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Asslamou Alaikoum Warahmatou ALLAH tAALA wABARAKATOU,

Sisters and brothers iam really writing with my tears and i really lost and dont know what to do

Today my husband came back from work and as always i prepare food for him and we start eating then he start telling that his friend lost the job because of a ***** girl shes working with them and i really feel sorry for the boy

Second he said that some boys at work asking me if there is an attaractive girl and she asking me to have a sex with her could you accept that and i replied no because iam married and i love so much my wife

To be honest while my husband is talking i felt lost and sheytan start playing with my mind and i fight with my husband accusing him with having sex with girls at work and he start crying and saying No

I really dont know what to do now , I feel i wanna cheat on him , I feel hes guilty but i have no prrof please iam wrong or right ?

Jazakoum ALLAH kheir
 
nilufer said:
Asslamou Alaikoum Warahmatou ALLAH tAALA wABARAKATOU,

Sisters and brothers iam really writing with my tears and i really lost and dont know what to do

Today my husband came back from work and as always i prepare food for him and we start eating then he start telling that his friend lost the job because of a ***** girl shes working with them and i really feel sorry for the boy

Second he said that some boys at work asking me if there is an attaractive girl and she asking me to have a sex with her could you accept that and i replied no because iam married and i love so much my wife

To be honest while my husband is talking i felt lost and sheytan start playing with my mind and i fight with my husband accusing him with having sex with girls at work and he start crying and saying No

I really dont know what to do now , I feel hes guilty but i have no prrof please iam wrong or right ?

Jazakoum ALLAH kheir
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i can't seem to get exactly what ur trying to say..ur husband's colleague lost his job because of a girl who works in the same office? u mean he got fired for adultery? and now, ur husband is being tempted by the girl? and ur not sure whether he had committed adultery with her? and he also is not sure about himself? hmm...
 
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nilufer said:
Asslamou Alaikoum Warahmatou ALLAH tAALA wABARAKATOU,

Sisters and brothers iam really writing with my tears and i really lost and dont know what to do

Today my husband came back from work and as always i prepare food for him and we start eating then he start telling that his friend lost the job because of a ***** girl shes working with them and i really feel sorry for the boy

Second he said that some boys at work asking me if there is an attaractive girl and she asking me to have a sex with her could you accept that and i replied no because iam married and i love so much my wife

To be honest while my husband is talking i felt lost and sheytan start playing with my mind and i fight with my husband accusing him with having sex with girls at work and he start crying and saying No

I really dont know what to do now , I feel i wanna cheat on him , I feel hes guilty but i have no prrof please iam wrong or right ?

Jazakoum ALLAH kheir
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It seems counter intuitive to be offered a girl for sex and then boast to your wife about it? If you were cheating would you casually point it out to your husband? I think you have taken what could potentially have been a tender moment between the two of you, where your husband professed his love and fidelity you and turned it into something grotesque.. and on top of everything you want to repel alleged evil with more evil? sob7an Allah...

I think you need to reflect on your reaction to this situation and see if there is something to be learned from it about trust..

and Allah swt knows best

:wa:
 
Abdul Qadir said:
i can't seem to get exactly what ur trying to say..ur husband's colleague lost his job because of a girl who works in the same office? u mean he got fired for adultery? and now, ur husband is being tempted by the girl? and ur not sure whether he had committed adultery with her? and he also is not sure about himself? hmm...
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No you missunderstand my post , My husband didnt cheating on me with any girl he just told me that boys at work were asking him this question if a girl propose to him to have a sex with her would he accept or refuse and my husband said i refuse because i love so much my wife and i cannot cheat on my wife

At same time he told me about a friend and he is a boy who lost his job because of a girl at work she was making problems with him thats all

But me sheytan playing with me and i get jalous because there are girls working with my husband and i start having sheytan doubts thats all but may be iam wrong as sister Skye mention may be my husband told me like that to show his love to me but i missunderstand him
 
Gossamer skye said:
It seems counter intuitive to be offered a girl for sex and then boast to your wife about it? If you were cheating would you casually point it out to your husband? I think you have taken what could potentially have been a tender moment between the two of you, where your husband professed his love and fidelity you and turned it into something grotesque.. and on top of everything you want to repel alleged evil with more evil? sob7an Allah...

