cannot STAND the guy... pure HATRED..

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

Sis, thats really sad. That gives you no right to say ANYTHING. I'm sorry but its low, and the fact that none if it seems to be getting through to you. As Muslims, thats not how we should behave. The fact is that he never ever said anything to you before and is now bugging you, shows how much it hurt the guy. People have different ways of responding to behavior like that. It won't matter what he thinks of you afterwards, but that Allah will be proud of you. If you don't want to apologize, well then you should have thought about this before. It is easier said than done, but it's the best thing you can do. I don't like the idea of people being gay BUT it doesn't mean I will laugh at it. It's really kind of sickening to me that your laughing about it at all, rather than try to make an effort. And the fact that you want to still beat him up? How will that make things any better? Trust me, you'll feel much better after you apologize InshaAllah . Before you make fun of the way people walk or dress or act, always look at what you yourself are doing. All that is nothing compared to you and your friend laughing at him when he did nothing to you. I don't want to sound mean but you have to face the reality of what you and your friend did

 

[anonymous]

Salaams,

Thank you for your advice sister. I was joking when I said he might be gay, :X. I have nothing against gay people, its their life, if thats the way they want to live, so be it.

I know it was my fault, point is, I stopped. I dont think it was even him who said it yesterday I think it was his mate. Who is no longer at col. Hence why he thinks he can get away with it. But he isnt going to. what will probably happen is, I wont see them for a while, then ill forget.

Until the next time.

Which is why I want them to know, they better watch their mouth. Im not scared of them. I would have the guts to punch them all one by one. Honestly. When I get wound up theres no stopping me. Which is why I am asking for your advvice.

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

Ok sis, no harm done InshaAllah. All you need to do is apologize to him. If he still continues to bug you, then he's being a fruit lol. Anyways, InshaAllah I hope you do whats right and that it ends Stronger is the person who controls his/her anger. Fighting someone doesn't mean your stronger cause thats taking the easy way out. The challenge is in controlling your anger, cause we know its tough.

 

[anonymous]

No way am I apologising to him. NOOOO way! None of them.

 

[FatimaAsSideqah]

As Salaam Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

The Qur'an teaches love [not hate] and concern for humankind irrespective of their faith choice.

More than 200 verses in the Qur'an address all humankind, not just Muslims [e.g. 4:1; 49:13]. It teaches acceptance of others' right to choose their faith, condemns compulsion in religion and accepts plurality of humankind [though not plurality in ultimate truths].

However, part of our being human is also that we make mistakes. Sometime, we make mistakes without deliberation and intention. But sometime we knowingly and deliberately sin and do wrong to others. As human beings we are responsible, but we do also make mistakes and we are constantly in need of forgiveness. Islam speaks about two aspects of forgiveness: a) Allah’s forgiveness; b) Human forgiveness. We need both, because we do wrong in our relations to Allah as well as in our relations to each other.

 

[anonymous]

Jazakallah sis xx

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

Sis, your asking for advice but not taking any of it. Rest is up to you. I'm done here cause I feel like I'm repeating myself...=/

 

[*Hana*]

Yup Jazzy, I absolutely agree. It's a waste of time. Why this person is asking for advice and not heeding it is beyond me. Every single person gave the same advice, but she still tries to justify it.

Seems our young sister thinks it's ok to humiliate someone but when she decides to stop, that should be the end of it. And it's ok to humiliate because someone dresses differently. So, should I also I assume she defends or agrees with the non-muslim that verbally abuses her sisters for dressing differently? There's no difference here, and one is just as wrong as the other.

If you dish it out, be prepared to take or remain silent.

As the saying goes: Words are like weapons...they wound. And you see first hand how deeply they can cut.

Inshallah, you'll understand the seriousness of what you did one day and have the courage to admit you were wrong and apologize.

Wasalam,
Hana

 

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:salamext:

If you continue to be so stuck up that ur not apologising to him, then there's nothing left to say is there? :-\

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Salaams,

Thank you for your advice sister. I was joking when I said he might be gay, :X. I have nothing against gay people, its their life, if thats the way they want to live, so be it. .

even tho its haram n we should find it sick and disturbing? :S


you DO find it sick and disturbing right?!



plz tell me ur not a gay lover/supporter :enough!::skeleton:

 

[Abdul Fattah]

Point is, I started it but I also ended it by ot even acknowledging that he exists anymore. It took me four years to notice this guy, hes hardly gods gift to women, not like I even would give him a second glance.

You didn't end it at all. Ignoring something doesn't make it go away. And just because you stopped, doesn't mean you no longer need to apologies. What you did was wrong, apologies are required. It's as simple as that.

I know I was to blame. Hence why I left it. But if theyw ant to start it all up again, BRING.IT.ON.

That doesn't make sense at all, as far as they know it never ended in the first place.

Come on guys. This guy wears SKINNY jeans. And co-ordinates like a girl. And hes apparently a MODEL. Which I found out like 8 months later. And I am sure hes gay. Lol.

