Attractive Hijabs & Shari'ah

[Marina-Aisha]

Okay cool, I knew wot they meant but I meant I hardy ever men cover they head or dress modest..see Muslim men wearin shorts or tight jeans.

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Okay cool, I knew wot they meant but I meant I hardy ever men cover they head or dress modest..see Muslim men wearin shorts or tight jeans.

It is not obligatory for men to cover their head. Wearing a topee (small cap) is a great Sunnah. Shorts can only be worn if they cover from navel to kne and they should not be tighte. Those which are above the knee are not permissable.

Men should also generally wear clothing which is not too tight and clothes which do not resemble female clothing nor should they try to resemble non believers who adopt any trends and fashions which are contrary to shariah.

 

[Sothis Girl]

Not only does she veil her external beauty, she needs to remember to veil the beauty that lies within her as a person too.

You cannot hide an inner beauty, you can only watch your attitude and that's it.

I For me, hijab is avoiding women whenever possible. This is what hijab is to me.

Avoiding women? Why? Imagine if the inhabitants of earth are all-men, what would that be? Both woman and man are created by Allah on purpose. Women are not the source of sin or disease to be "avoided". Islam has its own rules and fences for men-women relationship to prevent a moral degradation, but "avoiding women" is not the point.

 

[ardianto]

I've spent much money to buy "modest beautiful" Muslimah dresses for my wife because I like if she look beautiful. Ulama in my place never forbade women to look beautiful as long as still modest.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

I've spent much money to buy "modest beautiful" Muslimah dresses for my wife because I like if she look beautiful. Ulama in my place never forbade women to look beautiful as long as still modest.

And that beauty should only be for you. As I'm sure you know that it's not the scholars but verses in Qur'an that forbid a women to look beautiful in public. Of course it doesn't mean that she should be careless and homely, but should maintain a moderate and modest appearance .

 

[ardianto]

And that beauty should only be for you. As I'm sure you know that it's not the scholars but verses in Qur'an that forbid a women to look beautiful in public. Of course it doesn't mean that she should be careless and homely, but should maintain a moderate and modest appearance .

I did not say look sexy, but look beautiful, I mean look good.

My wife does not wear glittery head cover although sometime she wore head cover with more than one colors. She does not use lots of makeup, never wear tight clothes and high heel shoes. She wear "modest beautiful" Muslimah clothes that designed for Muslim women. Ulama in my place never forbade Muslim women to look beautiful in "modest beautiful. Ulama in my place do not forbid women to show their faces, but always remind men to lower their gaze.

 

[~Zaria~]

Assalamu-alaikum,


^ I guess my only concern with the above is that it allows for interpretation of what 'modest beautiful' actually means......the definition of which would differ from person to person.

At the end of the day, if we do not lose sight of the actual purpose of hijab, then we are doing ok.

Consider the meaning of hijab:

I am not arabic speaking, but from what I understand - Literally, hijab means “partition”, “separation”, or “curtain”.

However, today when we think of 'hijab' - we have very different ideas.
We think of womens clothing.....in association with a head-scarf.

And this has become a new standard of modesty amongst muslim women......one which we have created.


What are we trying to 'partion' or 'veil'?

--> A womans physical and sensual beauty.
--> Her voice - which can be the means of seduction as well.
--> Her scent - and so, women are forbidden to leave the home using perfumes/ fragrances.
--> Her true personality - by this I mean: a woman may be a very jovial, talkative and maybe even loud-spoken person by nature.......but in the presence of non-mahrams - she conceals this.
She lowers her voice and her gaze, she does not speak unnecessarily, etc.


The beauty of a woman (both modestly, and immodestly, lol) - is for the pleasure of her husband - and him alone.

No one else (apart from her mahrams) should even partake of such a wonder.

And therefore, once we understand the meaning behind hijab - it becomes a lot more ful-filling for a woman who has chosen to completely submit to the commands of Allah (subhana wata'ala).


Salaam

 

[Who Am I?]

Avoiding women? Why? Imagine if the inhabitants of earth are all-men, what would that be? Both woman and man are created by Allah on purpose. Women are not the source of sin or disease to be "avoided". Islam has its own rules and fences for men-women relationship to prevent a moral degradation, but "avoiding women" is not the point.

You have to understand me, though. I'm still very much a socially awkward nerd when it comes to women. For me, it's easier to just avoid them whenever possible, because then I don't have to worry about whether or not I look like a dork when they're around. I can just concentrate on being a better man.

 

[TrueStranger]

Don’t shake hands with non-Mahrams. Its part of Hijaab

It is not permissible to shake hands with a non-Mahram, because the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than to touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” (at-Tabaraani saheeh by al-Albaani).

I think the respected Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradhawi spoke about this matter....

