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In this post, I really feel what you're saying because as a former atheist I felt the same way.
To be honest, until I started practicing Islam, I wouldn't have fully understood why people would be interested in sharing their religion - however, seriously, take it as a compliment and testament to your goodness or something attractive in your personality that would motivate someone to share something that they consider valuable to them.
That said, I can completely understand your sensitivity because I felt the same way, because though I had Buddhist, Muslim, Christian, Jewish and atheist/agnostic friends in college, as you can imagine, the only two types that inclined towards sharing the religion were the Muslim and Christian ones. That is understandable because only those two religions are into proselytizing, which I think is great in some ways, but at the same time, I disagree so many times with the approach that I see some individuals adopt in this process.
For the others in this thread (and I'm talking just generally, not specifically not to anyone here, please understand) I'd just like to take a moment to talk about atheism. People believe that atheism involves actually denying some religion or truth or Supreme Being. For some, I don't know, it really might be the case. But you have to understand that there are atheists of different stripes. People are atheists for many different reasons, and actually some of them truly, really, actually do
not believe and are not denying anything because they really don't think there is anything to deny. I know this because I was an atheist.
Spiritually, in Islam, lack of belief makes sense because people have to recognize that belief is in the heart than then is impressed onto the mind's workings; so, if someone lacks a belief, then the person is also rejecting from the heart and mind the belief because it may not seem natural to that person. This does not mean that the person is bad or doesn't have morals or is somehow inherently evil; to be honest, I have experienced people having implied the first certainly in my case when I was an atheist, and to be honest, I was offended because obviously this was IRL. I was in my mind like, hey, I give charity, and I'm a good person, like not harming anyone, and I'm not committing crimes - so, how am I a bad person? And now as a Muslim, I feel more strongly that we should not judge who is going to be suffering in eternity and who is going to be in bliss - because simply, God proposes to judge mankind on Judgment Day, and it's only human beings who insist on judging human this ephemeral moment.
Not to mention, one of the things I used to dislike about adherents of different religions is the utter hypocrisy, basically trying to teach something that is not in tune with personal character. For example, I didn't have to read all different religious scriptures to know that backbiting fellow friends and others was wrong; and yet the people in question would do that, then expect me as an atheist to somehow be attracted to the religion in question. I'm sorry, but I always felt that was strange.
First, I'd like to emphasize that people IRL will learn more from you in three days of interacting with you, basically observing you, your character, your manners, your general speech, general actions than to have you say something specific or feel-good about the religion; and honestly, I'm a Muslim today because of Islam, because I studied Islam on my own, and not any Muslim because I didn't find Muslims of the caliber that really Islam asks Muslims to maintain.
So, if you want the best for someone, atheist or not, be patient and let that person find his or her own path and know that Allah is working in his/her life as well and simply make heartfelt
duas (supplications) for that person; otherwise, in consistent arguing or debating or ad hominem or trying to win, you're not really showing any true caring for that person because whether you recognize or not you might honestly just be motivated by ego or self-righteousness and not actually piety and selflessness.
If someone wants to talk about
deen, that's mostly fine, I guess, but to first talk about Hell just wrings not a good feeling in any person. For example, Prophet Muhammad :saws: for first 13 years talked about the Oneness of God, then only about other things. Imagine. And many times, people today want to talk about Hell before even talking about the mercy and greatness and love of Allah - I don't know, I just wish people wouldn't do that and realize how arrogant that sounds to a person who is supposed to be invited to Islam.
Finally, I think it's really important to understand and respect the humanness of every human being, regardless of whether this is a person of faith or no faith; at the end of the day, I'm more of the type of person who believes in a righteous person planting good seeds in everyone's life, and letting Allah germinate them into fruition, and maybe one day that will translate into belief for some of the persons in whom you recognized humanness.
Thanks for letting me ramble, guys; I love IB.
This is an interesting point, that has always left me a little conflicted. I take no offense at what najimuddin wrote, but I can understand how some may. On the one hand it is an act of love and kindness to share your faith and try to save others from what you see as the wrong path (and one with negative consequences for the person). On the other hand it completely disrespects and disregards what the person already believes and attaches value to. I remind you how so many Muslims are so hypersensitive about their own traditions and beliefs, to the point that I'm not to do something as simple as draw Muhammad. As ardianto said, how do you feel when Christians try to convert you to Christianity and turn you away from Islam?
So "Kafir" means basically the same as "Infidel"? This is interesting. So I am not a "Kafir" after all, as I don't reject or deny truth.
One of the most common errors theists make in regard to atheists is this constant insistence that atheists reject, rebel against, or are unfaithful to God. We're not. We can't be. You can't reject, rebel against, or be unfaithful to what doesn't exist, and as far as we know, God doesn't exist. You can see us as completely wrong about that, spiritually blind, or whatever, but to insist that we believe what we don't and that we are lying about it... that's pretty offensive right there.