Can I still post on IslamicBoard?

[hisnameiszzz]

Salaams all.

I've been having a lot of issues lately and I feel that my faith is going, almost gone.

If my faith completely disappears, am I still OK to use these boards or do I have to be a practising Muslim to use it? If I can't carry on using it, that's fine. I would just like to say a huge thanks to all the lovely people that have taken time out to reply to my posts especially in Ramadhan, when you would have been very busy going about your daily lives. I've had a lot of clarification on some issues (Jewish Converts / Nasty Smells In Masjids / Noisy Neighbours and best of all Israeli Products To Boycott etc). Normally, I would go to an Imam/Mufti, but they are always so busy and cannot make time so I have had to resort to other means.

Jazakallah all, and thank you once again for all your help and time.

 

[Hulk]

Wa alaykumsalam wrwb,

I think everyone is welcome as long as they do not break the rules of the forum. We're all normal folks just like you brother.

 

[greenhill]

Salaams.

As long as you are here, we can communicate. It is your choice. You leave, it ends.

You are just being tested. As we all are. None of us in this forum is without issues, serious ones at that. It is how we deal with them. First if we are feeling the pain for the whole world, and feel powerless as a result, we will end up feeling a defeatist, frustrated, angry and give up. In matters that we have no control over, invest 'less' emotion. Only in matter that we have physical capabilities to effect the outcome do we invest more. Many 'outside' interferences, if allowed to distract you from liking what you know is nothing but the truth, then you have real issues.

I turn it around now. I do like going to the mosque. I have found myself wondering why is it that I tend to always get these distracting people next to me. Those who recite loudly that I often have to repeat my surah again and sometimes again because he is reading pretty loudly. Or smell. The more it became a precondition to my expectations of going to the mosque, it always became the test. What I tried to avoid, is a sure bet to having it thrown in your face anyway. Do I get angry? At times I do, but I try to take it as a test. May Allah be pleased with my sincere efforts. He only knows what extreme thoughts go through my head, and this is me praying in a mosque.. masyaAllah.

I don't know what the percentages of people who leave their faith purely on reflection of what other people did, not because of the flaws in the faith itself. The faith is about putting no other deity with Him. And do good to mankind encapsulated by wishing for your neighbours what you would wish for yourself. All will be fine between you and Allah.

When you die, in the grave you will by the leave of God, safe and on judgement day, you'll be alright too!

Don't lose faith and don't give up on us here.


eace:

Thought I'd add... perhaps change your name brother to something else than ....zzz as that signifies sleep.... maybe something to mean awake? alert? :embarrass:hiding:

 

[Muhammad]

:wasalamex

The thing that confused me brother, was that from your posts, you are someone who prays, fasts, gives zakah, has concern about the sanctity of the Masjid and so on... all these things demonstrate faith. How then can you so easily let that faith slip away completely? That is a huge jump all the way down to zero. Surely these actions must represent something in your heart... a love for Allaah :swt: and acknowledgement of the truth of Islam. And we all know that simply being a Muslim doesn't mean a life full of ease... the examples of the Prophets have been cited for you already. They waited years on end for their du'as to be answered, and Allaah :swt: knows best how to respond to a person's du'a. In the story of Musa and Khidr we learn how easy it is to assume something is good or bad, yet the reality of it is totally different. Truly, of knowlege, mankind is given only a little.

Don't wait for your faith to 'disappear', rather fight such thoughts from the shaytan. Don't close all the doors between you and Allaah :swt:. Do something to rekindle the desire to come closer to Him, no matter how small. And Allaah :swt: will make it easier for you :ia:.

The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Allah the Most High said, ‘I am as My servant thinks (expects) I am. I am with him when he mentions Me. If he mentions Me to himself, I mention him to Myself; and if he mentions Me in an assembly, I mention him in an assembly greater than it. If he draws near to Me a hand’s length, I draw near to him an arm’s length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed.’”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7405; Muslim, 2675

 

[Berries'forest]

I am going through the same thing right now, there is a phase I went through where I completely abandoned my prayers. I am doing my best to get back on track. Do you read the Quran, because if you don't it makes it easier for shaytan to influence your thoughts. Also keep making dua for yourself and for all our brothers and sisters who are being tested in this life. We lost over 600 Muslims souls in the short of a week. It is truly a tragedy. I think life can never be easy, there's always some days when you feel really depressed and in despair but having hope in Allah is very important. What you're going through is normal though, faith rises and falls periodically, you just need to keep hanging in there. Here's a video I hope you'll watch and it will make you feel better hopefully:

Weakness of Emaan (Faith) & its Cures - Yusha Evens - YouTube

You can also watch some excellent videos here that tackle a lot of the issues you raise:

TheDeenShowTV - YouTube

 

[Muhammad]

:wasalamex

May Allaah :swt: guide and strengthen you both and keep you steadfast, Aameen.

