My question was not answered ; instead, you appear to get on the defensive by showing concern where I got my information. My question is wouldn't it have been better to tell the husbands not to beat their wives at all to avoid any risk of abuse? Believe me I have seen and heard the abuse some Muslim woman are going through. Plz just answer my question.
Your question was perfectly answered. It is just that you do not wish to see sense. I showed concern because it is clear you are not being truthful about where you got such information from. No Muslim would say such a thing. Much of what you state regarding Islam seems to come from anti Islamic websites. You should at least be honest about these things as it would show that you have some sincerety.
The answer to your question is that no it would not have been better at all. If the wife committs indecency or becomes rebellious against her husband then only in exceptional circumstances and as a last resort when all else has failed is it is permissable for the husband to lightly strike her but it is forbidden to cause her any injury, similar to the proper disciplining of a child. It is never lawful for him to strike her face or cause her any bruise or injury. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said regarding this:
"So beware of Allah regarding women for you have taken them as a trust from Allah and you have made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have the right over them that they should not allow anyone on your furnishings who you dislike. If they do that, hit them in a way which causes no injury. And, they have the right over you to provision and clothing according to custom." (Bukhari & Muslim)
A tap with a toothpick type twig. I am sorry, but this makes no sense to me. How is that worse than witholding the marriage bed especially for the man. The man has more to lose if he has one wife. He is punishing himself more for what the wife did wrong. What if the man is wrong in the marriage relationship? What does the man get beaten with? My question was simple, and it didn't get answered. The Bible teaches not to beat your wife in any fashion or form; in fact, it states that we shouild love our wives like Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it. We are taught to lay down our lives for our wives! This really helps prevent abuse.
"Hitting" is the very last option after everything has been tried. So if a person has gone about the matter in the proper manner then they would never need to resort to the last option. The Ptophet Muhammad (Pbuh) never hit nor shouted at any of his wives. But every situation is different. But even then hitting is subject to the condition that it should not be harsh or cause injury.
Al-Hasan al-Basri said: this means that it should not cause pain.
‘Ata’(Ra) said: I said to Ibn ‘Abbaas, what is the kind of hitting that is not harsh? He said, Hitting with a siwaak and the like. [A siwaak is a small stick or twig used for cleaning the teeth - Translator]
The purpose behind this is not to hurt or humiliate the woman, rather it is intended to make her realize that she has transgressed against her husband’s rights, and that her husband has the right to set her straight and discipline her.
Also one must keep in mind that hitting the wife is ONLY if she is doing something very wrong and you have already tried to speak to her about it, and that has failed, AND you have abandoned her bed and that has failed, ONLY then is it permissible to hit her lightly, as a last resort.
In no way does Islam allow men to hit out at their wives in a moment of anger, to take out their frustration on them or simply because he felt like it, as some people wrongly claim. As Muslims we must protect the sanctity of our religion and also it is upon us to protect women from abusive husbands - we therefore must be very assertive in establishing the fact that NO, Islam does not in anyway way allow a man to abuse his wife!
As I have already mentioned the last resort can only be used in the correct manner (not to inflict injury) & in rare and exceptional circumstances when all else has failed as long as he has done everything in the correct manner and taken all necessery steps to correct her.
I do agree that some people do twist the rules to suit themselves but that can be applied to many rules and regulations which are twisted by people who use it to their advantage to someone elses disadvantage. That is obviously unjust and wrong and such people will be punished by God for every soul shall get their recompanse from every atom of injustice they have experienced in their lives in this world.
It is a fact that our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) never hit nor did he even ever shout at any of his wives or servants. He was the best towards his wives and was the perfect example for mankind. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) stated:
"The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife" (Hadith - Muslim, #3466)
So a Muslim must be the best towards his wife and must never hurt nor injure her whether mentally nor physically.