60 Ways to Keep the Love of your Wife

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some of these harvard detailings by the two professors just makes me cringe ......this is too much my brain is about to slowly trickle out of my ears in the form of cerelac
 
Abdullahii said:
some of these harvard detailings by the two professors just makes me cringe ......this is too much my brain is about to slowly trickle out of my ears in the form of cerelac
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ok ill keep quiet now :omg::hiding:
 
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Abdullahii said:
threatening someone is something which no sane human should do

1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce

instead of falling for the trap of threatening her you could up her game whenever there's a drop in concentration and complacency is creeping in by saying sara,hasna and batoota will join us as of tomorrow that will make you a strong unit of 4 ,consider them your helpers and you can be the forewoman if you want but i might change because sara is pretty steadfast in everything ''
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i hope your future would be smart enough to put the "no co-wife" option in your marriage contract.

and of course there is the other option of getting up and doing whatever you want done, yourself.

this works gentleman use it for motivational purposes and expect improvements in all departments
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yes, but only inconsiderate jerks would use that. personally, if my husband tried that, he just may see the back of my hand!

amani said:
so instead of the divorce threat another woman threat is that what youre saying? hahaha try that and tell us how it works
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my thoughts exactly.
 
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Shouldnt they already know!? lool
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well yes, but its nicer if he were to say it to them as this shows them that he cares and appreciates her :)
 
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my previous posts were for comedy purposes and im not a dumb person that i'll do these things...all my siblings are females and i know certain stuff regarding mannerism, looking after and provision

just clarifying things after the received grilling from one of the professors of women studies
 
Najm said:
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

JazakiAllah Khar for some of the explantions... Heres some more from 30 to 49 :embarrass

32. What if the past effects the future and continues to be an issue

35. What if the brothers/sisters watching or even mum and dad:embarrass

38. How should you deal with small things, and when is the best time to solve isssues and deal with things?

40. what if her thinking is not the best, and she continues to insist

42. why not? and how can you change that?

44. Examples to get me started

46 why? does it make a difference?

49. What if she doesnt like being told:hmm:

JazakAllah Khair in advance

FiAmaaniAllah
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:wasalamex

35. You're just feeding her...just do it :D

38. Communication. Communication. Communication. ALWAYS talk to each other and don't be automatically judgmental. Take it easy, relax and work for a win/win situation.

40. You can't really expect her to hold the same opinions as you everywhere..just respect it. If it;s reallly bothering you, explain your side..but don't be overbearing.

42. Women are emotional..so there are times when their mood is off. Be understanding and let it be. Do other things together..you can have a great time even when you're not being intimate.

44. Masha'Allaah...you're the hottest person I know baby. That chicken was the best I've eaten...are you like a professional undercover cook? If Allaah gives me the most beautiful hoor..I'd choose you over her like that (snap finger). Baby, you complete me. Honey, marrying you was the best decision I ever made. etc etc etc. (note these haven't been personally tried by me unfortunately...but they seem to have potential :-\)
 
Al Ansari said:

50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you

53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside

55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself

56. Share your happiness and sadness with her

57. Have mercy for her weaknesses
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AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Wow, so many great answers!! MashaAllah!! InshaAllah, i will do everything i can to make the marriage run smoothly!!! Where does everyone get this kinda info from?

P.s ive printed out that book posted by uhkti Khadija, its amazing! :embarrass

Here's 50 to 60

50. Id prefer a lecture (if possible) on each others rights. Hard to fulfil if you dont know everything:S

53. Ok lets say i need advice on a certain "dispute" who would be the right person to go to for this "advice"?

55. How does one over come this kinda feeling?

56. Sadness? Wont that make her feel upset? And wouldnt that put strain on the relationship

57. Again, whats th best way to overcome/ improve her or my weakness without sounding demanding or hurting each other :S

61. Is honesty always the best policy? Even one has done something reallly reallly stupid? Also is it better if i tell or she finds out <<<< (speaking generally)

