cannot STAND the guy... pure HATRED..

[anonymous]

Calm down sis.... There's a saying that goes; it's not what you do, it's the way that you do it.

You have two options
1) Choose a time when the guy is alone and simply tell him that you want to say something. Of course your manner shouldn't be intimidating, or he will think you're going to say something nasty and run off. So try to look a lil remorseful inshaAllah. Then say 'bismillah...' in your heart/under your breath and tell him that you were wrong to make fun of him and feel bad it's got to this. Then with as much grace and sincerity as you can muster, simply say "I'm really sorry." And mean it!


2) If you can't say it to his face, or feel he won't react kindly, then write it down (same words as above) and send it to him. Hopefully without a chance of a confrontation ruining the whole affair, he will dwell on it and accept your apology.

No brother/sister in Islam who loves you for the sake of Allah, wants you to go creating problems for yourself because of your behavior. I request you sister, please think about how your behavior as a muslimah should be. And please don't walk on this earth with pride and think you are above apologizing, especially when you are at fault. The grave is constantly calling out to those with warnings who walk the earth with pride.

Thank you sis, much appreciated

 

[glo]

Im not stuck up as someone suggested but I can be v.v.v. stubborn and THATS what Im being in this situation. HE owes ME an apology. I went to his work place today to look for him he wasnt there. Just as well. Because ... lets not go there.

Just think, sis. If you apologise to him, he may just apologise back to you.

Somebody has to take the first step, you know. And it will take the more courageous and gracious one to do it! Do you have what it takes?

Peace

 

[anonymous]

Yup Jazzy, I absolutely agree. It's a waste of time. Why this person is asking for advice and not heeding it is beyond me. Every single person gave the same advice, but she still tries to justify it.

Seems our young sister thinks it's ok to humiliate someone but when she decides to stop, that should be the end of it. And it's ok to humiliate because someone dresses differently. So, should I also I assume she defends or agrees with the non-muslim that verbally abuses her sisters for dressing differently? There's no difference here, and one is just as wrong as the other.

That was a bit harsh sis. You cannot compare this situation with the mocking of the hijaab. Of course If anyone laughed at me for wearing a hijaab if I was to wear one, I would seriously ....... you can imagine .

 

[anonymous]

Just think, sis. If you apologise to him, he may just apologise back to you.

Somebody has to take the first step, you know. And it will take the more courageous and gracious one to do it! Do you have what it takes?

Peace

I actually approached one of his mates and asked him to ask this guy to aplogise to me AGES AGO, and he said he would not do that. So. Honestly. I hate him so bad. Even though I dont even think it was him who said it the other day. Come on- isnt that way out of order, to say something to me when Im with my MUM. I would not have got this angry if it was in any other situation in which caes I would have sorted it out there and then.

 

[anonymous]

AHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHHAHAHAHA THIS THREAD HILARIOUS!!! AAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAH.

LOLLLLLLLLL

Ok sorry. Why u laugh at dis guy 4? AHAHAAHHAH actuali, i get wat u mean sum guys jus dress so funny lolll

Anyways why u lettin dis guy gt 2 ya 4, chill out, dnt let him kno o think that hes gettin 2 ya. Is he fit is he fit Lollll. if he is ill sort him out 4 ya AHAHAHa

 

[glo]

I actually approached one of his mates and asked him to ask this guy to aplogise to me AGES AGO, and he said he would not do that. So. Honestly. I hate him so bad. Even though I dont even think it was him who said it the other day. Come on- isnt that way out of order, to say something to me when Im with my MUM. I would not have got this angry if it was in any other situation in which caes I would have sorted it out there and then.

You are missing my point, anon.
The point was that you should consider taking the first step ... by being the first to apologise - not ask him to apologise to you.

You know, often doing the right things is not about thinking 'What's in it for me?' or 'Is it fair?'.
Perhaps you should do the right thing for one reason only - that you know it is the right thing to do!

But really, this isn't about us telling you what to do.
You should follow your own conscience.
Take some time to pray and seek God's guidance in this.
Search your own heart.

