisfie you look so beautiful, wow that suits you, mashaAllah this food was great youre such a good cook..compliments

13. Utilize pleasant surprises
bunch of roses, box of chocolates, a cute note stuck on the fridge/in her purse etc doesnt have to be expensive, small and thoughtful

16. Give sincere compliments
refer to no 11

19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is
mashaAllah im really blessed to have married your daughter, shes a great woman/wife etc

21. Get rid of routine, surprise her
you could take her out out of routine for dinner/a weekend away/just shopping or somewhere she .........

its obvious this person knows their stuff well and has a clear idea what they want.....oxford style detailed explanations

 

[Ansariyah]

19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is

Shouldnt they already know!? lool

 

[Najm]

32. Leave the past for Allah subhanahu wa ta ala, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.

35. Put food in your wife’s mouth

38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them before they become big

40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking

42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within halal boundaries

44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments

46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice

49. Encourage each other in ibaadat

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

JazakiAllah Khar for some of the explantions... Heres some more from 30 to 49 :embarrass

32. What if the past effects the future and continues to be an issue

35. What if the brothers/sisters watching or even mum and dad:embarrass

38. How should you deal with small things, and when is the best time to solve isssues and deal with things?

40. what if her thinking is not the best, and she continues to insist

42. why not? and how can you change that?

44. Examples to get me started

46 why? does it make a difference?

49. What if she doesnt like being told:hmm:

JazakAllah Khair in advance

FiAmaaniAllah

 

[Cabdullahi]

46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice

i will call her and say i'll be back home in an hour from work enough time for her to cook but in actuality i'll be hiding near the house door then i'll barge in after 5 minutes saying ''where is my food thats it you failed im calling the takeaways ?''

 

[GuestFellow]

35. Feed her when your alone... ._.

 

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[sameur]

what is the Arabic meaning for the meaning Sameur. sorry for being off topic but it is urgent.

 

[Santoku]

I might add a 61st, DON'T CHANGE YOUR RELIGION WITHOUT TELLING HER!

 

[S_87]

32. What if the past effects the future and continues to be an issue

then you both have some major issues.
other than that if something comes up like a disagreement the worst thing to do is the whole 'remember when you' that will just start a whole other disagreement..sometimes youll be right sometimes youll be wrong.(and sometimes you might both know when the other persons right but at the same time be too stubborn to say it) would you prefer the wife bringing up when youre wrong-'remember this' etc? it doesnt help matters.

35. What if the brothers/sisters watching or even mum and dad:embarrass

when youre alone

38. How should you deal with small things, and when is the best time to solve isssues and deal with things?

hm it depends on what the small things are- with this one id say let some small things go because you are both your own person and there will be stuff that she may not like but not such a big thing to make a deal about. however if its something that reallllllllllllly grates you/her then let her know in a nice way- not when youre both arguing and you bring it up. for example if i dunno, ummmmmm she left the toothpaste cap open (lol mg and its a pet peeve of yours then tell her in a nice way. you hear of marriages breaking up when these small things become such a big issue in the end..'he even does this and that', when in reality its nothing, just so built up.

40. what if her thinking is not the best, and she continues to insist

well shes not your clone, if you have a difference of opinion that is not islamic then you have to let her have her own mind and thinking. you dont want a wife that thinks different to you but hides from you because you dont allow her to express her true self

42. why not?and how can you change that?QUOTE]
aah i cant explain that :hiding:

44. Examples to get me started

basically flirt with her.

46 why? does it make a difference?

yes it does. this doesnt mean everyday if youre working and she knows you will return at 5 you phone and say i am now coming home at 5. In the time of Muhammed :arabic5: when the men would go on journeys they would send someone to let their wives know they were almost home so the wives could 'prepare' for them. so if youre away for a couple of day+s and your wife is waiting for you to come back theres no harm in letting her know youll be home soon so she knows when to expect you. and the same goes for when youre going away. dont just tell her 30 mins before that youll be away for the week. unless emergency or something

49. What if she doesnt like being told:hmm:

it doesnt say tell her. it says encourage and it works both ways. for example if shes memorising the Quran then you dont say have you learnt this yet?:raging: rather you ask in a nice way and offer to listen to her and push her when she cant and memorise with her etc. and in the same way she can push you in a way that is supportive and encouraging but not demanding.

 

[S_87]

46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice

i will call her and say i'll be back home in an hour from work enough time for her to cook but in actuality i'll be hiding near the house door then i'll barge in after 5 minutes saying ''where is my food thats it you failed im calling the takeaways ?''

hahahaaaaaaaaaa unless you want a super pissed off wife then dont try that mg:

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:wasalamex

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

JazakiAllah Khar for some of the explantions... Heres some more from 30 to 49

32. What if the past effects the future and continues to be an issue

you need to sort that out BEFORE you are married so that each of you know on which bases, etc you are going ahead with the marriage. anything you know about one anothers past needs to be rectified asap, as to not cause any trouble and misunderstanding's in the future.

38. How should you deal with small things, and when is the best time to solve isssues and deal with things?

ever heard the saying "a stitch in time saves nine?" the exact same concept applies here. don't let little argumentments get out of hand. if you do argue and it gets a little :raging: let the both of you calm down (take a walk or something?) and when you have both calmed down speak about whats bothering you and try to sort it out so that inshallah it doesn't become an issue again in the future.

40. what if her thinking is not the best, and she continues to insist

advice her in regards to what she is doing wring. you dont have do this directly, it could just be "you know i think it would be better we went on saturday, as the mall on Sunday's tends to be too crowded" or something like that. also put your your views across in a kind and polite manner as to make let "feel dumb."

44. Examples to get me started

"MashaAllah, this is dish is so delicious, i could eat the plate" :embarrass "you smell/look as beautiful as a rose" "mashallah the house looks so tidy, may allah grant you the best maid to clean your palace in jannah" when she gives a glass of water say "may allah grant you a sip from al-Kawthar" or something along those lines....
and say other such duas in front of her with a nice smile. this will make her know that she is doing something pleasing and and right, as well as make her feel encouraged , which in turn will make her enthusiastic to do more.

49. What if she doesnt like being told

then you simply shouldn't. as long as she is fulfilling the obligations, eg praying, etc then leave it at that as sometimes if dawah is done in the wrong time/manner/place, it may be counter-productive.