so? that's normal in every marriage. i mean the honeymoon phase being over. it doesn't mean you go out and get married again...that's just called being hasty and immature...and what use is it going to be anyway. its just going to happen again if he did get married.:$ you just need to "restart" or whatever it's called...
I don't think the brother's married yet, so you should take his words with a few grains of salt.
what i mean is evey man has urge for multipal wives thats common sence the only reason is the cost of liveing ect
Nope. That's incorrect.
^In the time of the prophet (SAW), they used to marry the widows in order to protect them and support them financially etc. as well as to take care of their children if they were little. The reason for marrying more than one woman was not always out of personal interest and to feed their desires.
True.
what would you do if you caught your wife looking at another man....for a little too long? ...would you confront her about it or would you let it go and think.....'oh obviously she must have felt attracted to him for a bit'
, cuz your all saying we have to dismiss it like that?
I'll be like...'Baby, keep checking him out and watch when we get to Jannah (insha allah) I'm gonna be spending all my time with my Hoors'
Lol.
On a serious note, I'd know enough of my wife to know that even if she glances at someone she'll lower her gaze and turn away. It's what I would do, so I'd expect the same from her.
women without haya are just like the kuffa women no shyness no modesity and they will be treated acordinaly
You have to be careful in your words. Instead of adopting an attitude of treating them accordingly etc, you can take some positive action and come up with solutions and figure out how we can help those sisters that act like that to come back to the religion. The problem isn't that they are inherently bad, it's the deception of Shaytan and low imaan and once that gets addressed they'll change.
And it applies to men as well as women. I'd actually say some of the things that men do are worse than what our sisters have ever imagined of doing.
first of all i dont want a wife who is a w~~~ a muslima must have HAYAH men look at atthere women becouse that is the nature of men /men are weak in this respect not saying women dont look but they can control
This makes no sense brother. A woman cannot look at another man because then she'll be lacking hayaa and when a man looks at a woman, it's due to his nature? Actually, both genders are attracted to each other and Allaah has commanded
both to take the same action - i.e. lower the gaze.
I pity the weakness of men.....people say women will lead men to hell....i say your own weaknesses will.
It's both. Women are the core of society (and I'm not saying this out of bias), they raise the children, they take care of the most core foundation of the society - the family. So if the women are corrupt, the society will fall, and if they're upright, then the society benefits. It actually shows how important women are more than anything, so much depends on them.
bottom line, i would equally reprimand both men and women for their prolonged glances of the oppsite sex.
:thumbs_up
Can other brothers confirm this? I thought this was a case of weak iman arent u supossed to lower ur gaze anyway hence u wouldnt even have that problem
Yeah. If you lower your gaze you'll forget about it. And in case it sticks in your head, then we have the Prophetic solution which was mention in the hadeeth earlier in this thread.
oh: I still feel that we are being too general about today's men and their attitudes towards women
