Coping with Depression, stress and anger

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Re: achieved nothing in life

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its best to have a postive attitude..never give up hope..trust in Allah and 100% your situtation will change for the better..if you continue to worry unnecessarily that will only be harmful to yourself.May ease your hardships and give you ease ameen.
 
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so, indeed with every hardship there's ease. surely, with every hardship there's ease.
 
Re: achieved nothing in life

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I've felt like that. And I'm pretty sure this is all brought on by a lack of effort on your part. Sorry to be frank, but whatever you haven't achieved, its a result of your own laziness. I'm speaking from experience. Nothing in this world that worth having comes easy. Complaining on this board, while you may gain advice from it, its not going to ultimately help you become a hafiz, and whatever else you want. You control your own destiny, you have free will, let your choices be in your best interest. Work hard for your goal, put the effort, and reap the benefits. And if you don't achieve EVERYTHING you want, at least you can say you've tried, and noone can ask anything more of you.

Just work hard! Impossible is nothing
 
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Way back when I was just a toddler, Somebody, I think it was my Grandfather, took me to the horse trough and had me stick my hand in the water. He then told me that no matter how big a person's hand may become, we will all leave the same size hole in the water.

I spent most of my life trying to prove he was wrong and my intent was to leave a gigantic noticable hole.

It took me my lifetime to discover, that no matter what my actions and achievement were, they would be no more important or earth shaking then the actions of any other persons.

Doing good is of equal value, when we do it with full intent and without desire for recognition. We each have something good to contribute and it is only important we do the best according to our abilities.

We are not going to be judged on the goals we have accomplished, we are going to be judged on how and why we accomplished those goals.

Some people that seemingly have done nothing, may be the very people that did the most.

Don't try to measure the value of what you or others accomplish by the size of a hole left in a bucket of water.
 
Re: achieved nothing in life

brother how about volunteering..? ever tried that? I'm sure you'll get great benefit from that :)
 
Re: achieved nothing in life

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can people help me achieve my goals? a small plan, as i am having difficulty seeing how i will achieve everything. i'm a student of 16, want to become a haffiz, aaalim, and perhaps even mufti, but also i want to become something like a doctor, or engineer or work in scientific research.

i live in the uk

any rough help would be good
 
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anonymous said:
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can people help me achieve my goals? a small plan, as i am having difficulty seeing how i will achieve everything. i'm a student of 16, want to become a haffiz, aaalim, and perhaps even mufti, but also i want to become something like a doctor, or engineer or work in scientific research.

i live in the uk

any rough help would be good
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The most difficult thing to do is establish real goals. Nearly everybody I have ever met did not have any true goals, they just had what they thought other people told them were goals. Starnge thing is at a very early age about say the year before we started talk, was the first time we had a real goal. We had only one goal and that was to be comfortable. We did not need any possessions, we just needed to be warm, fed, kept dry, and held.

Within a very short time we saw things we wanted then we began having material goals, we wanted to possess everything we saw and could touch. In fact we believed everything was our possession. then we had just one goal, to retain possession of our possessions.

Then as we were exposed to more of the world, our goal was to physicaly do things. We wanted to do things that were fun, brought joy and were able to hold our interest.

It seems that most people stagnate and grow no further in goals. They learn to measure success in possessions. The excitement of there lives etc.

Now, they reach the idea of a goal becoming a status symbol, a title or impression, proof of ability. Never knowing that there is more and sometimes more requires less.

Getting back to you. As old fashioned as this may sound. The best guide for learning a bonafide goal is to Make Du'a about it. Allah(swt) knows exactly what is the best goal for you. Make Du'a and look for answers along these lines, what do you like, what things do you excell at, what are your true needs. Identify them. Then ask Allah to guide you in future choices that can fullfill these things.

People don't like to believe that prayer workd, it seems too simple. But, it is the best and most powerfull force we will experience.
 
Re: achieved nothing in life

anonymous said:
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first of all i've done nothing in islamic education, tried hifz, gave it up
second, i'm not great at sport, always wanted to be a football, never got there, never will
thirdly, in college education doing average, not excelling, not enough to get the best jobs that I want
fourth, i've done not much in terms of praying salaah and things

all in all, I've lived all these years, nothing to show for it, nothing working out.

sucks to be me....
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hmmmmmmmm sounds like me a bit
 
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I wonder exactly what is meant by achievement? I wonder if it can be held onto if attained. I know it is not anything material.