Here's a short video which is part of a series this Ramadhan (I've only seen a couple or so). The series is about 40 Hadith on the virtues & rulings on the Noble Qur'an. This one was called Are you feeling sad? Not sure if it's entirely relevant to this thread but it may be of benefit - it mentions a particular du'a.

 

[hisnameiszzz]

Salaams all.

Jazakallah for your responses. They are much appreciated.

HULK - Thanks for letting me know about the rules.

GREENHILL - I have no issues with going to the Masjid and standing next to smelly people - that was just an insignificant rant. I had someone next to me in Taraweeh last night who smelt like he had not bathed for twenty years but I was OK with that. It made no difference to me as I put Itar on my nose and I had sprayed lots of fragrance on both my shoulders so when I did the salaam at the end of each set of prayers, I only smelt myself. And I don't go to the Masjid very early now so the regulars can sit and talk about Indian movie stars and their wives to their hearts content. As long as I am not getting free sins, I don't really care.

My only bug is with the neighbours which I will talk more about in a bit.

Also, thank you for making me feel so welcome. I know I am new, I know I have opened up a few crazy threads - I would not be surprised if some of you thought I just came on here to bash Islam.

MUHAMMAD - If my Mom knew I was posting things about losing my faith online, she would no doubt get a baseball bat and smack me a few. I come from a very noble Muslim family and my Nana (Mom's Dad) was one of the first Aalims to come to England from India in the 50's. I'm very proud to say he was the person that was involved in inventing the salaah timetable in the UK and also helped with the erection of one of the first Masjids in the UK too! Woohoo. So yeah, saying I am about to lose my faith etc does make me feel very ashamed of myself, but like I said in my first post on this website, I was going to be honest and that is genuinely how I feel.

Also, thanks for the video you have linked which I will look at again later.

BERRIES'FOREST - How are you coping? How do you get back on track? I am a Hafez so I pray the Qura'an on a daily basis. When I am on way to work, I will pray Yaseen / Kahf / Mulk and various others and I do this on a daily basis. I've never abandoned my prayers / Islam before. It's normally a thought which goes on in my mind but then I forget about it. However this Ramadhan, the neighbours have just driven me to the point of no return.

We just can't reason with them. If they were Christian/Jewish/Hindu/any other religion, I would fully understand why their lives are so full of joy and content as they are NON MUSLIMS and this world is meant to be paradise for them. However animal like the neighbours are, they do come to Jummah every Firday, the old man does pray Qura'an in Ramadhan (prays so loudly and incorrectly, it's enough to make you want to smack your head against the wall), and they do come to the Masjid in Ramadhan too, so they are NOT non Muslims.

I have explained my predicament in http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-and-support/134323562-dua-accepted.html in full detail and have included details of what they do / are like. I don't want to go on about it as it would be classed as backbiting, but I mentioned it so you guys know what they are like.

My issue and what I can't get my head around, leading me to ditching Islam is why Allah would listen to their duas and give them happiness and make our lives hell? Have I missed something completely? It's Allah's hikmat to do what he wants, but I am just wondering whether I am supposed to do the opposite of what Islam says (like the neighbours) to get my duas accepted. That's where my issue is.

Now don't get me wrong, I don't expect to go to the Masjid and pray Qura'an and think Allah will accept all my duas. I don't expect to click my fingers and expect things to happen just like that, it's not how life is. I fully get that.

I fully get what you guys say about Prophets and Sahabas, and the trials and tribulations they went through, but you have to understand I am just a mortal. I am not a Prophet or a Sahaba, so to expect me to wait for 20 years is a bit too much. I think waiting 7 years is more than enough to be honest. Besides, it was a Muslim vs a Non Muslim in those stories, i.e. Hadhrat Bilal vs Christians, the Prophet vs Jews etc. In my case, it's a practising Muslim vs a non practising Muslim.