JazakiAllah Khair for all the advices in advance..... now i have a lot of rep to give out :statisfie

FiAmaaniAllah
 
53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside
the verbal dispute victory should be televised
 
50. Id prefer a lecture (if possible) on each others rights. Hard to fulfil if you dont know everything:S
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aah hard to pinpint everything in detail but it is in regards to treating her well/with respect-emotionally/physically and financially. you might want to read this for more detail:

http://islamqa.com/en/ref/10680/wifes rights

53. Ok lets say i need advice on a certain "dispute" who would be the right person to go to for this "advice"?
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only if it is severe and you really need someone- someone who she respects and wants the best-her parents?

55. How does one over come this kinda feeling?
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hmmm a lot of the time by biting your tongue to avoid conflict. even if at the time you may not think youre wrong but if you spouse is really reiled up-well it takes two to tango and the last thing you want is a slanging match

56. Sadness? Wont that make her feel upset? And wouldnt that put strain on the relationship
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do you know of when Muhammed :arabic5: was first visited by Jibraeel alayhissalam? he was in a great state of distress and worry..and he went to his wife Khadija radhiallahu anha for comfort and reassurance. in the same way-your wife is your friend/helper and partner. you should both share each others happiness and be there for each others sadness/worry etc

57. Again, whats th best way to overcome/ improve her or my weakness without sounding demanding or hurting each other :S
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everyone has weaknesses and if its not something major, let it go.

61. Is honesty always the best policy? Even one has done something reallly reallly stupid? Also is it better if i tell or she finds out <<<< (speaking generally)
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depends on what kinda honesty. if she ever asks you do i look fat be anything but honest. dont EVER say yes.
other than that dont lie to her but she doesnt need to know every single trip up youve made. but then, i dont know what kind of examples you mean :-\
 
amani said:
hmmm a lot of the time by biting your tongue to avoid conflict. even if at the time you may not think youre wrong but if you spouse is really reiled up-well it takes two to tango and the last thing you want is a slanging match


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Great advice he might have no tongue left after two days
 
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Najm said:
55. How does one over come this kinda feeling?
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give and take. just let her win sometimes to "train your self" to let it go. also remember, that you aren't perfect so you are bound to be wrong at times.

56. Sadness? Wont that make her feel upset? And wouldnt that put strain on the relationship
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it may make her upset, but it'll make her even more upset if she knew you were upset and didnt tell her. if you are happy, she wants to see that her husband is happy, and if you are sad, it will worry her and she would want to share the burden and try advice you and help you out...so no, it wont strain the relationship.

57. Again, whats th best way to overcome/ improve her or my weakness without sounding demanding or hurting each other :S
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you have to do it in indirect ways. so if you find her being too emotional over something you deem isn't, just say (in a polite way) something like "look, the reason why that person annoys you is because they know you will be annoyed by it. so if you show that you are not annoyed by it, then they will stop and you'll find that you'll be happoer cos you have nothing to worry about."

and also, just by being there for her and comforting her in her crappy moments is also a great way of having mercy on her weaknesses. so in other words, just letting her be...leaving her alone is another way as well.



Maalik said:
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35. You're just feeding her...just do it :D
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no, dont do that, it'll embarrass her. badly.
 
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AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Alhamdulillah!!! This thread is amazing, its coming to so much practical use :D

JazakAllah Khair for all the help.

FiAmaaniAllah
 
The same sort of 60 points should be given to act for wives. Else, husbands are already very innocent creatures. LOL.
 
nuryanna75 said:
How about ways to keep the love of your husband? Anyone?
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my husband is very easy to keep happy...

1. make coffee on time (first thing in the morning and in the evening.)
2. make sure he always has ciggerettes and lighter
3. refill coffee cup
4. lay out work clothes for next day.
5. refill coffee cup.
6. clean dzezva (thing for coffee)

ha ha ha ha ha ha
 
It makes my husbnd rily hapy wen he finds me reciting his favourites suras in the quran.
 

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