I worked basicaly my entire life, retired, thought I had achieved all I ever needed. House all paid for, a nice farm to settle back on, even my own fishing pond. Then 3 years ago my wife died. Two years ago I lost every possession I owned. I was homeless with no more then the clothes I was wearing.

I still own nothing except for my self respect and my love for Allah(swt). I believe this is the first time in my life I have truly achieved anything.
 
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anonymous said:
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first of all i've done nothing in islamic education, tried hifz, gave it up
second, i'm not great at sport, always wanted to be a football, never got there, never will
thirdly, in college education doing average, not excelling, not enough to get the best jobs that I want
fourth, i've done not much in terms of praying salaah and things

all in all, I've lived all these years, nothing to show for it, nothing working out.

sucks to be me....
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salaam! all in all i bet theres people around you who wish they were in your shoes :) dont be so harsh on yourself!! no pain, no gain! have faith in Allah swt and c'mon be determined man :thumbs_up
ws
 
Re: achieved nothing in life

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reminds me of a hadith i heard
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once Syedna Moosa ( Kalimullah) ASWS was on his way to speak to Almighty Allah SWT and on his way he met a man with a question for him asking him to ask of allah that the almighty has given him a lot of wealth and it is more that he can handle and then another man with just a leaf around his waste he asked Moosa ASWS to ask allah why he was in that shape of life.
so after the conversation with allah he asked the 2 q?s
Allah said to the 1st man say to stop as-sukr ( being thankful ) for the wealth and it will stop, to the man with the leaf he asked him to say alhamuillah. moosa gave the answer on his way down to the 1st and then he went on the meet the second and asked him to be thankful towards Allah , the man said Yjamkfull ? for what? for this leaf?
then there blew a wind and took away the leaf too.

what we learn from the above is to be thankfull no matter ..i repeat NO MATTER WHAT towards Allah in any condition and as difficult it may sound to u now but trust allah and u will find peace. INSHALLAH

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Re: achieved nothing in life

anonymous said:
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first of all i've done nothing in islamic education, tried hifz, gave it up
second, i'm not great at sport, always wanted to be a football, never got there, never will
thirdly, in college education doing average, not excelling, not enough to get the best jobs that I want
fourth, i've done not much in terms of praying salaah and things

all in all, I've lived all these years, nothing to show for it, nothing working out.

sucks to be me....
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Salam Anonymous,

Are you sure you have nothing to show for all these years you've lived? : )

You don't know that Anonymous. Small/big acts of kindness that you may have shown towards others, may be worth much more in Allah's eyes than things you could've done to show the world. Something you said or did, may have had such a positive influence on someone's life that it had changed for the better.

You havent frittered away time aimlessly. You haven't lost opportunities. You've tried to do what you could as best as your capabilities allowed. How can you say you havent achieved nothing? You've tried. That alone is an admirable quality. And that is more than can be said for many many people out there.

Above all, you haven't let life pass by without asking yourself what you've achieved. It's never too late. Like every other person you have your strengths and weaknesses. You just have to find yourself Anon. Hopefully you will find something you are better at than others. And you will achieve what you set out to do. Because you're not of one them people who give up without even having tried. See how good that is?

Sometimes Anon. we achieve something not by doing something. Like not hurting others, not backbiting, not intending to cause harm and malice, not falling into other sins. By not doing these things we're achieving so much inshaAllah. So don't worry Anon, if you don't end up with big house, a fancy car or a huge salary. As long as you earn/provide halal rizak and do your best to live your life as Allah wants, you will have achieved much much more than those who possess these things inshaAllah. Continue trying to pray salah and fulfilling other obligatory duties. Do you know there is so much reward even in trying to do something for the sake of Allah?

So chin up Anon! All will be well inshaAllah.

wa'salam.
 
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inshallah i hope Allah SWT guides you and helps you in your deen. the only thing i would worry about first is the salat, work on the salat and everything else will become easier. i dont want to lecture you because most of us have issues in our deen but from what i read that is the main issue. take care inshallah may allah SWT reward you.......
 