The neighbours are the issue which is driving me to breaking point. I have loads of other issues in my life - crazy family, big brother (he is an Aalim) comes to bully us daily - he wants us to vacate the house so we can sell it (it won't sell because people know who lives next door so why he thinks it will sell is beyond me!), awful job, bullied at work for being a Muslim, health issues, Mom's health issues. All that is fine, I can deal with it. It's just the neighbours are driving me mad. As I have explained, I have tried getting in touch with various Aalims and Muftis asking for help, but again, what they have asked me to do is not working or they simply just don't have time to help.

I know I am not perfect and I have done many things wrong in my life, but I have repented and made amends. For example, I had a skincare eBay business and was selling a lot of products from companies that supported Israel in it's campaign against Palestine. I found out recently, so I have stopped stocking those items and I went to the local Muslim charity shop and donated £500 out of my profits. I used to have something to say about everything even if it did not involve me, and I have now changed by keeping my mouth shut and only talking if it is of importance to me or I have something genuine to add.

Anyway, I am going on and on and I seem to have lost the plot. Allah listened to Iblees's dua to give him eternal life and that was accepted, so if my dua's don't get accepted, that must make me worse than him, so for me to follow Islam would be completely pointless. I know I am not a bad person. If any of you asked anyone who knew me, they would confirm this. I cause no one any trouble (well some slugs got salt on them the other day as there were too many in my yard and I could not get past them to go the Masjid and I am petrified of slugs), I am a quiet person, I don't *****, I don't backbite, I mind my own business, I don't cause the neighbours any trouble.

Part of me was hoping one of you would have a special dua that I could pray so the animal like neighbours would understand that closing a door gently would mean it still shuts and there was no need to hammer it shut at full force repeatedly throughout the day, and all would be good, but it looks like that's not going to happen.

Thank you for letting me post on this website though. I know my Islam is not just going to disappear like that. I was trying to train myself the other day, but I kept praying Bismillah before I did anything even though I was trying to force myself not to. And I am still praying the Qura'an and going to the Masjid too. I'm not a very ex Muslim am I! Doh! Almost time for Asar, so I must go and get changed.

Thanks for listening.

 

[Hulk]

Wa alaykumsalam wrwb

Mmm I am a bit confused as to your reason for losing faith being because you feel your dua never gets answered. Would you cease to believe that your father is your father if he doesn't buy you anything you ask for? Does sound not exist because a deaf person has never experienced hearing?

Whether we get what we want or not does not negate the truth of reality.

Allah listened to Iblees's dua to give him eternal life and that was accepted, so if my dua's don't get accepted, that must make me worse than him, so for me to follow Islam would be completely pointless.

Not really, there could be many reasons as to why one's duas are not granted, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are worse than Iblis.

 

[Scimitar]

being a Muslim, is not easy in the modern age bro hisnameizz,

you should know one thing though - faith goes up and down, for everyone. The heart is prone to shifting now and then - the idea is to keep patient in the times of hardship - and for some, the levels they can bare is low, so they don't get tested much - for others, they have amazing amounts of personal tolerances, and so they get tested way more than the others...

...we should never compare ourselves to another person, because we all have our own individual traits.

your faith may be low now, but something could happen and turn it all around in a matter of minutes.

I highly doubt that reciting Quran will make you a better Muslim bro - being a better Muslim involves more walking, and less talking.

You ever read about Imam al Ghazali? I think you would draw a parallel to him in some ways, read about him, his biography is something I feel you can benefit from in sha Allah. Who knows, the answers you seek, may be in there somewhere.

Scimi

 

[Muhammad]

:wasalamex

We just can't reason with them. If they were Christian/Jewish/Hindu/any other religion, I would fully understand why their lives are so full of joy and content as they are NON MUSLIMS and this world is meant to be paradise for them. However animal like the neighbours are, they do come to Jummah every Firday, the old man does pray Qura'an in Ramadhan (prays so loudly and incorrectly, it's enough to make you want to smack your head against the wall), and they do come to the Masjid in Ramadhan too, so they are NOT non Muslims.

Things are not so black and white. All non-Muslims do not lead lives of bliss and contentment. How many of them have fame and wealth and whatever they desire, yet fall into depression, drug abuse, crime, commit suicide...? On the other hand, Allaah :swt: does reward Muslims in this life too...

Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer - We will surely cause him to live a good life, and We will surely give them their reward [in the Hereafter] according to the best of what they used to do. [An-Nahl: 97]

You will also be familiar with the verses reminding us that in Allaah's remembrance do hearts find rest (13:28) and that turning away from Allaah's remembrance leads one to have a depressed life (20:124).