......Furthermore, some contemporary Muslim scholars have based their ruling concerning the prohibition of shaking hands with women on the Hadith narrated by Al-Tabari and Al-Baihaqi on the authority of Ma`qil ibn Yassar that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “It would be better for one of you to have himself stabbed on the head with an iron needle than to touch a woman that is illegal for him.”

Here, the following should be noted:

1. The scholars and Imams of Hadith have not declared the authenticity of this Hadith. Some of them say that its narrators are trustworthy, but this is not enough to prove the authenticity of the Hadith because there is a probability that there is an interruption in the chain of narrators or there was a hidden cause behind this Hadith. That is why Muslim jurists in the periods that followed the death of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) have not based their ruling on the prohibition of shaking hands with women on this Hadith.

2. Some Hanafi and Maliki jurists stated that the prohibition is not proven unless there is a certain qat`i (definitive) piece of evidence such as textual proofs from the Glorious Qur’an or authentic Hadiths on which there is no suspicion regarding the chains of narrators.

3. If we suppose that the above-mentioned Hadith is authentic, it is unclear to me that the Hadith indicates that it is prohibited for males and females who are not mahrams to shake hands. That is because the phrase “touch a woman that is illegal for him” does not refer to the mere touching without desire as happens in normal handshaking. But the Arabic word “al-mass” (touching) as used in the Shar`i texts of the Qur’an and the Sunnah refers to one of two things:

1. Sexual intercourse, as reported by Ibn `Abbas in his commentary to Almighty Allah’s saying, ‘… or ye have touched women …’. He stated that “touching” in the Qur’an refers figuratively to sexual intercourse. This is clear in the following Qur’anic verses that read: “She (Mary) said: ‘My Lord! How can I have a child when no mortal hath touched me?’” (Al `Imran: 47) and “If ye divorce them before ye have touched them …” (Al-Baqarah: 237)

2. Actions that precede sexual intercourse such as foreplay, kissing, hugging, caressing, and the like. This is reported from our righteous predecessors in the interpretation of the word “mulamasah”.

Al-Hakim stated in his Al-Mustadrak `Ala as-Sahihain: Al-Bukhari and Muslim have narrated many Hadiths that show that the meaning of the word “lams” (touching) refers to actions that precede sexual intercourse. Among them are:

a) The Hadith narrated by Abu Hurairah that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “…The hands fornicate. Their fornication is the touch …”

b) The Hadith narrated by Ibn `Abbas that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “You might caress her.”

c) The Hadith narrated by Muslim that Ibn Mas`ud is reported to have said that a person came to Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) and told him that he had kissed a woman or touched her with his hand or did something like this. He inquired of him about its expiation. It was (on this occasion) that Allah, Glorified and Exalted be He, revealed this Qur’anic verse that reads “Establish worship at the two ends of the day and in some watches of the night. Lo! good deeds annul ill deeds …” (Hud: 114)

d) `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) is reported to have said, “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) used to visit us (his wives) and it was his habit to kiss and caress us and do actions other than sexual intercourse until he reached the one whose turn was due and he stayed there.”

e) `Abdullah ibn Mas`ud is reported to have said in his commentary to Almighty Allah’s saying, “… or ye have touched women, …” that it refers to actions that precede sexual intercourse for which ablution is obligatory.

f) `Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) is reported to have said, “Kissing is to be considered among the touching acts, so perform ablution if you do.” (Al-Mustadrak, vol. 1, p. 135)

Hence, the opinion of Imam Malik and the substantial meaning of the legal verdict issued by Imam Ahmad in this respect are that the touching of a woman that nullifies ablution is that which is accompanied by desire. And this is the way they interpreted Almighty Allah’s saying, “… or ye have touched women, …”....

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/islam-stu...hands-with-a-non-mahram-dr-yusuf-al-qaradawi/

 

[ardianto]

I notice, in another place, the suggested color for hijab is black.

Just for information. In my place, the suggested color for hijab is white.

 

[Snowflake]

Thank you for this article. I've worn black/grey for as long as I can remember. But there are days when you feel absolutely depressed because everything in your life and in your wardrobe seems to be black and grey. Colours are beautiful creations of Allah and they affect our moods. So it's good to know you can wear coloured hijabs as long as they are not too bright and glittery etc. Just to add here, big hijabs (camel hump hijabs) such as those that end up looking like a woman's got two heads are a big no-no. This is vanity and ends up defeating the whole purpose of hijab.

 

[CosmicPathos]

Indeed, nothing inflames a mans sexual ardor like a glittery hijab.

Yea, I've read from multiple accounts that Western men are quite attracted to the woman from Arab lands because of the "concealing" of face behind a mask, increasing the curiosity of such "men" to unveil what is veiled. Remember how in bygone days Orientalists talked about harems, drew harems in their paintings, and lusted to be part of the harems of Sultan? So I am surprised you can so arrogantly ignore the mentality of men from your cultures.