I think you need to reflect on your reaction to this situation and see if there is something to be learned from it about trust..

and Allah swt knows best

:wa:
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Sister Skye i think you are right may be my husband want to show me his love but i missunderstand him thats why he was crying and was telling me that i have to trust him because he loves me so much but you know sheytan can play with us and i had doubts thats all ALLAH forgive me INSHALLAH
 
AnonymousGender said:
dont fall for baseless suspicion and dont let shaytaan play with your mind
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Yes you are right and even my husband told me that he will never tell me anything happened at work and he was swearing in the quran that he have no relation with any girls just the boys at work they are stupid asking him stupid question and he answerd by No
 
I really dont know what to do now , I feel i wanna cheat on him , I feel hes guilty but i have no prrof please iam wrong or right ?
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Sister, if there's a strain in your marriage, for whatever reason, do not think that you need to cheat in order to get back at him.
 
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By cheating on him you will make the situation worse and make him upset at you and end up in divorce, Allah will hate you and you will be distant from your Lord not to mention the hell fire in the Aakhirah.

Thoughts like these should not cross the minds of muslims.
 
Khaldun said:
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By cheating on him you will make the situation worse and make him upset at you and end up in divorce, Allah will hate you and you will be distant from your Lord not to mention the hell fire in the Aakhirah.

Thoughts like these should not cross the minds of muslims.
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You are right , Just up set talk thats all , I know i cannot do it because iam afraid from ALLAH SWT but also i blame my self because i missunderstand my husband because i know he doesnt cheat on me and hes telling me everything happened at work even he told me about the boys question but iam stuipd iam missunderstand him i hope if he can forgive me
 
well.. thing is...if he, even in the least manner, plans to do something like that at work, he wont even bring up this topic.
Him telling you this event just comes to show how simple he is (not to mention honest and loyal).
Rather than letting this trigger off your suspicions and wild accusative thoughts, you must appreciate it, otherwise, he might just stop sharing things with you.
 
:sl:i don't know why your husband told you that like what was the need for him to tell you that there is girls offering him?? :raging: what type of reaction was he expecting :hmm:
 
cat eyes said:
:sl:i don't know why your husband told you that like what was the need for him to tell you that there is girls offering him?? :raging: what type of reaction was he expecting :hmm:
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You missunderstand sister he didnt tell me girls offering him sex there is no girls offering him sex he said some boys workers at work working with him asked him if any girl asked him to make sex would he accept that and he replied them no is like men chat and my husband told me that because he tell me everything happening at work anybody tell him something hes letting me know how these boys are stupid asking stupid questions thats all but me i listen to sheytan and start making accusation by my self iam stupid but honestly i started first i told my husband that one man asked me if you are my husband and then he was up set then he said today some boys asked me this thats the story ALLAH forgive me between me and my husband we cannot keep anything between us if anybody told us something we report it to each other only yesterday i was a bit moody thats all but i understand my mistake
 
nilufer said:
You missunderstand sister he didnt tell me girls offering him sex there is no girls offering him sex he said some boys workers at work working with him asked him if any girl asked him to make sex would he accept that and he replied them no is like men chat and my husband told me that because he tell me everything happening at work anybody tell him something hes letting me know how these boys are stupid asking stupid questions thats all but me i listen to sheytan and start making accusation by my self iam stupid but honestly i started first i told my husband that one man asked me if you are my husband and then he was up set then he said today some boys asked me this thats the story ALLAH forgive me between me and my husband we cannot keep anything between us if anybody told us something we report it to each other only yesterday i was a bit moody thats all but i understand my mistake
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May Allah(SWT) keep you both together
 
Aisha20 said:
I dont think he is doing that. He trust you and told u whats going on, if it was another person he wouldnt do that ... Feel lucky to get a husband like him.
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Yes sister you are right ALHAMDOLILLAH hes a good husband even he gave all the time his bank card to take any money i want and he does not asking where i spend the money only yesterday sheytan aozobillah was playing with my mind but when i think today i found out that iam stupid and sometimes i dont understand the things quickly and later on i regret thank you very much
 
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nilufer said:
Asslamou Alaikoum Warahmatou ALLAH tAALA wABARAKATOU,

.. I feel i wanna cheat on him ,
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Sis, don't fall in to the trap of Satan . Even if your husband is the most evil person in the world , you have no right to have any illegal affair.

Also as u have no proof against him , don't suspect him unnecessarily.

May Allah bless your marraige. Ameen.
 
Muslim Woman said:
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Sis, don't fall in to the trap of Satan . Even if your husband is the most evil person in the world , you have no right to have any illegal affair.

Also as u have no proof against him , don't suspect him unnecessarily.

May Allah bless your marraige. Ameen.
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Alaikoum Assalam Sister

It was only up set talk thats all , its not true of course iam afraid from ALLAH and i was stupid because my husband didnt do anything wrong only i was a bit stress yesterday it can happen thats sometimes we are moody and we understand the things wrong thank you very much