Also, how do you know your neighbours' lives are full of joy and contentment? They may well have many trials of their own which are unknown to you.

I fully get what you guys say about Prophets and Sahabas, and the trials and tribulations they went through, but you have to understand I am just a mortal. I am not a Prophet or a Sahaba, so to expect me to wait for 20 years is a bit too much. I think waiting 7 years is more than enough to be honest. Besides, it was a Muslim vs a Non Muslim in those stories, i.e. Hadhrat Bilal vs Christians, the Prophet vs Jews etc. In my case, it's a practising Muslim vs a non practising Muslim.

Firstly, the Prophets and Sahabah and all the righteous who followed their example were mortals too. Those Muslims today who are holding on to their faith with all they have despite their lives being destroyed by Israeli attacks are mortals too. Those orphans who have no one to care for them are mortals too... it is certainly not our place to decide what length of time or what trial is more than enough. Rather, Allaah :swt: has taught us many times,

...No person is charged with more than his capacity... [2:233]

Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity... [2:286]

...Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given it. Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease. [65:7]

It doesn't matter if it's 'non-practising' Muslims you are dealing with. How does that change the principles we are expected to live by?

My issue and what I can't get my head around, leading me to ditching Islam is why Allah would listen to their duas and give them happiness and make our lives hell? Have I missed something completely? It's Allah's hikmat to do what he wants, but I am just wondering whether I am supposed to do the opposite of what Islam says (like the neighbours) to get my duas accepted. That's where my issue is.

You answered this part yourself. Firstly, you do not know whether Allaah :swt: has answered your neighbours' du'as, nor do you know that they are happy. Secondly, none of us has a bargain that Allaah :swt: is going to answer all our du'as the way we want Him to. There are different outcomes that could happen, and in the end, we trust that Allaah :swt: does what is best and out of His wisdom, gives us what we need, not necessarily what we want. Even the Prophet :saws: did not necessarily have every single du'a answered the way he might have asked for it. So the logic about being worse than Iblis is totally wrong and I am sure you already knew this. Have hope and optimism, which is what Islam teaches us.

No answer?

We must always have certainty that Allah answers. But sometimes doubt enters one’s heart: “…But I asked, I made du`a’... and I don’t see anything?” Firstly, just as we know that Allah is Al-Mujeeb, we must also know He is Al-Hakeem (the Most Wise).

He may delay answering your prayer for a number of reasons; one is to test your trust in Him. We all say we believe Allah is the Al-Mujeeb when everything lands at our feet, but what about when we don’t immediately see the fruits of our du`a’? I knew a woman who was telling the story of how her husband did not pray. When she married him, she didn’t know, and as the marriage progressed she discovered that he was skeptical of religion as well. So she would wake up every night for qiyam al-layl (the night prayer) and plead with Allah to guide Him. Do you know how long she prayed for? Two years. And she says it was so unexpected; he came home from a business trip with a complete change of heart. It turns out that on the plane he was seated next to a great sheikh who began talking to him. And that is how he changed.

Another reason is that Allah knows when it is best to answer. Perhaps you are asking for a job and He could give you a job at this very moment, but He will delay it because He knows that in a couple of months, a better job will come along. Perhaps what you are asking for is not good for you, or He will give you something better in the Hereafter.

Allah also may delay the answer to make us work harder so we are prepared for it. If we look at Palestine, we may think, “Wow, the Muslim Ummah prays so much and we don’t see anything changing.” But in truth, although the majority of the Ummah prays intensely during Ramadan, many do not make du`a’ with true pleading. It is almost an afterthought. And if we do (such as when we see the carnage that happened in Gaza) we do not follow up our words by utilizing the means to change the situation; we forget (as is happening now). There are some genuine people who work for change, but they are a minority. So we need to be patient because we need to know that Allah is training the Ummah. The answer is being delayed so that we become worthy of this task.

There is a beautiful hadith qudsi which states that Allah sometimes delays the answer because He loves hearing the sound of His servant (At-Tabari). Many of us would ask and then when we get what we want we stop going to Allah; but imagine that when the answer is delayed, Allah loves to hear YOUR voice again as you call Him. Wow.

