...been so long...had feelings for someone...just cant seem to move on from them...too many memories... :exhausted too much love for them...it hurts...i dont know anymore...sometimes i get so angry all over again...:-[why...ive never asked allah for anything in worldly matters apart from that person...yet i cant get him...i dont know...this pain is going to kill me...if allah can do anything he wants then why cant i be with that person...:? why cant allah make him good for me and my deen and my aakhirah and let us get married, and make us a way to jannah for each other...i dont know...
I'm so sorry your going through a hard time sister. Please take my advice, be patient and have faith in Allah.
Let me tell you something. Early last year I was going through exactly the same as you. I wanted to be with someone who just wasn't ment for me. I used to cry day in day out, I felt hopeless, I felt like no one could help me. I didn't want to live without him, he was my everything.
I prayed as much as I could, I had faith in Allah, I wasn't very patient, but you know what? I learnt to be patient because there was nothing else I could do. It was out of my hands. I left my affairs to Allah and I put my trust in Allah alone.
Right now, you probably don't want to get over him, you just want him to be yours for life right?
Believe that this is happening for a reason and you won't know what that reason is until later. Be patient, what else can you do? It is out of your control, have faith, and pray as much as you can. Everything will be fine. Things will get better.
Here I am, over a year later, totally over him. I am so much happier now then I was back then. It's all about patience and putting your trust in Allah. I got over him and it does take time, but I got there in the end.
There is light at the end of the tunnel. After night comes day, after your pain there will be ease.
You know something, I never knew as much as I know now about Islam. I never used to pray as much as I do now, I hardly had faith when things went wrong. I believe we go through trials and tribulations because they bring us closer to Allah.
We hardly remember Allah when we are happy do we? When we are sad, who do we turn to? Allah makes us go through difficult times to remind us He is there and to make us stronger.
Since the heartache I went through, I am so much closer to Allah, Alhumdulilah. Now when I look back, I am glad I went through it. I wouldn't know as much as I know now and I wouldn't have learnt as much as I've learned over the past year or so.
Just remember, Allah is always there for you. Just ask for anything you like and He will either give you something better, give you what you want, or He will reward you in hereafter.
It is Ramazan, what better time to ask?
InshahAllah I will remember you in my Duas. Have faith sister and everything will be fine.
