And different countries do things diffrently...here in the UK we kinda have to adhere to how things work...so at 14..a kid cant evn get a job...to support his wife...u know...so if u could tell me how its done..??
I dont get why you seem so against it, I mean I understand some of your points but what did daffodil quote? and who knows better??
There is nothing wrong with marriage at a the old age of 15 and so forth, depeding on how the child is brought up.
If a child is brought up in the way that he or she is told and made to think that he or she is a child until 18 then of course most of those kids will not be mentally mature to handle responsabilities, but if a child is brought up thinking of the Akhira, understanding Islam, being told the word of our Beloved Prophet peace be upon him and the words of the Qu'ran then inshallah most children brought up in such manner will understand that marriage is an important part of Islam, and will have no problem in maturing, provided they are brought up properly, and not spoiled with toys and being told 'awww my little baby, dont worry mumy is gona take care of everything' at the age of 15 then boy inshallah they will grow and be beautiful caring people like the people of old.
Also with regards to supporting the wife, if financial strain is there then there are ways to cope, for example if we have a couple who are both 16 and they are in school, who would support them if they were single? Their parents, so if they marry, which will help them lower their gaze and so forth, then their parents inshallah if they truly understand the benefit of marriage will be able to provide for them as they did before until a suitable income is found for both, we need not make problems just because we dont like an idea. That is jus one option there are others too.
Finally, with regards to maybe not understanding why its difficult, I dont know what girls are like but guys can be drive alot by physical desire, which does not just constitute of sexual activity but also of companionship, making the boy wait can make things worse in some cases, and of course it will be his sin and his fault, but why make things difficult when Islam has provided a way out for our youth.
Some people are ready for marriage and then again some aren't. If this person would lilke to marry then by all means go ahead, it's better to be married at 14 then to have shaitaan tempt you with all the fitnah in todays society in any country. There have been many sisters I know of that have married at 14, 15 and 16years of age and Al-hamdulilah everyhting is going well. But muslims are increasingly brought up in the western societies, and are misguided by thinking that it is halal to have a girlfriend and study rather than do the correct thing and marry rather than take responsibilty. When I was 14 I knew that I was ready for marriage and then married in my mid teens as well, so if it's halal in the shari'ah then go for it, if you can take on that responsibility insha-allah ta'ala, Allah make it easy for you and reward you insha-allah AMEEN.
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