Re: achieved nothing in life

anonymous said:
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first of all i've done nothing in islamic education, tried hifz, gave it up
second, i'm not great at sport, always wanted to be a football, never got there, never will
thirdly, in college education doing average, not excelling, not enough to get the best jobs that I want
fourth, i've done not much in terms of praying salaah and things

all in all, I've lived all these years, nothing to show for it, nothing working out.

sucks to be me....
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Bro -hafidhakallah- Dont burden your self too much. Clean your heart, dont get jealous to what another people have.
Dont you hear what ulama said: "we should see who is below us if talking about dunya, and we should see someone above us if talking about akheerah". What does it means? It means if you see someone who have a happier life than you, then dont get jealous to what they get. Hey...everybody have their own livelihood, their own fortune right. It will just make you more and more jealous and sometimes it will bring you to sins. But you should see that there are still so many person whose life are below us. If you ever done hifz, then a lot of muslims who are careless about their hifz and even they dont care that they cant read Quran, then that means youre luckier than them. And if you cant do sport well, then you should see that those people who dont have legs to do sport. And if you got average in your college then you are lucky cause a lot of people want to study in a college but they dont have money. Or maybe dropped out from the college cause some mistakes and ended in missery. So you are still luckier than them. And about salah, still youre so so lucky masha Allah cause a lot of people who claim that theyre muslims but they dont do salah anymore, and dont have attention about it, astaghfirullah. They just dont know that by leaving salah wajib even once that can make them kafeer. Cause Rasulullah said: "a line taht separate muslims and kafeer is salah, so whoever leave salah then they be kafeer". So youre so so lucky bro cause you still have attention to make your salah. And no no youre not forced to do alll of the salah except 5 times salah right cause its wajeeb. Just do the wajeeb salah first, 5 times, and istiqomah and sabr while doing it. And step by step you can add it with salah sunnah if you feel like it. If we can do this, seeing below us for our dunya bussiness then we will always be someone who always thankfull to our Lord, Allah subhanahu wa Ta'ala. And you will say "actually there are a lot of people who is not as lucky as me, masha Allah". And if we talk about akheerat then we should see them, who have passed away since the companions salafus shalih, and then the peple after them, and then the scholars. learn from their biography, how was their spirit seeking knowledge. How was their spirit in jihad. How was tyheir spirit in doing sunnah of Rasulullah. How was their spirit to wake up all night to pray qiyamul lail, and then you will tell your self " I want to be like them. Where am I if compared with them?", so it will make us have more spirit to do more ibadah. And to do more ibadah need knowledge of course right, so it will encourage us also to seek knowledge more. And bro...we are created just to worship Allah, and leave everything that guide us to something beside Allah. We life not to show off. And the successfull not seen from the wealth we have, and not seen from our appearances, not seen from our degree, but our success will be seen by the end of our life, will it be in husnul khatimah or su'ul khatimah. And if you can die in husnul khatimah then you will considered SUCCESS :brother: . Cause this life is just short and just will ended up into two places, heaven or hell. No other third. And these are advices if you want to die in husnul khatimah:
1. Dont you ever do syirk, small syirk or big syirk.
2. Dont you ever leave salah wajib.
3. Obey your parents and never talk louder to them.
4. Seek knowledge cause Rasulullah said "seeking knowledge is a must for every muslims". Cause by seeking good knowledge (this knowledge is knowledge about Islam and not about knowledge of dunya) we can separate which is tauhid and which is syirk, and which is sunnah and which is bid'ah, which is haq and which is batil.
5. Leave something that can waste your time: too much playing games, fooling around with friends, hearing music and its haram for muslim to hear music, cause Rasulullah said: "there will be one of my people who will allow zina, khamr and music". And Ibn Qoyyim said music can bring munafiqun to our heart, and make us to busy to remember Allah. And it can bring su'ul khatimah. Theres some story of suul khatimah of some people whose hobby is listening music. Wal iyadhubillah.
6. Avoid maksiyat as best as you can, and low your gaze to women.
7. Gathering with good friends, salihin wa muttaqien. And especially ahlul ilmi.
 
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im stressing, upset,anoyed and need someone to talk too

:grumbling Dose any one know a site were i can ask any questions and get good answers from people upon quran and sunnah only.
 

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