Coping with Depression, stress and anger

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Re: unappreciated

Takumi said:
Maybe they do, but they don't have the skills to communicate that appreciation to you.

Maybe you are a kind of person who want verbal acknowledgement, that's fine. That's unique to you.

If you are working in a company, try to verbally appreciate someone else's work by verbally appreciating them.

Verbal communication is a learned trait. No one is born to communicate effectively. Sometimes, we just need to gather enough courage to say it, even though the other party does not reciprocate.

Try learning these phrases and use them.

(1) I really like the way you...
(2) I believe you did a great job on....
(3) Thank you so much for your help, I don't know how I'd do it without your help..
(4) I don't know how you do it, you seem to know when I needed help the most, thanks.
(5) JazakAllahu khairan, may Allah find this deed of yours on the day of judgment and reward you tremendously
(6) I'm so glad that we are working together. It really makes a difference

You see, positive communication is contagious. It creates positive vibe among us.

Usually, due to cultural dogma, effective communication is hindered by shyness and maybe the lack of know how.

For people to appreciate you, you need to start with your appreciating others. I know that you're doing that already, be patient and insha Allah, your kindness and thoughtfulness will be reciprocated.

If not by your colleagues, friends or family, most definitely by the One who has inspired that kindness in your soul. :)
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JAZAKALLAH a great encouragment!
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

AOA

Don't worry, remember if Allah swt brings you to it, he will help you through it!
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

ABDULLAH SAOOD said:
Assalamo-alaikum-warahmatullahi-wabrakatu

Sorry to hear you are depressed Sis...........a big Shaykh in Medina once told me that if you are ever depressed read the tafseer of the quran.........inshallah, inshallah you will no longer be depressed.

Abdullah
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Tafseer?

Read a good translation of the Quran. :)
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

I've suffered with depression for about five years. I've been in counseling, on medication, and read too many self help books. The only thing that works for me is to concentrate on other people, those less fortunate. This makes me feel greatful, and takes my mind off my own "problems". I also recommend volunteer work, and of course a lot of prayer.
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

renak said:
I've suffered with depression for about five years. I've been in counseling, on medication, and read too many self help books. The only thing that works for me is to concentrate on other people, those less fortunate. This makes me feel greatful, and takes my mind off my own "problems". I also recommend volunteer work, and of course a lot of prayer.
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Ahh! I don't think that thinking about the unfortunate people in the world will help many people. I am all for volunteer work and prayer.

But I think that having a meaningful relationship with someone (and I do not mean sex) is what cures most people of depression, especially depression in the teen years.

That aside, there are things you can do. Exercise is good for depression. So take up regular running or swimming or something. Diet can affect your mood so watch what you eat carefully and see how you feel for the next day or two. Some foods may trigger mood shifts. Sleep regularly and well. Being tired is often a trigger too. Drink more coffee. Caffeine clearly has an effect on depression and drinking it can cure or it can make worse, so be careful. Some people find a cup or two of coffee a day is enough to relieve all the symptoms as long as they get their coffee. And more sun shine is not a bad thing either. Getting a tan does lift peoples' moods apparently. This may be a problem for Muslim women who cover up.
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

I think that focussing on other people, and not obsessing about yourself takes your mind off many of your problems.
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

depression is a very bad desease. not only for the person who's going through it but for everyone around that person too. because seeing a person u love so much just get depressed over nothing in particular... even cry sometimes, its just the worst feeling one could ever get. at least i think so. my mother suffers with depression whenever the season changes... and it's hard to see her like tht, even though she's had depression since before i was born...
 
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08101990 said:
depression is a very bad desease. not only for the person who's going through it but for everyone around that person too. because seeing a person u love so much just get depressed over nothing in particular... even cry sometimes, its just the worst feeling one could ever get. at least i think so. my mother suffers with depression whenever the season changes... and it's hard to see her like tht, even though she's had depression since before i was born...
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THAT IS SO TRU BRO....:happy:


TAKE CARE
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

A muslim to another muslim is like a body. When one part is hurt (head-ache), the whole body feels the pain. The other parts (i.e.) hands (walk to the doctors), mouth (speak to the doctor) etc. will help each other out.
All for one, one for all.

...Muhammad :shade:
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

oh what a relief!!! I thought people were still replying to the original post.. cuz that was from september 2005 .. inshaAllah the sister stopped feeling depressed yonks ago :happy:
 
Re: I'm depressed!!!

Asalamualaikum
We all get depressed now and again, rememba that ALLAH (swt) is always there for us in times of sadness, depression, darkness, hapiness and so on. As brother Mhd_ibn_Mhd sed the ummah is like the body if one area is hurting so will the rest of the body. Neva fear as ALLAH (swt) is always there
 
Re: unappreciated

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Takumi said:
Try learning these phrases and use them.

(1) I really like the way you...
(2) I believe you did a great job on....
(3) Thank you so much for your help, I don't know how I'd do it without your help..
(4) I don't know how you do it, you seem to know when I needed help the most, thanks.
(5) JazakAllahu khairan, may Allah find this deed of yours on the day of judgment and reward you tremendously
(6) I'm so glad that we are working together. It really makes a difference
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Those sound like halal chat-up lines. mind if I use em? :p

Listen to Takumi - he knows what he's on about.
 
Re: unappreciated

Salaam

One thing you need to realise, you should do everything for the sake of allah whats someones gratitude gonna get ya, by doing things for the sake of allah you'll recieve reward.
 
Re: unappreciated

Salaam

Brother, I know how you must feel to not be appreciated. But think about this - Allah gives us life, feeds us, clothes us, gives us families etc etc - and more often than not, people are unthankful to Him most of the time. Unthankful to Allah, the greatest.
So, how is it that you think they will be thankful to you?

I hope you understand what I mean. Just think that this life is temporary - and any good you do - do it for the sake of Allah and not to gain the appreciation of those around you.

Peace
 
Re: unappreciated

i hope this copy-paste material helps..

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.. forgive them anyway
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish motives... be kind anyway
If you are successful, you'll win some false friends, and some true enemies.. succeed anyway
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight... build anyway
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous... be happy anyway
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.. be good anyway
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough... give them the best you have anyway
You see.. in the final analysis.. it's between you and Allah,
It never was between you and them anyway!
 

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