Allah does not place a burden on us greater than we can bear. If the answer to your du`a’ has been delayed, it’s because Allah KNOWS you can handle it. He tests those whom He loves, so keep asking and remember that Allah makes with hardship ease. And remember, as with tawakkul, we need to exert effort as well.
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Perhaps it would be good to re-evaluate your du'a... being hasty (saying ‘I supplicated, and I was not responded to’) and not having certainty are barriers to having du'a accepted. Also, do not limit the response to the du'a as being what you specifically have in mind. Allaah :swt: will provide a way out in the way that He knows best.


To end, once again I'd like to point out the irrationality: you are worried about accruing sins through overhearing others' idle conversation in the Masjid, yet you do not seem to be as worried about something so major as leaving Islam - something for which one would spend eternity in Hellfire. Likewise you were worried about having paid Zakah to fraudulent collectors or the lack of concern shown by fellow Muslims in the Masjid. Why do you not then stop yourself from considering something much worse? Perhaps you are saying all this out of frustration rather than a real fear. Your last paragraph was particularly silly - one should not treat it as a trivial or laughing matter. Stop entertaining these thoughts from the Shaytan and focus on turning to Allaah :swt: in these last blessed days and nights of Ramadhan in all sincerity, seeking His help and guidance.

Don't forget these verses,

And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent. [At-Talaq: 2-3]

 

[Muhammad]

I highly doubt that reciting Quran will make you a better Muslim bro - being a better Muslim involves more walking, and less talking.

The Qur'an is special; we should not under-estimate the virtue of reciting it. It is a blessed Book, the Words of our Creator, a healing for what is in the breasts, a guidance and mercy for the believers... even if someone doesn't understand it, there is still much to be gained by reciting it. But of course, reading it with meaning and contemplation will have even more of an effect on one's heart.

 

[greenhill]

Originally Posted by hisnameiszzz
Allah listened to Iblees's dua to give him eternal life and that was accepted, so if my dua's don't get accepted, that must make me worse than him, so for me to follow Islam would be completely pointless.
Not really, there could be many reasons as to why your duas were not accepted, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are worse than Iblis.

I have read on this matter on a few occasions but cannot remember the exact details. It goes something like this,

Allah will surely answer your prayers and it will be in one of 3 ways.

1) immediately (What I would call 'cash terms')
2) sometime in the future (perhaps even given not in this life but the hereafter) (What I would call 'credit terms')
3) substitutes it for something better (so you do not get what you actually asked for but given something better)

These are just pieces of information recalled from the the jumble of info floating in the memory, correct me if I am wrong.

Peace :shade:

 

[Samiun]

Cmon bro don't give up! We all have our challenges and maybe at one point we feel that we might be losing our faith. The reality is that is the challenge that we need to face and we need to quickly solve the problem that is making us so. After all is this is the dunya we are talking about with it's lies and deception. We all struggle bro, although I may not exactly fully understand the extent of your problems but I've been put in a position that makes me angry and full of hatred at one point and I asked Allah for guidance and He gave it to me alhamdulillah..

 

[hisnameiszzz]

Jazakallah all for your many responses, especially to MUHAMMAD for his very long reply but also to HULK, SCIMITAR, GREENHILL and SAMIUN. It really is much appreciated.

I can fully understand where each and every one of you are coming from but for me, it's just the frustration of it all. Maybe you are right and the dua I am making is all wrong. I rarely ask for anything off Allah as I am happy with what I have been given compared to a lot of other people in the world, however, I do continually thank him for giving me a working body, a family (be it mad), a job, good health, a house etc. A bit of peace and happiness at home is all I have asked for over the last few years but it does not seem like it is happening. If you guys lived next door to these 2 families, I doubt you would be as relaxed. Just now, there have been 8 loud slams and my brother and sister are sleeping as they are tired and are fasting. I do wonder sometimes why Allah does not expose these hypocrites. When they come to the Masjid, it's all sweetness and innocence and mingling with the Imams/Aalims that come from abroad, yet when they are at home, they are probably worse than the nastiest chavvy no religion followers.

MUHAMMAD - you are correct about it seeming irrational. The thing is, I am a good Muslim and I try my best to follow everything by the book. Zakat is something very important to me and my family, so it is somehing I pay extra attention to. However, you are right when you say I follow the small things with devotion yet are happy to turn away from that very religion. Turning my back on Islam is more of a last resort. It's not something I work up one day and thought I would do. By no means am I perfect - I don't have a beard, sometimes I wear jeans which are below my ankle, I am judgemental but I do try and follow Islam as a good Muslim should.