None of that justifies it.

Oh one last advice:
When you hate someone, know that maybe Allah subhana wa ta'ala might love him. Maybe at some point in his life this guy will read the Qur'an and convert to Islam? Can you be certain that won't happen? Oh and think about this. What if in the afterlife he is questioned for being a non-muslim, and he replies: "well, I figured Islam couldn't be right since muslimas treathed me so badly. Rather then sharing the gift of Islamic knowledge with me, they simply mocked me for the way I walked and the close I was wearing." Who do you think will be questioned next, then?

 

[Ebtisweetsam]

Anyway please can I digress slightly, because I am on the verge of getting confused. We seem to have two individuals posting as anonymous on this thread and I have trouble separating who is who.

Please could the forum rules be changed that if someone wants to remain anonymous that they take on the name of a flower, or bird or something else.
It becomes more complicated for me when ‘anonymous’ appears in different threads.

God bless and thanks for all your good work here.

Eric

:thumbs_up I agree with Erico-dude... guys got a point big time... Im so confused with all these anony's... its makin me go nuts working out who is who!:rollseyes<<<<<<< by the way, why is the roll eyes emoticon a frozen looking thing?

 

[anonymous]

Salaams,original poster again.

I came on here for advice. Not to be judged. Stuck up?? Why? Please explain whoever had the nerve to say that.

Another point: The guy is not a non muslim, who said that??:?:?:? Hes muslim

And ok, say i was to apologise. The next time I will notice him, will probably be when he makes another snidy remark. And when I am in a position where I cant respond. How would you go about apologising in this situation, you tell me, go on. go on.

 

[Snowflake]

Calm down sis.... There's a saying that goes; it's not what you do, it's the way that you do it.

You have two options
1) Choose a time when the guy is alone and simply tell him that you want to say something. Of course your manner shouldn't be intimidating, or he will think you're going to say something nasty and run off. So try to look a lil remorseful inshaAllah. Then say 'bismillah...' in your heart/under your breath and tell him that you were wrong to make fun of him and feel bad it's got to this. Then with as much grace and sincerity as you can muster, simply say "I'm really sorry." And mean it!


2) If you can't say it to his face, or feel he won't react kindly, then write it down (same words as above) and send it to him. Hopefully without a chance of a confrontation ruining the whole affair, he will dwell on it and accept your apology.

No brother/sister in Islam who loves you for the sake of Allah, wants you to go creating problems for yourself because of your behavior. I request you sister, please think about how your behavior as a muslimah should be. And please don't walk on this earth with pride and think you are above apologizing, especially when you are at fault. The grave is constantly calling out to those with warnings who walk the earth with pride.

 

[Fishman]

People laugh at me like that all the time (mainly little kids in year 9), and I've gone crazy and whacked them a few time as well. It is horrible and cruel that people bully like this. I have very little confidence at school now and I am prejudiced against eveybody younger than me. If he hates you you have nobody to blame but yourself.

 

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:salamext:

I came on here for advice. Not to be judged. Stuck up?? Why? Please explain whoever had the nerve to say that.

I said it. You laugh at a guy and expect him not to respond?! You're getting a taste of your own medicine sis. Accept it or apologise.

 

[Abdul Fattah]

Salaams,original poster again.
Another point: The guy is not a non muslim, who said that??:?:?:? Hes muslim

I didn't say he is muslim, said he could become muslim in the future.

And ok, say i was to apologise. The next time I will notice him, will probably be when he makes another snidy remark. And when I am in a position where I cant respond. How would you go about apologising in this situation, you tell me, go on. go on.

Well just tell him you're sorry for what happened in the past and would prefer to end this. Does it matter wheter he just gave you a remark or not? I guess it would sting a bit to have to suck up one's pride in such a situation, but just remember how you got in the mess in the first place.

 

[anonymous]

:salamext:



I said it. You laugh at a guy and expect him not to respond?! You're getting a taste of your own medicine sis. Accept it or apologise.

Well maybe you should think twice before you make comments like that next time. Im anything but stuck up. In fact, Im really wound up that you said that. Maybe you should think about apologising 2 ME for your actions too since you advised me to do the same.

 

[anonymous]

I didn't say he is muslim, said he could become muslim in the future.

Bro he IS a muslim !!

Well just tell him you're sorry for what happened in the past and would prefer to end this. Does it matter wheter he just gave you a remark or not? I guess it would sting a bit to have to suck up one's pride in such a situation, but just remember how you got in the mess in the first place.

Im not stuck up as someone suggested but I can be v.v.v. stubborn and THATS what Im being in this situation. HE owes ME an apology. I went to his work place today to look for him he wasnt there. Just as well. Because ... lets not go there.

 

[anonymous]

If he hates you you have nobody to blame but yourself.

I sincerely, could.not.care.LESS. what this guy thinks of me.