You make me smile, little sis, because I hear your passion and your youth in your posts.
May God love you, keep you and guide you always! :statisfie

Peace

 

[anonymous]

You make me smile, little sis, because I hear your passion and your youth in your posts.
May God love you, keep you and guide you always! :statisfie

Peace

:statisfieLol. Thank you Im actully pretty ashamed of my actions when I hear some words of wisdom from elders like yourself.

 

[glo]

:statisfieLol. Thank you Im actully pretty ashamed of my actions when I hear some words of wisdom from elders like yourself.

When you are as old as me, you get to pass on advice to the younger generation too ... whether they want to hear it or not! :giggling:
(One of the few perks of getting older)

Anyway, I don't know how old you are, sis, but I am sure you are old enough to make your own decisions.
Let us know how things go with you. Or PM me, if you like.

Salaam

 

[anonymous]

Thank you sis. Im 17 :-[

 

[Souljette]

I'm 17 too but sis c'mmon ur lettin anger get to u...in evrythng ur thinkin of a defensive way..why are u gettin defensive???? U know u did sumthing wrong but you just don't want to accept it..that's the vibe i'm getting..When you are accepting it you don't want to take responsibility for it?? im not understandin dis..why are you askin him to apologize to u..this culd b done long time ago bt since it hasn't can u end it already...just tell him my bad i dint mean to hurt in any way ..jst didnt' realize how far dis wuld go..nd i hpe u realize this too ...nd trst me he gnna understand if u act humble nd mean the apology

 

[anonymous]

Hes a ******* with a massive head and a massive ego, somehow I dont think thats ^^ the way it will go

 

[Abdul Fattah]

Bro he IS a muslim !!

Even more reasons to apologize. Next time you see him tell him you fear Allah and wish to make peace.

HE owes ME an apology.

you can't force people to apologize. If they don't do it, then make peace with that and move on. The only thing you should worry about is not wheter you received every apology that you have coming, but rather whether you made every apology that you own to someone else.

"It is not permitted for a Muslim to be estranged from his brother (in Islam) for more than 3 days, whilst turning away their head when they meet. The best among them is he who first greets the other." (muslim and bukhari)

"The doors of paradise are open on monday and thursday, and every servant (of Allah) who places no partner along his side, will be forgiven, except for the man who holds a grudge against his brother. It is said: "Wait for those two, until they have reconciled, wait for those two, until they have reconciled, wait for those two, until they have reconciled. (Muslim)

 

[------]

Well maybe you should think twice before you make comments like that next time. Im anything but stuck up. In fact, Im really wound up that you said that. Maybe you should think about apologising 2 ME for your actions too since you advised me to do the same.

See? u can never admit ur rong.

 

[anonymous]

Even more reasons to apologize. Next time you see him tell him you fear Allah and wish to make peace.

He would LAUGH in my face, considering I am not the most practising of girls.

Plus, he walks away whenever I want to confront him. EDITED by Al Habeshi. FOR SWEARING!

 

[anonymous]

See? u can never admit ur rong.

Come again? Wring in what way? Wrong because I said I am not stuck up but your right because you said I am?If you cant offer advice, then dont bother posting on this thread. Because you are making me angry.

 

[------]

:salamext:

Sis I offered advice. U have to apologise and admit ur rong. Otherwise, u are getting wht u deserve.

And calm down, too much anger aint good .. :mmokay:

 

[anonymous]

Yo yoooooooooo sis next tym u seee him jus start singin to him...''Dont luk at me like dat mahi... dont luk at me like dat Boi'' AHAHAHAHAHHAHAHH datll teach him. AHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAH.

 

[Ali.]

Come again? Wring in what way? Wrong because I said I am not stuck up but your right because you said I am?If you cant offer advice, then dont bother posting on this thread. Because you are making me angry.

Sis' it appears to me that you get angry too easily, try to control it .

Whoever angers you, conquers you

Elizabeth Kenny

Even if angering you wasn't an aim.

 

[Umar001]

Am Closing This As Its Run Its Course>