 

[~Zaria~]

"Dear sisters,

Do you know that the whole world is actually wearing Hijab?!

...
The earth is surrounded by the atmosphere.

Fresh fruits have peels on them.

The sword is preserved in a sheath.

Ink pen would dry without a cap.
And would be thrown away because it became useless.

Why would we cover our books, if not to protect them?!

If an apple became without a peel, it would be rotten.
If a banana became without a peel, its color would turn to black.

And a woman is a beautiful flower which every one wishes to pick.
So she must be protected by Hijab.

SubhanAllah! All the world is wearing Hijab!"

 

[Marina-Aisha]

Totally true!!I have say I do love wearing hijaab. I know some sisters don't wear it but I love it.

 

[Snowflake]

"Dear sisters,

Do you know that the whole world is actually wearing Hijab?!

...
The earth is surrounded by the atmosphere.

Fresh fruits have peels on them.

The sword is preserved in a sheath.

Ink pen would dry without a cap.
And would be thrown away because it became useless.

Why would we cover our books, if not to protect them?!

If an apple became without a peel, it would be rotten.
If a banana became without a peel, its color would turn to black.

And a woman is a beautiful flower which every one wishes to pick.
So she must be protected by Hijab.

SubhanAllah! All the world is wearing Hijab!"

Lol masha Allah. I like it. My computer wears hijab too. It's called a screen saver : )

 

[Marina-Aisha]

i had to share wot happened to me yesterday when i was at work im always on till...
a regular customor came in yesterday..
C: you never use to wear that before...(pointing at my hijaab)
Me: I converted couple weeks ago
C: to islam?
Me:yes
C: are you happy?( she was giving me some strange look)
Me: yes very happy
C: well as long as ur happy...

that whole conversation was strange..like why wouldnt i be?lol some elderly women are kinda racist too....one said she stop going to ilford cos there too many foreigners...i guess that im always gonna have someone point or comment on my hijaab just seemed strange question to ask.

 

[Jedi_Mindset]

You will have these convo's yes, sometimes you can't avoid it. don't feel strange, u may find women who are interested why you wear it and so on and why you reverted to islam ...

 

[Marina-Aisha]

yea ur totally right...yea some comment on my hijjab show nice it looks..some guy was like arent u hot haha

 

[~Zaria~]

Just a reminder:

"If you can't pray in the clothes you're going out with, then you should not be wearing them....."

 

[TrueStranger]

"Dear sisters,

Do you know that the whole world is actually wearing Hijab?!

...
The earth is surrounded by the atmosphere.

Fresh fruits have peels on them.

The sword is preserved in a sheath.

Ink pen would dry without a cap.
And would be thrown away because it became useless.

Why would we cover our books, if not to protect them?!

If an apple became without a peel, it would be rotten.
If a banana became without a peel, its color would turn to black.

And a woman is a beautiful flower which every one wishes to pick.
So she must be protected by Hijab.

SubhanAllah! All the world is wearing Hijab!"

Salaam Aliakum Zaria,

I just want to state my impression and understanding of comments that compare Hijabis with objects, books, fruits, mineral etc. The worst one was the candy. Hijab is meant to create a strong bond between a woman and her Creator, weaken her desires for worldly materials, and protect her socially. The cloth itself does not have value, but the woman's character, demeanor, and her relationship with God is the core value to the Hijab. The number of women who wear hijab has probably increased over the past ten years, but the value of Hijab sadly hasn't. That is probably due to people emphasizing the cloak, and not the importance of prayer, devotion, and the inward characteristic of hijab.

There is something disturbing about pens becoming "useless', apples become "rotten", banana's "turning black", unwrapped candies being "surround by flies". These things are for the most part true, but we are comparing them to Human Beings....and that is where it becomes a problem. This attitude usually allows certain Muslim women and men to directly insult women who for whatever reason are not wearing their Hijab. Has a non-Hijabi woman completely diminished in value? Is she useless? Rotten? Surround by flies as if she is filthy? That is the message of those words. We have to remember that sometimes the atmosphere is polluted, fruits with fresh peels are rotten from within, sheath cracks, and the pages of the book are of low quality, and no amount of exterior protection will change that easily.


I heard the term "HoeJabi" yesterday for the first time in a Muslim talk show. What demented mind constructed such a term? And what purpose was it meant to serve? In the process of advocating, praising, and encouraging the Hijab we unfortunately make comparisons which might be appealing to some, and insulting to others. Let's just focus on what God and His Messenger says about Hijab, and its importance and ignore new innovative endorsements of the Hijab. Some people might disagree with me, but most hijabis will continue to wear their hijab without constantly hearing some of those misplaced comparisons.