Anyway, that's besides the point, I could write a whole 500 page essay, but this thread was simply to ask if I could carry on posting if I was no longer a Muslim. So thank you very much for that.

 

[Scimitar]

The Qur'an is special; we should not under-estimate the virtue of reciting it. It is a blessed Book, the Words of our Creator, a healing for what is in the breasts, a guidance and mercy for the believers... even if someone doesn't understand it, there is still much to be gained by reciting it. But of course, reading it with meaning and contemplation will have even more of an effect on one's heart.

I agree with you, and regret my previous statement now... how could I overlook such a thing

 

[Muhammad]

Nobody is perfect, akhee. But how can you consider turning away from Islam simply out of frustration? How will distancing yourself from Allaah :swt: and giving up hope help in bringing about any relief to your problems? This is not a last resort at all... it is the biggest mistake of your life.

but this thread was simply to ask if I could carry on posting if I was no longer a Muslim.

You shouldn't be asking such things in the first place!

 

[Berries'forest]

I am coping well, alhamdulilah. Masha'Allah, you're very lucky that you're a hafiz. I wish I can become one too someday. Try to forget about your neighbors and what they do. Just ignore them I know it's hard at first but it will get easier. And don't lose hope in Allah.

 

[hisnameiszzz]

Nobody is perfect, akhee. But how can you consider turning away from Islam simply out of frustration? How will distancing yourself from Allaah :swt: and giving up hope help in bringing about any relief to your problems? This is not a last resort at all... it is the biggest mistake of your life.

At this moment in time, it feels like I am praying to no one. My prayers don't get answered at all. Now if it was a pre-requisite of Islam that you have nasty Muslim neighbours who will make your life hell who also have a lot of happiness too, then I would carry on as I am.

It is probably the biggest mistake of my life, but enough is enough and I am at breaking point.

Uncle SCIMI gee said we all have different levels of tolerance. I have reached my tolerance and don't wish to be tested anymore. My Mom and my sister, on the other hand has the patience of a saint. They have been next to these awful neighbours all their lives and they continuously tell me that Islam tells us to be patient, but I no longer agree with them. 7 years of annoyance is far too much for me.

An analogy, be it crap, if I may. If you were working for an employer who had terms and conditions that needed to be followed to maintain you job. Say you had a colleague that did not follow a single term and condition yet their work life was simple and they never got sacked. However, you were constantly **** on from great heights even though you followed all the rules. Would you carry on talking to your manager in 1 2 1's even though nothing ever happened or would you start looking for other jobs?

That is how I feel. Like I said, I am not perfect but by jove, I am following almost all of the terms and conditions of being a Muslim, I think it's about time something went right for me. I've been making the same dua for 7 years now, I think that is a lot of patience. I don't even want an apology, I just want this non stop harrassment to stop. Just yesterday, there was a bayaan in our local Masjid, where the lovely Aalim was talking about Huquqool Ibad. Both sets of nasty neighbours were there and part of me was thinking, finally, my dua has been accepted and they will listen and stop. But no, it obviously went in one ear and out the others, it was just wishful thinking on my part. They were back to their usual selves this morning / afternoon / evening. I give up!

I am coping well, alhamdulilah. Masha'Allah, you're very lucky that you're a hafiz. I wish I can become one too someday. Try to forget about your neighbors and what they do. Just ignore them I know it's hard at first but it will get easier. And don't lose hope in Allah.

Salaams. You go for it then. Do they have Hafiz classes where you are? Just one word of warning, remember you will have to keep it memorised for the rest of your life. It's a shame we were never told of this when we started memorising aged 8. I genuinely thought it was just an exercise where you memorised it, go the certificate and that was it.

Have a great Eid by the way.

 

[Hulk]

Help me understand this brother. For seven years you prayed for your neighbour to stop harassing you?

 

[Scimitar]

Indeed brother Hulk,

A better dua would be:

O Allah,
Give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;

O Allah,
Grant me the courage to change the things I can change;

O Allah,
Give me the wisdom, to know the difference between these two,

O Allah,
Grant me the patience to seek you in every action, and be the rock upon which the best foundations are laid

Ameen

A dua such as this does not victimise oneself, nor does it blame another for their shortcoming - instead, it arms us up with the intention to do the right thing according to the will of Allah, to accept, to live, and to let live - as well to gain a higher wisdom so as not to keep feeling victimised - instead to learn to see things in a better light - one that benefits in spite of hardship.

A Muslim is patient - it is one of our core traits - to be patient.